Well I dont know if he is MOM or DAD, but he goes around with a bear and dog and keeps referring to them as Babies. I am pregnant and due to have baby any day now. Is he reenacting ME or something? He even puts them in bed and tell me to be quiet because the ''babies sleep''.
2007-11-08 23:02:31 · 18 answers · asked by cms 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Absolutely not.
He's emulating what he sees.
A lot of people wonder why their toddler boys don't play cops and robbers, cowboys and indians, soldiers, or some other "boy" games. The fact is, especially if you are a stay-at-home mom, your son does not see rough-and-tumble testosterone-saturated activities all day. He sees at least one adult nurturing a child all day.
That's a GOOD thing.
Let's say you should worry about the fact that your toddler son plays "mommy" (or "daddy"). What exactly would there be to WORRY about? That he's learning to be nurturing and caring? That he's affectionate? That he's picking up on the fact that he'll need to be understanding that when the baby sleeps, he'll need to shush?
If it's that he's imagining two stuffed animals are his "babies", or that he talks to inanimate objects, it's imagination, and it's a good thing.
If you're worried because these are typical "girl" behaviors, rest assured, they aren't. It doesn't mean he will grow up to not realize he's a boy or anything like that. Even if, after the baby comes, he tries to "breastfeed" a stuffed animal or something, that isn't anything to worry about, because he isn't old enough to even HAVE gender identity yet. That doesn't come along for another year or two.
Worry if he starts regressing developmentally, if he becomes violent or suddenly extremely fearful, etc.
Don't worry over this. You have enough on your plate without worrying over whether your son's completely normal, in fact GOOD, activities are indications that something is wrong.
2007-11-09 00:15:37 · answer #1 · answered by CrazyChick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's learning, and playing. It doesn't matter if he's a mommy or a daddy. He sees different things mommys and daddys do and picks which one he wants to be. He is going to be trying to do things you do, especially with one due anyday. It's normal for him, and it's a way of learning, and shows he has an imagination. It's great. He's also trying to learn to help when mommy has a new baby I'm sure. Let him do what he's doing. He's not hurting anyone and he's being creative. I'm sure it'll be fine once he sees how things really go, but there's nothing wrong with him copying you or anyone esle he sees.
2007-11-09 01:44:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its fine and perfectly normal especially if you are pregnant. Maybe you could get him a little boy baby doll to give him as a present when you have your new baby, and a bottle and blanket for it. That way when you're playing mommy with your new little one he can play daddy with his and not feel left out. Just say things to him like "uh-oh daddy, your baby is crying" to give him the father role of it. Its no different than a father caring for a real baby, it doesn't make him gay. I'm sure he'll still play with "boy" toys as well. Good Luck
2007-11-09 02:45:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-28 21:31:40 · answer #4 · answered by woodell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A this age, they do not understand gender differences, he probably understands that mommy puts him to bed and takes care of him etc... So this is why he is reenacting you, nothing to be worried about and not at all serious.
hth
2007-11-08 23:23:44 · answer #5 · answered by rich c 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my son did the SAME THING!!! He would even tell me that he had a baby in his tummy... he was 2 while I was pregnant... he would find a teddy bear and play "mommy" with it... it was kinda funny in the beginning and then after a while kind of started to worry me... the day I had my daughter, the pretend "pregnancy" that my son had stopped... he then took teddy bears and would "breastfeed" them... once I stopped nursing, he did too... then he fed his teddy bear with bottles with pretend "water" in them... he watches EVERYTHING you do and wants to be just like you! You are his ideal!!!! He will grow out of it
2007-11-09 06:41:03 · answer #6 · answered by Megan M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing unusual about his behavior. He is just pretending to be a caretaker like you or daddy. You can say to him out loud, "Oh your pretending to be a daddy." And play along with him. Even if he pretends to be mommy its ok because thats what he sees all day is you taking care of you. I wouldn't worry. I think its cute!
2007-11-09 01:21:31 · answer #7 · answered by liliana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have nothing to worry about. He's emulating what he sees, and what he sees is you taking care of him, and preparing him for the new baby, so of course this concept is new so he is going to play baby and practice. It's perfectly fine.
2007-11-08 23:28:47 · answer #8 · answered by Zyggy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are his "GOD" right now. Everything happening in his world revolves around YOU. He is somewhat anxious of the new addition to the family and plus he admires you in his toddler way. Don't we all wish at times that our children would emulate us (parents) more? He loves you and your partner and just wants to keep himself in the "eye" of attention, while these new changes are taking place.
2007-11-08 23:34:53 · answer #9 · answered by wag35 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is playing. Children don't have hang ups about what is 'male' or 'female'. It's only adults that do and who pass that thinking on to their children. Let him play. Who cares if he is playing as a mother. I think it is sweet that he is putting his 'babies' to bed ;)
2007-11-08 23:11:47 · answer #10 · answered by sydney77 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋