My boyfriend of over one year lost his job a month ago. He is on unemployment and seems OK with it. I, on the other hand, am freaking out about it. We have fought when I've tried to offer suggestions on where he can apply or asked him questions about it and he says he doesn't need the criticism, just my support. I understand that but a woman needs SECURITY too. I am now trying to be supportive and keep my mouth shut but I still don't feel that he is putting forth the effort to find a job. He is supposed to move in with me in a few months but I can't let him if he doesn't have a job. I am getting resentful for paying for stuff most of the time when we are out. So - we're not going out anymore because I don't want to pay anymore - he should be picking up his fair share. At what point is it ok for me to say something again and then - what do I say to express my concerns?
2007-11-08 21:24:59 · 4 answers · asked by WShay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ybe he is not lazy, just depressed because he was layed off from a job he loved. be supportive and help him find a new job.
2007-11-09 02:11:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This sounds all too familiar, i lived with my ex for over a year we were together for two and a half. He lost his job right when we moved in together. After that year I told him he had to move out because I was sick of paying for everything and it was like he didn't even want to try and get a job. What's funny is we still keep in touch, been broken up for about 2 years and he's still not working!!! let him go hun, if he cared and wanted a future with you he'd be doing whatever he could to make it happen.
2007-11-09 07:01:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That really depends on why he doesn't want to look for work. Was he burned by the last job or is he being lazy? Creating motivation in him is the key, and knowing what her feels is crucial to helping him find his way.
2007-11-09 05:29:03 · answer #3 · answered by Steve C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he doesnt want to discuss it with you he doesnt respect you....or your feelings...flat out ask him if he plans on getting a job anytime soon...if he says no then tell him that you don't intend on paying for him while he sits on his ass and does nothing...definitely stand up for yourself if he says yes ask him if there is anyway you can help him ( typing cv etc) and tell him that you cannot afford to support both of you on the current budget and will have to cut down on expenses until he is employed
2007-11-09 05:32:42 · answer #4 · answered by skippa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋