Her first reaction . . "she didn't seem to care" should be an indicator to you that she is not interested.
When someone shows no excitement or joy or commitment about being invited to your wedding then you are wasting your time and effort by inviting them. Maybe she doesn't have the money to buy a new dress or a wedding gift and maybe she has other interests or priorities in her life now.
Answered by: A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant
2007-11-08 22:51:19
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answered by Avis B 6
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It depends on why you drifted apart. Maybe she is feeling like you sort of snubbed her in the past and are only inviting her because of a sense of nostalgia, obligation, or even because you wanted another gift. Not saying I think this, I don't know you, but maybe she is actually thinking that. Hope not, but if it has been so long, she may have those cynical thoughts.
It also can be something completely different. We had someone cancel at the last minute because a friend of hers had died and she didn't think she could face the joy of a wedding. Another friend of mine came even though she was in the middle of a nasty divorce, and she was miserable. If you really want to know, talk to her in person. It is sometimes hard to tell things over the phone. If you are uncomfortable with it, just send out the invite and see what happens.
2007-11-10 20:58:20
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answered by PixdeeArtist 4
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Am I understanding right? You asked to call at someone's home out of the blue, with not warning, and were told it was inconvient to see you that night but she hoped you'd deliver the invitation by mail. Is this correct?
Sounds to me like you are confusing seperate issues. One issue is that she wasn't prepared to see, or even have a lengthy phone conversation with you, on such short notice. She has a life -- maybe she was neck deep in tasks that HAD to get done that night -- maybe she had a previous commitment, a sick child, a pounding headache, whatever. When we ask people "Can I come over at be a guest at your house like right now?" or even "Can you spare an hour or so to talk on the phone?" -- we should be prepared for a lot of "I'm sorry but you've caught me at a bad time" type answers.
The other issue is whether she's interested in coming to your wedding. If she accepts your invitation, she's interested. If she sends regrets it MAY mean that she doesn't care to renew the friendship, but it may also simply mean that she has problems and issues that prevent her from attending, issues to personal to discuss.
Don't drop this lady just because she can't attend your wedding. Send her a photo and tell her you're sorry she couldn't attend. Ask her to phone you some time when it's convenient for her to have a nice long newsy chat. Made 3 or 4 overtures before you write off an old friend as not wanting to be friends anymore.
2007-11-09 09:17:48
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answered by kill_yr_television 7
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You should send it out anyway.... People go though different phases in there life, right now im in a bit of a weird one where i only feel like socializing with particular people, and some of my bestests friends i am giving the cold sholder. I feel really bad about it but the truth is you should just be there for people even in the down times of your relationships.
You havent spoken to her in so long, she could have just been having a really rough night or you called at a bad time. Im sure when she comes to the wedding she will be very happy to see you and happy for you. If she does not show up though, then i would start to worry. But other than that i would just take it as a one off, dont take it to heart too much.
And, congrats on your wedding! :) I wish you all the best!
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2007-11-09 04:22:58
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answered by Anonymous
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Honestly she might be wondering why she is suddenly invited to your wedding when so much time has passed. Thats awkward for some people, because weddings are intimate affairs.
Clearly her friendship means something to you; thats why you invited her even though time has passed. Try not to feel offended by her response. Most likely she WAS busy that night and could not play host to you inviting yourself over out of the blue. Send the invitation. The ball will be in her court.
2007-11-09 09:31:22
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answered by fizzy stuff 7
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Sure, send the invite. You thought of her for a reason. People change hey & maybe she has, maybe she was just busy, maybe she was having a bad day. Go ahead & invite her, she might realise that this is a big thing for you once she has the invite in her hand, if she doesnt realise that & continues to act like she doesnt care, then I guess you will know where you stand at this point in time, give her a second chance :o)
2007-11-09 04:23:11
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answered by Mrs D 6
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Sometimes people have things on their minds, and come across as something different. You have to remember that people change, go through things that effect them and in a positive or negative way. If she is important to you don't give up on her, tell her how important her friendship is to you and that you would like her to be there at your wedding to share the happy day with her. Have you avoided contact until now when you are getting married?Might wanna stress the point that you miss her and wish to make new memories in the future since the old one mean so much to you.
2007-11-09 04:27:44
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answered by yessca333 2
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maybe,your friend was just in a bad mood the moment you called her..maybe she had a problem,which she thought wasn't necessary for her to tell you since you're about to get married then..you know, there can be a lot of valid reasons why she didn't seem to show any interest about the invitation..what if she really got something very crucial to do that she found it impossible to make it to the wedding..well, it's not like I'm on her side, but sometimes you do have to consider other people's feelings..know what i mean?..so,don't feel bad..im pretty sure she loved to see you walking down the church aisle and exchanging vows with your partner,..
2007-11-09 04:31:25
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answered by jahzeel T 1
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I'd send the invitation anyway but don't get your hopes up. she could have been having a really bad day. she might be ecstatic about your wedding. time will tell, but try to not let it affect your happiness.
2007-11-09 05:31:58
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answered by emmybob3 5
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She may have been having problems in her life that she did not feel close enough with you to share. When you don't see someone for a long time, things change in their lives. I would not take it personally. Just let it go.
2007-11-09 04:46:49
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answered by PEGGY S 7
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