hi am21 years old,i have 1and half years daughter and a husband but not wedded yet.Amalso planning to have another baby as i proceed with ma travel and tourism course so that after i give birth i can get enough time to work.He says we can weed when he is ready financially.He loves me so much thats why i decided to stay with him.He is 36 years old.Do you think its a nice idea
2007-11-08 18:35:26 · 9 answers · asked by josephine mideva 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Personally, I think you need to drop out of your travel and tourism class, and get into a remedial English class. Then we might have a clue what the heck you are talking about.
2007-11-08 18:39:17 · answer #1 · answered by ZCT 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You are not married yet, so that makes him your fiance, not your husband. I think you should not proceed with your plans with travel and the tourism course. What you should do is stay home and take care of your baby and the baby to come. You have babies to take care of and you should not to leave them with a stranger to raise them. They are yours to love and to nurture, not a strangers job.
I think he should marry you now instead of waiting. Why bring up babies into a relationship that is not husband and wife??
Plus, if he loves you so much, money shouldn't be the issue here. Not sure if this will ever work since he is way older than you. I don't know about that, you are way too young for him. Hope it works out if you two get married.
I would consider reading "10 Stupid Things Women Do To Mess Up Their Lives."
2007-11-08 18:52:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he has any intention of actually marrying you.
He will probably never be ready "financially" to marry you.
You are already providing the full services of a wife.
You have already taken away any impetus for him to actually marry you. Don't have a baby with him until her does.
Living together as a couple for "X-amount of time" makes you common-law married in most states... but with all of the risks and none of the benefits. You can be saddled with his debts. If he dies, you don't have the ability to collect the life insurance, and if he is on life support, you don't have the ability to pull the plug... yet they can hold you responsible for all the hospital bills.
Believe it or not, that little piece of paper (marriage certificate) provides a lot of protection for you. You can collect life insurance and social security benefits, and make all kinds of decisions on his behalf as a married wife.
2007-11-08 19:18:01 · answer #3 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say he loves you but nothing about how you feel for him he is 15 yrs older than you and whilst I know age gap relationships can work you do not sound commited
2007-11-08 18:40:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
absolutely not girl, he's way too old for you, are you going to love him when he's 50. theres a 15 yr age difference.by the time your 30 you'll have changed alot in your way of thinking,i don't think you'll love him anymore your young only once, don't give your youth to someone so much older
2007-11-08 18:45:43 · answer #5 · answered by Debbie L 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think it sounds like a great idea if it happens but it sounds like he's stalling. also, be married before you have another kid because if not, it'll take even longer to be "financially ready".
2007-11-08 19:50:08 · answer #6 · answered by laura1977 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Question is do you love him ? After that all falls into place in its own magic way
2007-11-08 18:52:01 · answer #7 · answered by Yoda 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm i have no idea what your talking about?
You don't have to be married in todays society, just be happy!
2007-11-08 18:40:41 · answer #8 · answered by PinkPotions 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
don't understand what your taling about! Too old for you!
2007-11-08 18:43:22 · answer #9 · answered by comelucky96 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋