they are 11 months apart . hes good with other kids younger than him but not her.i can say this he doesn't let others pic on her,as long as he can
2007-11-08 17:40:00 · 9 answers · asked by docsdreamlover 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
He's probably going through the typical older child syndrome. Being bossy and mean to his sister is just how older brothers are sometimes. Especially at that age. He will grow out of it eventually. But he won't know it's wrong to treat his sister like that if he's not punished for it. I don't want to tell people how to raise their kids but some kind of discipline has to be given here. If not you'll have a bigger problem on your hands.
I know it's not PC anymore, but sometimes a spanking is necessary and it gets the child's attention more than time out does. I'm not talking about abuse but a firm hand across a rump and the child will get the point.
2007-11-08 17:55:52 · answer #1 · answered by countrygirl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is a classic case of sibling rivalry. My two boys are 11 months apart and at time I felt it was world war 3. The younger had all the verbal and the older the fist but if some up set either of them out side the home they protected each other. I was at my wits end and just didn't know what to do. However it was over by the time they were 12 & 13. They are now 26 & 25 and the best of friends. They live opposit ends of the country but still speak to each other every other day. The main difference you have is the younger is a girl. Is she winding him up on the quiet knowing he is going to get into trouble for it?
2007-11-08 18:02:16 · answer #2 · answered by Dory 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lead by example. Unless it's really necessary, don't yell or punish the boy, instead tell him you're a little disappointed, then for 20 seconds or so, give sympathy and attention to his sister, asking her if she's ok etc. As you walk away, say nothing but give that slightly disappointed look to your son. Later, explain to him how his little sister is annoying because she loves him and wants to be with him but is too little to understand everything and he has to help by not getting annoyed, like the older, wiser brother that he is. Do stuff like go shopping with just the girl, buy her a treat, and ask if we should get one for her brother. Obviously convince her that it's a good idea that you should. When you get home, give the boy the treat explaining how you weren't going to buy it for him, but his sister insisted. Some time later, reverse the roles so the brother gets the sister something next time. Make it a habit for them to get each other stuff. On the girls birthday, get him a present as well, from the family for his role as big brother. This is a tradition in our household. They learn to experience joy in someone else's happiness.
2007-11-08 23:16:42 · answer #3 · answered by =42 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is called sibling rivalry. He loves his sister but her and him are vying for number one child status and probably always will. Sometimes it can get physical Growing up we had a family friend who would get out the first aid kit, give it to one of the kids and tell them to go in the back yard if they were going to fight. She didn't want blood on the carpet. She also didn't want to hear from them unless aretereies had been severed or bone was protruding through skin. Somehow they all managed to grow up become adults and be close.
2007-11-08 20:49:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chill
It is only natural for sibling to do that.
I have a brother and he used to pick on me a lot.
Just make sure you tell your son the right things.
Don't yell as much as you can, I guess.
Just be nice when you tell him from time to time
that he has to be nice to his sister too.
You have to make sure the sister's nice to him too because then he'll feel really unfair.
2007-11-08 17:56:35 · answer #5 · answered by tears at night 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a friends of mine did this to her younger sister until 13-14 y of age... ( 2 years diff) now he's 16 and gotten over that....
2007-11-08 20:38:19 · answer #6 · answered by Matei Stefan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the days of PC you cannot do what my parents and neighbors did in the 1960s
When I was bad got hit a lot.
Consider myself now to be nice, respectful and helpful to other. But my butt was kicked many times.
2007-11-08 17:47:43 · answer #7 · answered by Michael M 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Give them something fun that they can both play with at the same time...Like a video game or something...or a football or something...
2007-11-09 00:19:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its okay! sometimes there are rivals between how you trat each of them that he felt that way! just be fair on everything!
2007-11-08 19:15:14 · answer #9 · answered by jam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋