My mom and her siblings have been at war for a while now. It's a big long story that I'm not going to get into. My mom keeps my sister and I out of it, but still keeps us informed on what is going on. We still have alot of contact with our extended family. My mom sent me an email today, that my uncle sent to my grandfather about me. He was basically spreading lies about me, to my grandparents, about how I'm supposedly in an unhealthy relationship, and I'm a drug addict and a whore. My mother told me to not mention my knowledge of this email to any of my extended family. With the holidays coming up, how do I cope with a crazy family? I can't walk in all cheery, knowing that my uncle has poisoned my, and my boyfriend's name. Please help.
2007-11-08 17:21:27 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Uhh... all you really CAN do is show up all sparkling, clean and happy and exude all the best qualities. Talk about your good grades and extracurricular activities... all the good stuff! If your boyfriend is with you, all the better... have him dress in a nice button-down shirt, slacks and good shoes.
That will show everyone that your uncle is full of crap.
If someone pulls you to one side and repeats anything that your uncle has said, you have the perfect opportunity to spell things out... "Hey, open your eyes and really look at me! Do I look like an addict, and does he look like an abuser? Come on now! Get real! You wanna check my arms for track marks?"
All the B.S. talk in the world cannot overwhelm a good appearance. You gotta be your own best P.R.
2007-11-08 17:32:58 · answer #1 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I just have to *sigggghhhhh* reading this. No offense. I have some MAJOR issues with my extended family as well. I won't go into it, but all I can tell you is every gathering is uncomfortable, for a lot of us. I can't stand it. I just act like myself, and talk about other things. I refuse to get involved with the gossip and back stabbing. I was pulled in once, and it made it 100 times worse for me in the long run. I will not do it again. Just keep your head up, and don't let them bring you down. Pretty soon, they'll move one to the next target and forget all about your drug addicted whoreishness.
2007-11-08 18:24:58 · answer #2 · answered by munkees81 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, that's what you should do, unless you decide to stay away from them. Act cheerful as if you never knew about the lying email.
You can have extra fun by telling everybody how nice your uncle is, how much you like him, how he is so enjoyable to be around, and never says a bad word about anybody! Talk about how friendly he is with your boyfriend, and how well they get along.
You've got a crazy family, you might as well enjoy it.
2007-11-08 18:05:36 · answer #3 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not healthy to worry about what someone thinks or says about you, even though it might be family. The best thing to do is just to live on with your life normally, ignore what they say, or better yet tell your mom not keep you informed. Face it, these bad rumors may never end, so why give mind to them.
2007-11-08 17:39:58 · answer #4 · answered by ggutierrez86 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
id show up at the family gathering and be myself and show them that your uncle is wrong and is lying ... if you let it get to you or throw a fit they might just think your uncle is right .. good luck .
2007-11-08 17:45:02 · answer #5 · answered by autumn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have your own holiday with your boyfriend.
2007-11-08 17:49:37 · answer #6 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋