What's wrong with a guy living at home in his 20s?

Question

I am in my late twenties (28) and I love living at home with my parents and other adult siblings. My parents encourage us to stay at home and save money as long as we want to and have enough left over for fun stuff like nice cars and vacations etc. They tell us that as long as everyone gets along and respects each other, there is no need to move out. Living so close to where I work and go to school is also another reason to stay at home. My parents wouldn't dream of charging us rent or any other fees for living in our own house. You wouldn't believe the abuse that my parents and my siblings and I endure almost on a daily basis because people are clearly jealous of our living arrangements. Why else would people make snide remarks? Even girls I encounter claim that my living at home is a social impediment, not to mention a turn off to girls! I am responsible with my finances and I have a good relationship with my family and that is a turn off? What is this world coming to?

I'd like to start dating as I haven't had a girlfriend yet or even my first kiss! :-) However, it's a little discouraging to hear that my wise choices in life are actually a turn off. What do you think?

Answer 1

My parents wish their house was big enough for all their kids and grand kids. they would welcome it. However..........There is a reason you haven't had your first anything. Society has a way of labeling people, right or wrong. Some might call you a mooch, mommas boy amongst other things. What woman in her right mind would want to spend the night with you at your parents house. Seriously, think about it. I am in no way trying to insult or judge you. You can't live with your folks and have a productive social life. It just doesn't work that way. It would be a different story if you were divorced and had to move back home for a short while. Or if your parents were sick or something like that. Clearly you should be able to afford to live on your own and gain some pride and self respect. Spread your wings and fly.

Answer 2

Truth is, that if you have never lived apart from your parents at age 28, it is assumed to be "failure to launch" by society's standards.

The girls will not take you seriously because they think you haven't cut the umbilical cord, much less the apron strings. If they did get involved with you, they probably think that your parents would still run the whole show.

That you haven't had a dating relationship - - or a first kiss - - is an indicator. You need to expand your stomping grounds and meet some more people. If you have some interests or hobbies, see if there is a meetup group devoted to it in your area, or start a meetup group!

Answer 3

Can I first ask why u haven't had a kiss or sex yet at age 28?

Other than that there's nothing wrong with families combining expenses, to help each other out, especially in hard economic times. They are actually doing it a lot now a days. and not just the very poor, but the middle class too.. (who are now going broke)
But only if the family is close and can generally get along.

Answer 4

There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. Your parents are great for not charging you rent. I'm 20 and still stay with my parents, I do pay a small fee though cause they have done so much for me. Perhaps keep your "status" from girls till you know that the relationship is going somewhere, why spoil a good thing with details?

You should however thinking of getting a place of your own, at your age I wanna start thinking of marriage.

Answer 5

it has come to the age and time when kids move back in with the parents or siblings or even relatives. It's the new craze...lol...with all the high gasoline, apt. rent fees , etc. I heard on the news that people who are working have been staying at shelters for the homeless cause they can't afford to pay the rent. That is sad.
Two paychecks are better than one now. You and your partner both have to work to make a good living.

Answer 6

The reason why yopu haven`t had a girlfriend yet, it is not because you live with your parents. I mean when i lived with my elders, i had a girlfriend but now when i am single, i don`t have any, so the two facts do not have anything to do with each other!
There are people who disregards others who still stay with their families, but com on, do you live with those people or with your family, with whom, as you had written, had a great understanding relationship? Which is more important to you? What do other people think of you, or your family`s opinion?

Answer 7

are u afraid to live on your own or or you just a Mommy's boy? no woman would wanna go out with a 28 (almost 30) year old who lives with his parents and who would blame them. if you in a relationship u need space and privacy. maybe you parents are afraid to let go that's why they are encouraging you guys to stay. but since you got your finances sorted out i think that this will be a good time to go out and start a life all by yourself. dont you want a wife, kids, a place to call your own. well your probably not gonna get it living at home . am entitled to an opinion.

Answer 8

I still live with my parents, and I've had four girlfriends, going on five.

Just go out there and DATE.

The reason why (American) society looks down on living with your parents until the age of 30 is because it tends to discourage risk-taking, maturity and independence. Logically speaking, it makes a lot of sense (you save a lot of money). However, what you save in money you lose in experience.

Answer 9

My friend there is nothing wrong with living with people who love you the most and you feel confortable with them: your parents. you are lucky how many have such a great family. BUT this does notprevent you from seeing girls. beeing with your parents doens mean you are kind of immature or irresponsible... many men live alone and they are a big zero, losers. be confident. start meeting girls till you meet the girll of your dreams , then you will love to move and live together.

Answer 10

hey, looser get a job you lazy fok.