if im a loner, is that odd?

Question

i notice most people have friends or a social network that act as like a crutch or something, it seems as peoples lives revolve around relationships, in a social sense i mean. i dont have these values,i go drink alone, talk to girls alone, and work alone, even with studies i do it alone and have to figure the hard stuff out on my own. is this weird from most people

Answer 1

Unless you live in a cave somewhere in the mountains you will be considered part of a social group. Anyone you interact with (girls or otherwise) becomes part of that social group. The fact that you prefer to do things alone deviates from the norm because human beings are very social creatures (we have to be, otherwise how do we continue to thrive and reproduce?) but isn't weird in any case. Some people like to be alone, no big deal. If you actively avoid social situations and isolate yourself intentionally then you have some issues that are more psychological than weird.

Answer 2

Well, yes and no. Since you qualified your question with 'most people', yes it probably is. But I too, am a loner, and I don't find it so bad. I realize I am different, I accept that, and I take that into account. I really don't count it a bad thing though.

Being a loner usually means you have been hurt in the past, don't want to talk to others about yourself, especially since they always seem to want to talk about you and 'get to know you'. lol

When you are a loner that can seem very intrusive, and make you apprehensive... I mean, Jesus, after all I been through, I sure don't want to tell these people about it. right?

You aren't alone. Let me assure you, there are lots of people like you. Be strong, let things go as they may, and don't say 'No' to an invitation just because you're scared.

You'll find your way out of it sooner or later. Age helps, time heals all wounds.

Answer 3

A lot of people think that loners are weird and creepy, but people have their own reasons to be loners. I'm a loner mainly because i am social phobic and also because i feel freedom to do my own thing. The only bad thing about being a loner is missing out on having fun i suppose. I spend my weekends alone and am only socially active at work. I do feel really lonely even when with company.

Answer 4

Well, all I can say for sure is you're not alone.

I think that in most people's eyes it may seem a little abnormal, etc., but I think that everyone works differently, and what's suitable for one person may not be suitable for another.

But it's good to get with friends sometimes and socialize, you know simple things like watching a movie or exercising, etc. The thing is, sometimes you do need a friend to lean on, or you need a hand with something.

I'm the kind of guy who never answers his cell phone, and rarely uses it - I'd don't go out to parties and I'm not a drinker(of alcohol - I do drink mango juice whenever the occasion lends itself to doing so).

So, I'd say that you're OK in my book, just as long as you still have at least some modest level of social interactions.

Answer 5

Not me, I'm a loner too. I do have a small circle of friends. But thats all I need and want. Too many people freak me out. I'm the lonliest when I'm in a crowded room(doesn't matter if I know everyone or not). I'm totally fine by myself. Infact, I kinda prefer it. I do need some social interaction, that's where my small circle of friends come in. But we don't interact often(they're busy...so I don't want to bother....my thoughts, not theirs). I get on here, and ask and answer q's as I see fit, and I've made some friends on here, and many more seem to like my insights and q's. So it appears I have a social life on here, but I don't. Off the computer, I'm a total loner. I guess I feel safe on here...just not in the real world; and I'm TOTALLY OK with that...and so should u. IT's totally ok that ur a loner and prefer it that way. to each his/her own. Do whatever makes u happy as long as ur not hurting others.

Answer 6

Well you are different from the majority of the population but you are certainly not unique. If we have been somewhat of a loner from childhood I believe the tendency to be a loner progresses as we get older and we may even try to isolate our immediate family from the rest of society to a degree by refusing to go to social functions with them. It is kind of sad to be content being alone but a lot of us are that way with no real ill side effects. As long as you can tolerate the amount of mingling required to maintain a job and sustain your livelihood I suppose you can make it even if you are considered a tad odd by the majority.

Answer 7

I have a social network and lots of friends that I go out with, but I also like to go to dinner alone. I always studied alone. I like to be alone, and sometimes I turn down invitations to go out and do things with others to sit at home for some down time.

I don't think that my life or yours is odd. Some people are so obsessed with what other people are doing that they feel that they are lesser if they were not invited along. I have one friend in particular who tries to guilt me anytime I go do something with someone else and don't invite her. That is annoying.

Just like with everything else in life, there is a balance to be struck, but it really depends on the person. You are not odd.

Answer 8

I know the feeling AND the thought -- "Is this Me "? Am I normal?? -- This is my problem too AND heres what I think is the Cause: You are NOT hanging out with YOUR type of people. Take some time to Define in specifics WHAT qualities you are looking for in people. Then try to join a group that Projects those "Qualities". Also if you are quiet , then try to start being more open to people who seem good to get to know. Just be patient. You are NOT weird.

Answer 9

no you're not a loner.you have asked this question on a social networking site of millions of people. you are millions of times more social than people who have 10 or 12 friends. AND you are not weird at all, otherwise i wouldn't be answering your question in the first place. lol.

Answer 10

Not at all. I am a loner, as well. I kind of prefer it that way. I still have needs to have some kind of social interaction from day to day...but I don't depend on anyone but myself!