I am having this party tomorrow for my 16th bday. It's costing me out of my own savings. I invited some my friends, but hardly anyone responded. I was upset, because I have changed schools so many times and can never know any of them that well or that long.I come to dinner yesterday and my mom & dad are at the table. I'm telling bout the problem, (and it's not just the party, it's about life in general, ever since i came to my new school, ive been miserably depresed, and so have my other 2 friends,) I tell them about the whole thing, I start to break down and cry. My mom makes a half-*** attempt to care and comfort me, all which involves telling me im stupid. I keep crying because i still feel like crap. My dad threatens to leave the table.. So they throw me in & out the house at least3 times, when i get bak mom twists MY ARM and then i tell her that she had beter not ruin my party, that i payed 4, she hits me continually across the face ALOT realy hard, until i getaway is this normal?
2007-11-08 16:16:14 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Sounds like you need to learn some respect. Being 16 does not give you the right to be disrespectful. Nor have you outgrown having your mouth smacked for talking back. You are a child and you continually confirm that by mouthing off. Learn to shut up.
2007-11-08 18:51:01 · answer #1 · answered by MHnurseC 6 · 2⤊ 4⤋
I think that you should NEVER be hit PERIOD! Not by anyone..especially your parents! You have a right to express your feelings on how you feel about not having friends or being bounced around from school to school..You are a young woman..and your parents seem to be quite self absorbed.But you also need to respect them as well.If you become disrespectful in a conversation with them they will probably automatically get defensive and not hear a word you are saying. Not to say that that is any reason for your mother to repeatedly slap or hit you or throw you out of your house. I had similar issues ..VERY similar as a young woman. I actually ended up in a foster home at 15 because of my mothers inability to keep her hands from doing the taking when she was angry with me. Never is it a proper resolution to hit your child! That is my belief! I would deffinatly speak with someone about it.It is a scary thing to have to do..but someday it may not just be a few slaps. I am so sorry that you have to deal with things like that . But just know that you are going to be an adult soon and you can choose what is best for yourself. But also remember when you yourself become a mother how bad it hurts to be treated that way. So you don't do that to your own children. And if you end up staying there with your parents..Just try to avoid any situations that may end up in a fight like that . It is not fair to you that you can not show the way you feel without being hurt in return but keep your head up. You do not have to live with that for much longer. Good Luck hun. And Happy Birthday!
2007-11-08 17:46:41 · answer #2 · answered by simplymel78 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
getting hit especially in the face is not normal or a good thing no matter how is from i read that alot of people wrote call child services you do that you might be worse off they will take yur family apart try to work it out with mom and dad between the three of you when thing come down but you still need to talk to someone you can trust child services get involve you can end up in a worser home maybe i sorry that you feel so bad it doesnt feel good to be feeling like crap and getting hit across your face believe i pretty much know how it feel think twice about child services you dont want to be ward of the court meaning that nobody has custody over you but the court and they can put you any where joining something positive for young girls do something that make you feel good about yourself
2007-11-08 16:51:27 · answer #3 · answered by music iz my life 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
That's called child abuse and you NEED to tell someone. A school counselor, protective services or even the police! Do this ASAP! NO ONE has the right to twist your arm or slap you in the face numerous times! You should also seek help for your depression.
2007-11-08 16:25:34 · answer #4 · answered by whata waste 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I agree that you need to call child protective services or talk to your counselor at school and they can direct you in the right direction to go with this. However you should not be sassy to your parents! No matter the situation they have no right to hit you repeatedly in the face or anywhere for that matter.
2007-11-08 16:27:33 · answer #5 · answered by kristilynn729 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like things are out of control with you and your parents. Get help. Talk to a school counselor, a crisis hot line , a police officer. Maybe your parents aren't too happy with the situation either. Counseling may help all of you learn how to support and love each other in spite of your struggles.
2007-11-08 16:23:50 · answer #6 · answered by lulusbuggy 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
lisa, it is not right. violence is not the key and no one on this planet deserves to be hit. NO ONE.
i dont think you've done anything wrong for them to be even upset, let alone hit you.
you are getting physically abused and you should let someone know. your teacher, police, someone with authority that will take care of this disturbing situation.
please do not tolerate beatings and verbal abuse as well.
your parents are not right at the way they are dealing with you.
dont be upset with yourself, be mature and deal with it responsibly.
tell someone right away.
2007-11-08 17:17:45 · answer #7 · answered by Kendi 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Not only is it not normal, it's probably criminal. Talk to a teacher or guidance counselor at school. NO kid should be hit really hard by parents. Period.
2007-11-08 17:22:20 · answer #8 · answered by Toodeemo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Lisa i really don't understand did they just start hitting you because you where complaining or telling how bad do you feel or you like...insulted them while doing so? i mean usually when you talk to them do you respect them or you express yourself with bad words? if the answer is you respect them, you never insult them, and they are so bad bad to you, i really beleive that you shoould report your problem to and authority. but you must be franc with yourself and your answers. cause rarely that parents reach these points without being already felt disrespected that they have no other choice.
2007-11-08 16:26:19 · answer #9 · answered by HANY E 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If this is truly happening, it's time to have a talk with someone... perhaps a guidance counselor. What is going on is very wrong.
2007-11-08 22:35:54 · answer #10 · answered by VB 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋