what's the point of having a child?

Question

I am thinking if I should have a kid or not. What's your reason? Why do you want to become a mother?

In contrast, why dont u want a kid?

Answer 1

Honestly. I never thought I would get married and have kids. No interest whatsoever. Not in a million years.
My ambition was to enter the monastery and write books and paint in solitude. No joke.
Life did a 180 on me, I got married under strange political circumstances, and boom, my daughter came. I lost everything I worked for, and can never go back. I'll have to work double to climb back the loooooong way round. And even though I don't know who the hell I am anymore, was it worth it?

Definitely. I learned some very important lessons about being human (and spiritually human) that I could only have learned by having children. I loved having a baby so much, that I just had to have another. And another. The baby smiles, the gurgles. the cuddles. It's great company. It makes me very happy that I can contribute one more compassionate, loving person to spread joy and peace into our world. I look at my three beautiful children and know they will grow up to do a lot of good, beautiful things. I may be tired and petulant sometimes (OK, often), but I am satisfied that it was meant to be. I look at my daughter and know that she is destiny in action.


BTW, to Mike: Whaaat??????

Answer 2

I felt like having a baby would complete my husband and my life. I guess like the icing on the cake (I know its kind of a selfish reason I guess...)... and I was right... its something you can't put into words...that is the only thing I can say is I just WANTED a baby. A woman has a biological clock ya know LOL!

But by no means does it mean that what worked for me, will work for you. You have to give up alot to be a parent... it changes your life and you cant decide, ok, this was fun, but Im done, take the baby back! But I think it is the greatest, most exhausting, challenging job in the world! Good luck.

Answer 3

Ensuring the survival of the species is the universal reason. On an individual level, that needs to be answered by the individual.

I chose not to have children for many reasons; one of which being that I had no desire to become pregnant. I also don't want to have to deal with our Nanny State government and the overwhelming societal pressures that seem to have stripped parents of any "rights to the self," as once you become a parent, the expectation is that you live and breathe for nothing more than your child. I had a desire for a more balanced life, one in which I could pursue personal goals. The idea of having a child and subjecting myself to the thoughts, opinions and social pressures of our highly superficial, overly competitive, paranoid society simply was not appealing. I see what parents have to live with every day and I don't envy them.

Biology was also on my side, as it turns out I probably couldn't conceive anyway.

Answer 4

I'm sort of wondering as well if I want children.

I'm 20 and no rush. I'd be an amazing mother but there's so much wrong in the world, such cruelty and this is now....think of in 20 years...it's not going to be a friendly place.

However I think I want to get married...again I still don't know since I'm young, but if I get married I'd like children. Whether is be adopting or biological I'm not sure.
I'm terrified of child birth.

I love children, I'm a teacher so I guess I'm at least in the right career.

It's a personal choice and people judge you if you have children and if you don't.

Answer 5

The point of procreating is to replace ourselves in the universe. As a young parent, turned single mom, turned step-parent, turned granny. I will say that having children was the best thing I ever did. Raising them was the toughest job I have ever had. If you like living in your own life experiences free of any restrictions. Children may be difficult for you. But I can tell you the experience of other children and having one of your own has a vast difference. Having children also give a purpose when you feel empty for whatever reason. Their needs don't stop just because your world did. You have to rise up and face whatever to be a good parent. It can be exhausting and exhilarating combined. For me, life would be an empty vessel without children in it. They laugh, love and experience life with all the gusto they can muster. So should we all.

Answer 6

If you love someone enough and you know you'll be with them forever, I would think that you would want an ever-lasting bond. A child is that, plus so much more! If you are not a parent yet, just wait til you have one! There's nothing like it. No matter how much you THINK you will love him/her....you have no idea how much you actually will! It's amazing! The way you feel for that child as soon as you find out your pregnant and the first time you see them! Unbelievable!

Answer 7

the best thing about having a child is that you teach them about the world and growing up and stuff, but they also turn around and teach you alot of the same stuff, which is unexpected. you also get to help contribute something wonderful to society, a new person may mean a new doctor or police man/woman or firefighter. and it forces you to think about someone other than yourself. it makes you grow up in life and become more responcible and have a more stable life because you have to in order to raise healthy children.
some reasons not to have kids? would be that you HAVE to think about someone other than yourself (which is hard for all of us sometimes), having kids is expencive(just the birth itself is expencive and it goes on from there), its hard to be patient with kids all the time but you HAVE to be, you also have a responcibility to take better care of yourself- because if you arent around the child would have lost a parent which hurts the child and you have to protect that child from being hurt. and you always have to have a plan b- its not responcible to "wing it" anymore.

Answer 8

To me, having babies, a kinfolk of my own, became the logical next step in my relationship with my husband. life could be sort of empty once you get to the element the place you're with the guy you ought to spend something of your life with, yet then you quite do no longer something yet paintings and locate exciting new the right thank you to spend your money. i did no longer realize it earlier having childrens, yet I take exhilaration in now that I do have them how plenty they have taught me approximately myself, approximately individuals, approximately being selfless, and approximately how plenty life has to furnish in case you embody it. babies can deliver a feeling of stability and continuity to life that wasn't there as a unmarried or married with out babies man or woman. finally, the money you spend on them does not remember a lick. some issues are only previous putting a cost tag on. there are maximum of little issues that they provide you over the years that are infinitely extra efficient than what you're transforming into spent that money on. And, confident, you do could coach all of them kinds of issues. I evaluate it area of my contribution to society to advance babies who're trouble-free, sensible, respectful, form to others, and all of those kinds of issues that make the worldwide extra helpful, whether it incredibly is only on a small scale. it incredibly is stupid on your mothers and fathers and others to choose you on your contemporary opinion, in spite of the undeniable fact that. don't experience which you're able to be protective approximately it; it incredibly is not some thing all people desires to do, and that doesn't unavoidably mirror negatively on you.

Answer 9

When you have your children you'll know why you had them. There is no exact reason why someone has a child, besides being part of life and our purpose, there is no other specific reason to give. They just come a complete your life, they drive you nuts, but at the end of the day it's just all worth it.

Answer 10

Well Im almost certain I want one or maybe two. First because of natural maternal urges I cant explain (I am a very independant person though)Im curious to what it would feel like to look at a man or woman who grew inside of me.Second because everyone has their own unique style of raising their children I would like to do it my way. 3rd because it would be the mix (atleast genetically)of me and the man I
love.
I would not have a child if I wasnt in a stable position to raise them ie happy relationship, enough money , knowledge.