Scenario: Me and my bestfriend hav been friends since grade 6. Were now in grade 11. Lately shes been a bi-tch frankly. She "couldn't find me" at fireworks, she "thought it would be awkward" if I came to a Halloween party. I dont understand. She used to love me and she always wanted me to hang out with her. We go to different schools but somehow things arent working. Shes kind of a superficial person but I thought that by grade 11 the whole popularity thing was supposed to be dying down. Is she worth keeping? Or should she go in the bin?
2007-11-08 15:34:49 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your "friend" obviously has a different set of standards, and perhaps it is time for you to make new friends. You don't have to toss out these old friends... you just don't have to limit yourself to them. Expand your horizons.
At some point, you need to evaluate each relationship and ask, "What does this person bring to the table?" Is this person a mooch? A user? A manipulator? A drama-queen? A time-waster? Or is this person your cheering section? Provide insight? Make you laugh?
As you go down the list of traits and how each thing makes you feel, you will know who you should be spending more time with.
2007-11-08 17:46:52 · answer #1 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, first things first you need to make sure she recognizes how her behavior makes you feel. Just ask her if you have done something to upset her. Talking to her will make you realize if you have a misunderstanding, or if the friendship is not worth trying to salvage. By the way, the "popularity thing" doesn't die down in the 11th grade....it's only just begun for some.
2007-11-08 15:40:53 · answer #2 · answered by littleredbrainpower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People change, go in different directions. Maybe give her her space and find your own path. If you're true friends, you'll stay friends. In life, you'll get some friends and lose some friends. A lot of friends come and go... High school changes people drastically sometimes, so just give her her space. And if you're really gutsy, talk to her about what's going on in an unaccusing manner.
2007-11-08 15:45:26 · answer #3 · answered by johnstonluv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked her what her problem is? No one has the right to treat you wrong. Sometimes the older you get the further you grow apart, different wants, desires etc. It's not easy, but it's part of being friends. She may come back around.
2007-11-08 15:39:38 · answer #4 · answered by mamab 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By the time you're 22, virtually everyone you knew in HS will be but a memory so no point in dwelling on it now.
Move on, there's plenty of other people to be friendly and friends with.
Good luck.
2007-11-08 16:28:41 · answer #5 · answered by Tom C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yall just dont have alot in common anymore
2007-11-08 15:49:53 · answer #6 · answered by Don't take life 4 granted 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kill the bi-tch
2007-11-08 16:07:24 · answer #7 · answered by brownj218 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BIN
2007-11-08 15:52:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋