so im a foster child and i have been since i was 11 years old..i am currently 16 years old. i have lived in a group home and 3 different foster homes...
i have lived in the house i live in today for 3 years. i like living here for the most part...but sometimes iget treated a way i shouldnt be treated....i get yelled at.i get cussed out...i am basically treated like i am a nobody...i dont enjoy coming home from school...i use any excuse i can find just to leave the house earlier and to stay at school later....i hate coming home
this house is really ridiculous....my allowence is seriously 30 cents a day...i am not kidding my foster mom goes into my room and gives me 30 cents at night...and thats my allowence.
i just dont think that i should live in a place where i get treated this way...i can move any time i want but its a hard decision to make...ive lived here for 3 years and thats a long time..i just dont want to start a whole new life...can someone help me please?
2007-11-08 15:33:02 · 6 answers · asked by jess 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i work a part time job at a pizza place
i work 4 days a week but my foster mom has total control over my money, i cant spend any of it...i know that some people dont even get allowence but as a foster chld, the government gives us 40 dollars a month and she is only giving us about 10 dollars of it..and thats unfair because i still have contact with my parents and they are the ones who pay the court so that all that money can go to us, and they pay way too much money for us not even to get any of it, i also get 50 dollars a month to buy clothes but i never get new clothes.
im not a bad kid i have mostly as and bs at school, i clean, i cook for myself, she really hasnt taught me anything aobut life ....my real parents have...(i lived with them until i was 11)..all she has taught me is that even the people who are supposed to protect you are the peole who hurt you the most...
2007-11-10 17:29:23 · update #1
Well, the grass isn't always greener on the other side. And as teenagers, it's always hard to get along with the "authority" figure... I'd say talk to your counselor at school. I'm not sure finding another place would be the BEST answer because things aren't always better, like you'd hope them to be. As for your allowance, save it up...it sucks, but you have more than what some people have.
2007-11-08 15:48:49 · answer #1 · answered by johnstonluv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See if you can get placed in a different foster home? At least talk to the agency that placed you there.
It looks like you are going to be one of those self-made people! Right now, you can get a part-time job, or make your own little gig. The malls are hiring holiday help right now.
I know kids that created their own gigs by doing something as simple as charging a flat fee for picking up the doggy-poo from people's yards twice a week... 10 houses at $6 to $10 a week can be good money. The trick is to get your chores at home done, and keep your studies/grades up so you don't get in trouble.
You only have two years before you are 18, so make the best of them. Save your money so that when you are 18 you can get out of there and have money to put down on a deposit for a small apartment, or buy yourself a scooter to get around on.
Talk to your school's guidance counselor about furthering your education... what programs are available for an orphan to go to a community college? You may be able to start filling out the forms now to get some grant money coming in.
2007-11-09 02:08:13 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sixteen is a really important age and time in your life and you deserve to be happy. Some foster parents are better with the younger kids. I would look to finding a place that has great experience with teenagers.
It might be hard to start with but it sounds like you are a strong and capable person. You can do this and it could make a huge difference in your life. Go for it!
2007-11-08 23:48:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you make a choice...ask yourself these questions. Do your foster parents teach you things that will help you as an adult ie. how to pay bills, how to get a job, cooking, cleaning, etc.? Do your foster parents cuss at you because you cussed at them or are they just abusive? Do your foster parents endanger your safety by hitting you, doing drugs, etc.? Do your foster parents protect you by giving you curfews, homework requirements, etc.? If they are not providing for you, then you should move out. You only have about two years to be a capable adult. It is best for you to have foster parents who will show you how to be independent so you can live a happy adulthood.
2007-11-08 23:58:52 · answer #4 · answered by Thinkaboutit 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most kids your age don't get an allowance - they work part-time after school and on weekends. If you want to get out of the house and have money - get yourself a part-time job and both of your problems will be solved....
2007-11-09 00:05:48 · answer #5 · answered by Dina K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry that your having a hard time living with your foster parents. just wait two more years and than u can move out and live on your own.. here my email address if u need a friend!! efrain78223@yahoo.com
2007-11-08 23:40:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋