My boyfriend has stopped calling me & hasn't replied to my texts....But see him online....What's he playing @?

Question

This guy has been acting like a bastard. I don't know if you can see why?!......After a great, interesting conversation we had nearly 2 weeks ago, I texted him saying "If you knew I wasn't sleeping with anyone else, would you stop sleeping around?" This question was asked cuz we're having an open relationship with living 1 1/2 hours away from each other. The question was aimed at finding out where I stood, I didn't get a reply. And hour later, I texted saying "I guess you don't give a **** either way". Still no reply. A few days later, saw him on MSN messenger and said "Sorry bout those texts the other night" I didn't get a response. A few nights after that, I tried calling and got no answer, he didn't even bother calling back. The thing is tho, a few hours later when I was online, he came online - maybe it was to rub it in my face. I decided I had enough and texted him later on that day saying "Have I done something wrong cuz tried calling earlier, if you're in love wit someone tell..

me and I'll be cool with it, just don't wanna play guessing games anymore. I didn't get a response again. I'm so fed up with him. I decided to block him from MSN messenger, but haven't deleted him, I see him online everynight still. I've stopped calling also. But I'm so frustrated and still have feelings for him. What's he playing at with letting me see him online?! And what can I do to make him chase me? I unblocked him one night whislt being online and he signed in, I made sure I signed out within 10mins. Was this ok?! please help!

I've known him for 3 years

Answer 1

Don't play games, you'll just get hurt. Talk to him directly about it face to face.

Answer 2

Your relationship for 3 years already should have been so strong enough that no one could destroy it. But it seems that it is already going to something disastrous, something of parting ways.

But let us try to analyze, after you had an interesting conversation for 1 1/2 hours, he did not bother answering your text, or online call, with no explanation what so ever. I am sure that your boyfriend is hiding something from you already before your conversation. It could be possible that he has some plans of quitting your relationship, maybe because, correct me if I'm wrong, he loves another girl.

My advice to you my friend, never think of doing something wrong just to make some revenge against him. If you do, you will just creating some trouble on your part that you will just regret it later on. Forget about him, removed him from heart and mind, erase him from your nerve, place everything that would remind you about him in the garbage can.

He is not for you, hope for the best and move on for your future. I know God will give you someone who will be sincere, honest, and will love and respect you, and eventually marry you and give you a good family where you can be proud of.

Pray to God to give you strength and be able to forget about that irresponsible boyfriend you have. My prayer is with you!

Answer 3

"Males like rules.
It's why no female childhood game has as many rules as the male oriented game of marbles and why most Laws are created by males.
Rules tell them who they are, where they fit and how to respond."

YOU broke the rules.
- In an agreeable 3 year open relationship, you then want to change it and request exclusivity.
- An hour later you DEMAND a response with an accusatory text. In an open relationship that's breaking the rules.
- You then embark on a constant contact and denial of response (the blockings) regime inspired by self-interest and constantly changing the rules. How do you expect him to react, if you won't let him by constantly changing the rules?

Any and every relationship has rules which must be mutually agreed and freely joined. If they no longer work for you they must be mutually and freely re-negotiated or parties move on.
Selfish irrational capriciousness should not be tolerated by either party -- despite a feminine penchant for doing so.
Rules, if broken, have consequences: accept them!

THOSE are the RULES!

Answer 4

Sounds like hes an *** and you could do alot better. I think having a long distance relationship is hard enough but having an opening relationship also kinda set yourself up for disaster. You should just back off for a while and see if he comes around. If not, fudge him. Plus do you really want someone who isnt treating you right anyway, you deserve alot more then someone who wont even call you back.

Answer 5

Some ppl just prefer space and don't know how to express it. So, they clam up like little boys and girls and play middle school games like so. He wants his space, but is probably getting a kick out of everything you're doing, so he;s allowing you to see his profile.
My advice? Go ahead and dump his ***. Forget him, don't even send another message, completely cut off all contact and when you do, he'll wonder why and probably come crawling back. That's when you turn the tables, Good Luck!

Answer 6

I think you answered your own question-read back over your message. This guy obviously isn't ready for a commitment, and I hate to say it, but I think you scared the crap out of him when you offered to make one. I'd back way off-let him initiate any contact. If you see him out somewhere, be polite but not all over him or anything-let him chase you-my dad used to tell me that men hate to be chased-and I think sometimes he has a point. You can tell yourself that you were up front and honest with him, and he just doesn't have the guts to come out and tell you how he feels. Maybe he just needs some time to think things out, or he feels his silence is telling you all that he needs to say. Either way, I'd move on to greener pastures-don't sit around and wait for his rear end.

Answer 7

man. i hate those kinda of "games" i was in that kind of situation not too long ago believe it or not with one of my friends. i ended up just giving up on the whole thing, bc i dont have time to wait for him to call back or whatever, and u shuldnt either. u shuldnt be waiting for him. u shuld be finding sum1 else and sum1 alot better. other than sum1 who isnt considerate of your feelings. must not be a true friend then. bc true friends are considerate of how u feel. im sorry you are going thru this. but completely delete every info u have on him. email address. fone number. everything. and that will help u get over him. it will take time. but it will help.

good luck

Answer 8

after 3 years you should be able to read him pretty well. it seems like when he is mad about something he isnt the person to come out and tell you. id give it some time and try not to act so concerned....hopefully he will give in and tell you whats going down. if NOT, i would write him an email telling him everything, why you sent him those text messages and how you are upset that he hasnt returned your calls and attempts to contact him on MSN......let that be the last attempt on your part. hope it helps, good luck girl!

Answer 9

I think buddy lists are a bad idea. They can turn a normal person into an obsessed crazy. I suggest dropping him from your list totally, if you cant give up the IMs, and going "in real life"

Seriously.

I've been buddy list free for months now. 4 different reasons....like a weight off!!

Answer 10

Aye, he is not worth it!!!! Trust me, I know from experience!!! If he doesn't have enuff respect for you to return your calls or answer your text messages, He is a coward, he is not going to tell you if he is with someone else either...screw him, he is not that into you...Don't chase him, that will only hurt you in the long run and make you pissed off at yourself....Trust me..Just fine somebody new and if it makes you feel better, make him jealous that way ;)

Answer 11

Here is what I did with my ex, he did me the same way and worse, I could it figure out what I did wrong, man sometimes have the attitude that they will get tired of the same girl, and specially they feel like you are bugging the **** out of them! but in reality we want to fix the problems but what we dont realize is that men need there space too, but sometimes they prefer to ignore us and be jerks about it, so I got tired of it, and said ! I dont have to deal with this , I know I love him but I love myself more and wont let anyone hurt me this way, so I stop writing him, calling him and texting him, everything , let me tell you something man sometimes like to feel like kings like we have to beg and beg, but if you stop doing all those thing for them they'll be like what the hell she found somebody new? why isnt she calling me? they start o get worry and finally he'll call you, but seriously stop calling him and texting you'll see that this will work! good luck!