why would anyone wanna break up with his gf because she was out with her friends when he was having fever?

Question

my bf... or EX bf was running a rather high fever of 38.9 degree C on the day i've long agreed to meet up with my girlies in the evening to celebrate one of their 21st birthday. in the early afternoon, my bf texted me while going to the doctor and we continued to communicate via text messages as i was in my class. however, the text messaging service suddenly went haywire and 3 of his messages didnt get through to me until more than half an hour later. he got pissed over this and accused me of switching off my phone while lunching with guys when i was just eating lunch with one of my gal pal in uni. and he threatened to break up over that. i was naturally pissed with him for doing such a thing to me and so i ignored him until a few hours later, i texted him again twice in the late afternoon which he ignored completely. and i texted him once more at night while i was on the way home after dinner with my friends. and he blew up. he accused me of not caring about him and didnt text or call

him at all while i was with my friends. and he wanna break up over this. i'm truely perturbed by his way of thinking and how he expects my world to revolve only around him. a few of my friends thinks he wants out already and is just finding stupid excuses but i think not. do not ask me why am i still with him after 1 and a half years. i do not know...
i dont even know what's his problem now. i've texted him hundreds of time and yet he stillr efuses to reply me nor pick up my calls.

well, i really dont know about the putting myself in his shoes thingy.
firstly, if our roles were switched. i would never ever suspect him of switching off his phone on purpose to lunch with girls. moreover, it was just half an hour delay. i mean, what on earth can i do behind his back in half an hour? and if it's just lunching with guys, why cant i reply his text messages and why on earth would i have to off my phone?
i've tried to reason out with him because i truely felt that he's being overly childish this time. but guess what he replied?
"i believe in my phone's delivery report more than i believe you."
this really didnt sound like he likes me at all. sounds more like he feels that i'm his property. you know, at this point of time i really feel like what my friend said is right. he treats me like a doormat...

Answer 1

Well, you planned on a girls night out...but your bf didn't plan on being sick...Maybe you were a little insensitive being that your bf was sick with what you described as a high fever...I think I'd rather have my gf with me in a time of need than out on the town with her friends...I'd be a little ticked off too...How would you feel if you were sick and he was out with the guys?

Answer 2

Your friends may be right. If he wasn't that stupid before, chances are he is trying to find a way out if he isn't then he doesn't trust you and getting someone to really trust you and not just say it for sake of apology is very hard and takes some time..Either way it would be best to leave him he sounds immature and at least you found out now when he wants to break up, I'm sure in a few days he'll come back crying and do something stupid like ask for your hand in marriage...you're better of single, do what you want for a change

Answer 3

Sounds to me like his feelings may have been truly hurt by your "uncaring" nature (or what he feels, and he probably truly feels that you didn't care). This guy honestly thinks that you switched off your phone to enjoy time with your friends. My mom always had a great way of getting me to empathize with other peoples situations...."How would you feel if you were in his shoes?" Put the shoe on the other foot, think about it and then you will probably know the best way to respond to him. Good luck!

Answer 4

You seem like your in a similar situation i've been in, i really like this guy don't even wanna finish school for easter because i like him that much :P liked him for a few weeks now, but when i started liking him he had a girlfriend.. he's just found out i like him just after hes broke up with his girlfriend they weren't going out that long but i didn't expect it.. I'm not saying the same will happen to you, but when my crush wasn't single i just tried to stay away from him to try and get over him.. Hope this helps! :D

Answer 5

well this happened with my boyfriend. we have been going for a yr and a half too. and if one of us gets sick, and the other is out playing around or having fun or whatever, we both get offended by it. lol sounds kinda stupid i guess. but ina way its not. its like why arent u taking care of that person? why arent u gettin them a lil get well gift? or sumthing like that? bc if u dont, it just seems that ur inconsderent. so we have both learned to take care of each other and get the other medicine, or whatever needed.
so i can understand his situation. bc most people when they are sick, they just want attention and cared for.

good luck

Answer 6

He just really likes you. He wants to make sure he knows where you are every second, and it's sort of cute. It's way over protective though, you need to tell him that you like him, but that you also need to have your days with the "girl" friends. You need a little space that he doesn't want to give you.

Answer 7

Well, as I see it there are 2 possibilities"

1. He is the biggest prick to ever walk the planet.

2. He already wanted to end it (for some other reason) and is only using this as an excuse.

Either way, he probably did you a favor.

Answer 8

hmmm.. i think that since he has a fever at that moment, you didn't cared for him as he expects you to be. If you really love him, you will find a way to communicate with him or to check his temperature knowing that he's not feeling well.. It's not that he wants you to revolve everything to him,its just that, you'll see how important he is to you by your reaction in his situation. In your case, I can't afford to have fun with my friends knowing what's happening with him.. That's what you call prioritization..

Answer 9

bring chicken soup with those alphabets thingy that spells 'im sorry' and spend some time with him.

it's not your fault but he's sick and the fever might get to him a little bit.

hopefully that would make it up and he doesnt really want to break up with you

Answer 10

well one thing, maybe he wanted you to take care of him, like feed him chicken noodle soup or 7-up or something and you were out with your friends, they're could be many different reasons