i made a BIG mistake with my girlfriend?

Question

well, we just found out she's pregnant a couple days ago according to her doctor. we're both 18, freshman in college.. and it couldnt be worse timing, meaning it was unplanned.
she's really scared right now and i am too. And i'm just trying to figure out what i should do! she hasnt been really talking to me a whole lot.. and i dont want her to think she's a burden or anything
so, do i give her space? or try to talk with her? or, any ideas..

Answer 1

ok first off f**k all the people who are being ***** to this kid.. having a kid that young is rough and scary.. my firend is the same age and has a kid whos over a year old already .. itll work out man..just make sure u tell ur parents and her parents early cuz the longer u wait the worse their reaction will be... and yes talk to her

Answer 2

It took the two of you to make the baby, so it needs the two of you to look to the future.
You're not the first and wont be the last in this position.
You need to talk and support each other. It's early days so decisions need to be discussed and made.
Being scarred right now is the easy part and it wont help. Make sure that, in your own mind, you do want to support her and help her make the right decisions. Once you're sure then talk to her and let her know how you feel. Listen to how she feels.
Whether the decision is made to keep the baby, go for an abortion or adoption, you both have to see it through.
You are going to have to talk to both your families about it but that would be best after the two of you have talked and decided. The families may have different ideas than you and, if so, you both need to be strong and stay committed to your decision. In the end families usually end up supportive.
Good luck.

Answer 3

You are wrong. You both made a BIG mistake. It takes two to make a baby, and two to figure out how to have sex and prevent a pregnancy. And a freshman in college- I guess you missed the sex ed classes in high school.

OK. the damage is done, so to speak. You two have a few choices: have the baby and bring it up, don't have the baby, or have the baby and put it up for adoption or foist it off on one of your parents. The last one usually doesn't work, and a decision not to have a baby should be resolved in the first trimester. The others will take a lot of planning, so its best to face the problem. So talk.

Answer 4

I have been in that situation before, and being raised in a christian home my parents frowned upon premarital sex and abortion....but i realized when put in a very similar situation you have to do what is right not for your parents but for yourself!! You have to live with yourself the rest of your life and you don't know for sure that you and your girlfriend will be together forever. So until you are married or finished with College and can support yourself and your girlfriend i personally wouldn't think about raising a child as well! We all make mistakes and we can all learn and grow from them. It might even make both of you grow stronger as a couple, and maybe you can talk about adoption. If i were you i would entertain the idea of abortion, i know people will hate me for saying that, but they are not going to be the one who wakes up at 2 am to feed your baby and then again at 4am,when you have to take a huge test at 7am in college!!!!You are going to be the ONE to do it. Whatever choice you two decide on try to do it A.S.A.P so your girlfriends risk of health problems is not increased. Tell her you two need to go to a local Planed Parenthood Clinic near you and they wont hound on you about choosing abortion they will be by your side and help you through this tough time! Good Luck Man.

Answer 5

I would talk to her. Ask her how she is feeling and what her plans and ideas are. Where she wants to go from this point. Let her know that you care about her and have no plans on leaving her or the baby.
She is scared and confused. Space would probably make her feel like you might ditch her because she is pregnant.
Oh, and use birth control next time!! ( :

Answer 6

Congratulations are in order!! That's a wonderful life made from both of you and yes, it may be poor timing but the fact is that this is where you're both at and you need to do it TOGETHER. 100% together. She needs you, your reassuring words, your unconditional love and your support. You also need her so get together, lean on one another and let nature take it's course. You can both get through this and things will work out. I promise!!

Answer 7

Wow. Good luck man, You should talk to her, but if she freaks out, give her some time to get her mind getting used to the new idea of being pregnant. You should spend time with her, care for one another and most importantly don't argue with her you need each other. I hope the situation works out maybe even talking with your parent firts would help aske them for advise only if you and your parents are cool.
Best of Luck for you and your g/f!

Answer 8

First of all,
talk to her. let her know you are gonna be there for her and not gonna f&^$ her over. she needs comfort and you are the only who can give it to her. Her friends can give her all the advice she can get, but it wont matter unless it comes from you because you are in the situation with her. she is also probably more worried about you leaving her and she will have to take care of the kid on her own.

Answer 9

There is a reason fr everything. the worst thing you can do is walk away. Try talking to her make it known if that she is not a burden and you support her. It can work ITs ok you will get threw this together. good luck and congratulations.

Answer 10

Talk with her..she needs you....also make sure shes fine rather than waiting for her to talk to you....this will make her think that you care and want to support her.....take things little bit at a time and have a plan....try not to think too much on the mistake you made....