I''ve recently starting dating a girl who is very shy around me. This would be OK except I'm terrible with conversations. Especially when I try to start a conversation and it just goes no where. Is there anything I can do to try and get better conversations going? i don't know. Maybe were just not a good couple.
Please Help!!
2007-11-08 13:59:47 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ask her a lot of questions about her.. Make her laugh, also.
2007-11-08 14:01:52 · answer #1 · answered by Abolir Las Farc 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The whole point of dating (regardless what people think ) is to get to know the person better, encourage that person and start building a better friendship. So the best thing to do is avoid yes or no questions. Try to ask open ended questions or ask questions in a way that really makes the person think about their answer, and at the same time it lets you know a little more about them. Try planning your date based on that person's interests : is it movies, a particular hobby, or just going out to eat or whatever. Do something that you know the person would like and make them feel at ease. The more comfortable they are the more likely they will open up. Another thing is don't be afraid to show a little vulnerability yourself, but don't take full control of the conversation ask what they feel about what you said find out how it relates to them. Also remember as long you are encouraging you are doing great. Some people are just naturally quiet and only speak when they feel they have something important to say. Just focus on being a friend to that person and little by little things will change.
2007-11-08 14:23:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating is an art, but more than anything a state of mind. Be positive is a good tip.
Conversation:
Don't moan.
Don't discuss past relationships.
Don't use "no" every 5 seconds.
Don't use repetitive negative sentences: "I don't like", "I hate".
Don't complain about your boss, your work, your ex, or your situation.
Sending too many negative signals can become a big turnoff. Nobody wants to enjoy spending time with a loser or somebody who collect problems.
Don't share your misery.
S/he came to a date, looking for something wonderful, not to help you to get out of misery. As a date, your job is to make your partner go home and think: "God, I feel really good with him/her"!
A positive attitude is always a big turn-on.
Don't say: "I don't like the rain in London". Say:"I love Paris in summer."
You see? Little things like that change the whole atmosphere.
Don't say: "I hate whisky." Just say: "I love French Champagne with strawberries."
Remember to Feel good, look good, smell good and be good.
2007-11-08 14:10:54 · answer #3 · answered by lady bug 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can you play any type of game/sport with her...like mini golf or a board game? Sometimes its easier for the shy to react to an event or shared experiences. Even going to simple places like a zoo can bring along easy conversations.
2007-11-08 14:05:47 · answer #4 · answered by Lilly 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her about you, things you like/dislike, things that make you happy/sad. That way she'll feel like she knows you and she will start trusting you. In the mean time, find out what she likes, her interests, hobbies etc and make it a point to learn about it. Ask her to HELP you learn about it;) Give it a try before you decide you're not a good couple, who knows? may you are. Good luck!:)
2007-11-08 14:08:05 · answer #5 · answered by luna 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk about the weather in different cities to get the conversation going. Don't ask questions that she will answer yes or no to. Ask her opinion or suggestion on things.
2007-11-08 14:05:10 · answer #6 · answered by Kings kid 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you can start out buy saying you have pretty eyes and you look nice, what does she like to do? find out and take you there and just have fun the conversations come natural and even if you guys have things in common good luck.
2007-11-08 14:09:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her what she thinks about something, like oh, something a teacher/boss/coworker/student (not sure how old you are) said/did. If she doesn't say a whole lot, then jokingly, smiling, say something to the affect of "Aw, what, don't want to tell me? Big secret?" Joking around gets people to open up easier. Good luck!
2007-11-08 14:04:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Play the question game. Its a great way of learning about eachother and get some good laughs. You just take turns asking eachother silly questions, or even personal ones.
2007-11-08 14:03:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a shy girl. She's just uncomfortable. Just joke around. Say.. Maybe there's this really weird stupid teacher, joke around how she acts weird. Ask her, what class she has next, and whatnot. Encourage her, by telling her, " Don't worry if you don't know what to talk about." Just be yourself, it's normal to be shy between one another.
2007-11-08 14:04:48 · answer #10 · answered by Dreamer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do something you both will enjoy, something that takes the pressure off her, and from there you can start talking - or maybe find out something you both have in common - for example, a passion for movies.. watch an intriguing movie then talk about it.
I also agree that you should try to make her laugh :)
2007-11-08 14:05:29 · answer #11 · answered by oliva 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋