i went to a party. got drunk. and an old friend started dancing on me. i didnt stop hur. afterwardz we held hands. it wuz too personal. we didnt kiss or do 'it'. im gonna tell my girl. it will break hur, but we've alwayz been honest. and i'd rather be apart than to live a lie. i love hur dearly. good idea?
2007-11-08 13:30:59 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
this is probably the only honest advice that i will give the whole time i am answering these questions, however, if you want to keep it good with a woman NEVER tell her anything like that. if you do than she may either leave or start her own pattern of doing things worse, and use the excuse that you did it first. keep that to yourself and anything else you do that could be viewed as cheating. that however wasn't really anything.
2007-11-08 13:35:48 · answer #1 · answered by fire s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether or not it was cheating you should tell her. Holding hands with the friend was certainly NOT something you would do if you were not drunk. Just be honest to her. Say you danced with an old friend, and then you grabbed eachothers hands, probably because you were drunk. The sooner you tell her the more it will seem like an honest mistake. Tell her the specific things you're going to do so it doesn't happen again. Then stick to it. Usually girls will give a second chance, but not a third.
2007-11-08 13:37:35 · answer #2 · answered by Christine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her since its the right thing to do and if you didn't you would always have it on your mind and might make her worry anyway. You didn't really cheat but it still was definately a bad thing you did. Best thing to do is to tell her that you will never see that person again and that it wasn't something you would ever do normally. Just be prepared to grovel for a long while if you are really sorry for what you did. It may not be cheating but it would suck so much if you were in the reverse position so its good that you want to be honest.
2007-11-08 13:46:58 · answer #3 · answered by scyther_maverick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're doing the correct thing. She will build up trust in you and she will know in the future that she can always trust you because you know your mistakes and will tell her. She will also know that you reallyy care about her because you are admitting that you did the wrong thing. And, if she was to fiond out later (like lets say you told her a couple months later) she would be veryyy upset and wouldn't know whether or not to trust you anymore. So better to tell her:)
However, she might take the wrong way and think that you are telling her so that she can build a trust in you and you can go off and do bad things with other girls and just tell her the mild stories. But I think you should definately tell and leave it up to her to decide how she wants to interpret it. If she interprets it the wrond way and will break up, she will eventually realize that she made a mistake breaking up and will return to you.
Best of luck:)
2007-11-10 09:53:57 · answer #4 · answered by Diamond 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, tell her taht you go drunk n everything. You have to tell her no matter how much it hurts because if she finds out before you have time to explain yourself, its going to hurt 10 times as worse. But i dont think its technically "cheating" because you didnt do more than hold hands and dance. Im sure she will be mad at you, so brace yourself, but if you guys really love eachother, you will come to a reasonable understanding. And, tell her that you swear never to get drunk again, that will help a little. But you need to be sincere about it and not just saying it to make her feel better.
2007-11-08 13:37:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
okayy this is my perspective...fliriting is okayy to a certain extent..i mean everyone flirts girl or guy its just natural and it makes us feel good.. but when theres physical touching and you no your getting close then its crossing the line, if you would've been dancing and drunk and all that then its not to big of a deal but the holding hands would really hurt a girlfriend in any relationship, if you love her as much as you say you do then your going to tell her the absolute truth no bending in anyway. it might her but she would rather hear it from you now then find it out from someone later...be known for being honest not someone who lies and hides things. she might get mad and it might take her a while to get over it but if you love her then your going to make things better even if that means you can't go out for a while......
i hope everything goes good
2007-11-08 13:39:13 · answer #6 · answered by {~rawr~} 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you'd better talk about it to her.. because if you dont theres a chance she might get to know it from somewhere els... and she might misunderstand you.. and it might get difficult to convince her that you only held hands with that girl... she might think you lied to her all the time you both went out...
thats how i'd feel if my guy hid anything from me....
Just make sure you dont do such a thing ever again... and also promise her that...
It'll be better to give her an apoogizing gift if she was hurt about it or "I'm sorry, it wont happen again" card....
2007-11-08 13:47:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
before everything, I would desire to declare which you will desire to easily have faith and not rigidity approximately it. yet i visit humor you: the main obtrusive signs and indications are warding off eye touch, yet while she has already compartmentalized (no longer feeling to blame) then it somewhat is extra durable. yet another you possibly can be smelling in yet in any different case, regardless of if plainly like she had of venture to bathe after. Has she introduced new strikes into the mattress room? something as diffused as kissing in yet in any different case could be an illustration that somebody else has been on those lips. regardless of if the undertaking is, she probable did no longer cheat on you. And if she did, it replaced into decrease than the optimal circumstances, ideal? somebody she'll no longer see lower back, whilst she wasn't decrease than the final judgement. the only difficulty to hardship approximately is STD's. you will desire to the two be examined regularly and in case you're no longer already, please practice risk-free intercourse.
2016-10-15 13:16:13 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't really cheat on her, but she might have a very hard time trusting you now. Just be straight with her and tell her the truth. She can be the only one to decide what happens next. Just make sure that she knows that you really care about her.
2007-11-08 13:34:48 · answer #9 · answered by Loving Life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not only should you tell her, you should know by now that an "S" goes on the end of words not "Z".
Take as many writing, and english classes as possible.
2007-11-08 13:34:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋