The question seems so simple, but the situation isnt. Just some background information. I have know this girl for 7 years, in that time we have became pretty good friends. We have had sex, but that came when I right before I got into a relationship, that relationship lasted almost 6 years. We had something special but there were other things effecting the situation. Age and such. She is in a situation now with her bf, that is serious, he is trying to force her to get engaged and I know that she doesnt want that. She is being pressured by his family too. I dont know what to do. I feel our relationship is really special, and we both have great love for each other. This is just a situation that I dont know how to approach. I want her. But im afraid that I may screw up our relationship and i would hate that. I just dont know. What do you think?
2007-11-08 12:56:04 · 11 answers · asked by JimmyJam 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
easy, KILL HIM
2007-11-08 13:12:48 · answer #1 · answered by redsoxfan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just let het handle the situation and see what comes of it. How do you know that it isn't what she wants? If it really isn't, then you should just encourage her to follow her heart and do what she feels is right for her. Remind her that in the end, she needs to focus on what makes her happy and that doing that will give the best results for all those involved.
Don't get involved any further than that. If you say something to her bf or go any further, she may resent you. Just lovingly encourage her to do what's right for her. In this situation, you need to focus on her happiness. If she leaves the relationship by your encouragement, she may resent you. Support her whatever she chooses if you really care for her.
2007-11-08 21:01:37 · answer #2 · answered by Been here before 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL. If you don't you will always wonder "what if." If you guys were ever close you should just tell her that you need to talk. If she feels the same way then she'll know what you mean and will help you withthe rest of the words. If she doesn't then maybe you should let it go. Perceptions can become very distorted by emotions. Lastly, NEVER say that you KNOW how another person feels. Thats impossible.... Good Luck
2007-11-08 21:04:19 · answer #3 · answered by cindy_short2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its tough to say what to do not knowing what she really wants, If she brings up the fact that she isnt happy and she wants out but doesnt follow trough i say ditch. The woman is looking for attention and you are willing to give it . Dont be a p---y. I say ignore her. women always want what they cant have.Be a di-k they like that its a challenge. You go throwing yourself at her she will run so fast all you will see is dust likus 101
2007-11-08 21:06:29 · answer #4 · answered by matt j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A true friend would help a friend out. : )
if it does screw up your relationship, she will learn it the harder way. she will, eventually, realize that you were right, and you were trying to protect her. she might:
a) run back to you and get back in touch
b) feel so guilty and regretful that she may not want to talk to you
but most likely it's a, because you guys are so close.
i wish you luck!
2007-11-08 21:02:18 · answer #5 · answered by Julian the Mananoo!!! OMG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That definatly is a complicated situation, if you know she has mixed feelings about him then do something to show her that you care for her, beat him to the punch and show her that you love her more then him
2007-11-08 21:05:55 · answer #6 · answered by devilbrunette23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her how you really feel. speak from the heart.
anyone trying to pressure her into something is not wise.
2007-11-08 20:59:33 · answer #7 · answered by Jerry S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DEEP, man go for her this may be ur last chance
2007-11-08 20:59:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she ditched her bf for you - how do you know she won't do the same thing to you down the line??
2007-11-08 20:59:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth. If it's meant to be, It will be.
2007-11-08 21:01:10 · answer #10 · answered by fl_freewheelie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow im not sure sorry
2007-11-08 20:59:17 · answer #11 · answered by roshani d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋