How can I learn to forgive and forget for what she did?

Question

My girlfriend and I broke up for 2 months, although it was not a clean break. It was complicated. At first it was mutual, then she did not want to get back together and told me we would be together if we were meant to be. I know now she was talking with an ex and ended up sleeping with him. He turned out to just be using her and taking advantage of her vulnerability. This whole time I begged for her back and constantly told her how much I loved her. Now that I know what she did I am extremely hurt and I don't know what to do. Now she is begging me to take her back and she is sorry for what she did (she told me herself to come clean). I did not want to talk for a while after she told me and she had a break down telling me she always loved me and was stupid and wants to die if she can't have me. I am so confused and disgusted and hurt with what she did. What should i do?

Answer 1

She probably is sorry for what happened. But she's only sorry because it turned out her ex was using her. If he had been interested in resuming a relationship with her the chances are she would have taken him up on his offer & you would've been left in their wake.

Instead she took a leap of faith off a tall building & fell flat on her face. Of course she is sorry, she didn't get the guy she wanted, in fact he made a fool of her. Now she realises she will be left with no-one if you don't take her back.

I think she does love you...but not enough.

It's your call but I would probably move on.

Answer 2

Bunny Bee, that previous asserting is rather a misnomer. maximum individuals do no longer forget exceedingly if it replaced into some thing that got here approximately to them. TO forgive and forget frequently the forgive comes first and to me, no person would desire to be forgiven of a incorrect doing except they're rather repentant. So now the forget section exceedingly plenty skill that categorical, you nevertheless submit to in suggestions yet you study to place it lower back interior the corner of your suggestions so which you do no longer deliver it up and use it as previous ammunition against somebody which you already forgave. Now if this guy or woman does the comparable difficulty lower back I assure you that the undertaking you saved lower back there interior the grey count will come to the front and be used as a thank you to instruct your self and perhaps even the different guy or woman who they apparently somewhat weren't rather sorry by using fact they did it lower back and subsequently do no longer deserve the "forgive and forget" do no longer enable it tear you up. you basically would desire to look after it the way.

Answer 3

For whatever reason, I sense a gap in this relationship. You say you're confused, hurt, and disgusted. I'm not seeing anything good coming out of this relationship. Your girlfriend sounds like a certifiable basket case. This is your opportunity to walk away from a dismal situation that's not likely to improve. Find someone else with less baggage. Walk back into the light! Don't look back.

Answer 4

Honestly this is not a question you should let others decide i had this same type of problem with my Girl.. we broke up and her ex got out of jail theres rumors she slept with him. and now that really bothers me and its been months!!!


So trust me if your like me you will not be able to forgive her for a long time. and you guys will constantly fight over what she did. you may also feal like if you cheat it wouldnt matter cause she slept with someone else.


But this a question you need to look deeply in your heart.


so far me and my girl are fine...but this still bothers me


oh and by the way something you should think about that i thought about my girl is... maybe she was trying to get back with her ex but now that she sees he didnt wnt nothing but sex shes trying to get back with you... other words USER

Answer 5

effin drop her dude! karma is a bia make her pay for what she did to you. she now realizes what she had when she gave up on you guys. plus she had sex w her ex? no way man id say just move on tell her your sorry for what happened but its just better off for both of you to not get back together cuz if you do get back together your always gonna have the fact that she had sex with her ex in the back of your head.

Answer 6

wow. similar situation with my ex..
and trust me KARMA is a biatch.
she finally realize what she did wrong and how much you treated her way better than anyone could and now she knows she cant have you.. she wants you.. you know that saying [ you want what you cnt have] thats what she is doing. i think in time you will learn to forgive her but you will never forget what she did to you and if you end up going bck up then you will always hab it in that bck of your mind thats she did that and that she can alwayz do it again.. i think you should just stay frens with her and be there for her but nothing more....

Answer 7

I totally agree with Jen,and she does sound immature making a "pity me statement" like she did to guilt you into taking her back.She will likely do this again when another prospect comes along, she just knows you are nice enough to be her fall back guy.Ditch her now,while you have your dignity,you don't want to live your life being her on again off again bf.

Answer 8

DUMP HER . . . she's a bed hopper. You are better off without her. The fact that she "wants to die" if she "can't have you" indicates a tremendous immature person.

Her ex came around and she dumped him so she could shag him. So he used her and she found out now she wants you back.

You can do waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay better than this bimbo.

Answer 9

its hard to forgive cause it hurt.u could firgive her but dont forget.as far as her wanting to die if she cant have u is a little nuts forgive start clean and give her credit for actually coming clean and telling u the truth.

Answer 10

All of us make mistakes. She deserves one second chance. Put yourself in her place. Would you want to be forgiven if you truly made a mistake that you now regret? Good Luck man...T