I just found out last night that my BF's son is getting married next weekend. Real spur of the moment thing - about 10 days notice - she's pregnant & it's at the courthouse. I have a big business & family trip planned & I bought the tickets 6 weeks ago & it will cost me big $$$ to change my plans. My BF says not to worry about it, as the whole thing will take 15 minutes & is no big deal, but I still feel bad about it, especially as I may be his son's step-mother someday. Should I take them out to lunch or do something before or after the "wedding" or do something else for them? They haven't registered for anything, really have no plans, it's just a quickie wedding.
2007-11-08 12:33:26 · 10 answers · asked by Cosplayqueen 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If your BF says its not to worry about it then you shouldn't, guys don't usually mince words about this kind of thing. I would just make sure that the BF and happy couple know you are disappointed that you will miss the wedding day and try to be part of celebration party after you return. No reasonable person would expect you to change your plans.
2007-11-08 12:47:58 · answer #1 · answered by Shaun 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi. Yes, I think that would be very thoughtful to take them out either before the wedding or after you get back from your trip. You could do a lunch or dinner....whatever you want!
OR....totally up to you and you boyfriend....would you want to plan a SMALL type of reception for them for sometime after you return? You could invite family and a few friends and just make it an afternoon "thing" with finger foods, drinks, etc. Just a thought....
2007-11-08 14:12:56 · answer #2 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should change your plans, especially plans that you made weeks ago. Instead why not plan a "just married" party for the newly weds. Maybe a small get together for family and friends at someones house. That way anyone who is close but couldn't attend the actual weding can get a chance to wish the bride and groom well.
Good luck!
2007-11-08 13:04:05 · answer #3 · answered by Reba 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to be by your boyfriend's side - that's a given. But if you have a busines trip already planned & they didn't even take any time to consult anyone when planning this quickie wedding, then it isn't your fault. Get together with them when you can when you get back - I'm sure you'll have plenty of time, as there's a baby on the way!
2007-11-08 12:40:41 · answer #4 · answered by Barbara L 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would go with a lunch and a gift, they will really appreciate it. Just explain the situation to them and dont make it a big deal, Im sure they will understand because of the short notice. Unfortunately, a lot of people will downplay their wedding because of their situation, and you expressing interest and giving them the best you can will mean a lot to them. Good luck to you!
2007-11-08 14:40:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should cancel your trip. I think they will understand. If you want to do something nice for them, sure, take them out to dinner and tell them you are sorry you missed their big day. You could get them a card and a gift of some sort. (maybe something they need) or get them a gift card to a store that they shop at. I am sure they will appreciate any gesture you give.
2007-11-09 21:04:32 · answer #6 · answered by sden2616 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would buy them a nice gift with a card.. and say something like. i'm sorry i couldn't be there for your wedding, but I would like to take you and your new bride out for a celebration meal when i get back from my business trip.
I hope this helps. Good Luck.
2007-11-09 00:19:05 · answer #7 · answered by dietitian4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do not imagine inviting them to a faux wedding ceremony is the right element to do in any respect. What pissed them off is his homosexuality; throwing this wedding ceremony of their faces is precisely the incorrect thanks to reintroduce them. You sound like an amazingly good and being concerned human being notwithstanding the base line is, his relationship inclusive of his father and mother is none of your agency. If he needs to fix it, he desires to be a guy and do it himself. you received't continuously be there to do the heavy lifting for him. If he needs to fix this, he desires to call them or see them in an somewhat impartial area, like a espresso keep. There they could talk all this, I favor him success. I nonetheless do not imagine it is your agency. He ought to have "made" it your agency yet that does no longer mean that is. basically be careful and do not enable him unload all his issues on you. How previous are those boys, besides.
2016-10-23 21:38:31 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id say just take em out for a nice dinner when its a good time for you and not worry about it. my moms bf came to see me in the hospitol after my surgery DRUNK and totally caused a scene so when it comes to steps..u missing a courthouse 15min i do isnt a big thing lol i dont think so at least
2007-11-08 12:43:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
def dont change your plans.. and dont feel bad about it.. but yes it would be nice to take them to lunch since you couldnt make it :)
2007-11-09 04:16:36 · answer #10 · answered by Tiff Tiff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋