Hi everyone, my mom died november 3 of last year. Im 16 and live w/ my dad. Hes veryyy depressed. He lost alot of weight and cried alot (hes not the crying type, hes always been very strong) he still wakes up crying in his sleep and is very very sad. I love him so so so much and he is honestly my best friend. it hurts me to see him so sad. Im here for him as much as i can, but i want to know what else i can do?
2007-11-08 12:18:22 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
he also feels responsibe because he was supposta drive her to work, but he felt sick, so she drove herself and got in an accident.
2007-11-08 12:20:15 · update #1
People react to death in different ways and some deal with it through the hurt and pain. If this has been going on for this long I suggest that he seek help with a psychologist so he can deal with her death. You have done as much as possible but he alone has to come out of this state and learn to live once more and live for her. As long as he keeps her memory alive she will be there forever. Still, his continual self-blame will only create more hurt. Tell him to write a letter addressed to her with and tie it to a helium filled balloon and let it go. Or he can write the letter and keep it safe; in this letter he should tell your mom how he loves her and how he misses her--this will give him a chance to tell her how he feels about the love they had together. Also, he needs to realize that it was an accident and that he could not have change what was to happen.
2007-11-08 12:34:30 · answer #1 · answered by Lifeline 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry about the lose of your Mom...You need to tell your Dad that it was not his fault,because it wasn't his fault,just because he did not drive her to work..Its just something that happened,it was an accident,your father had nothing to do with her death at all..It is always the way it is when someone dies that we love,we find all kinds of ways to blame ourselves,thats normal but its not true..You dad is grieving,and it takes time for the person to get over such a thing.Sometimes it takes a very long time,depending on the person.Your Mom was his mate and now he is alone, he does have you but its not the same as having a mate.He feels as though his world has crumbled around him.. He sleeps alone, he has no one to talk too, to share with , to depend on, he feels alone...Im sure you are very important to your Dad,and he loves you very much but it is not like having a mate to talk to...Hopefully one day he will meet someone that will help him take his mind off of all this and find happiness again..He will NEVER forget your Mom and no one can ever take her place but if he does find someone, Please do not be jealous, be happy for him and support him if he does find someone else..He was very happy with your Mom and now he feels he has nothing to live for, try and understand that he is not thinking right at this time,it has nothing to do with you..Encourage him to get out and do things, and maybe at first you can go with him and hopefully he will heal in time..All you can do right now is be very supportive of anything he wants to do...just remember that you are 16 and you will go on with your life and at the same time he is trying to establish another life without your Mom..
2007-11-08 20:42:34 · answer #2 · answered by slickcut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG im so sorry that happend, what you gotta do is get him some help, and support him try to get him up and doing things going to the park to the movies, and another tyhing you can do is take him to do stuff your mom liked to do its one of the only ways to get him out of the this situation. Good luyck and God Bless both of you!
2007-11-08 20:28:19 · answer #3 · answered by Rhiannon. Stay[[+]] 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen your dad needs to she a doctor as soon as possible because his got to remember that life goes on no matter how much it slaps you down his got to remember his got you
2007-11-08 21:09:05 · answer #4 · answered by Whats His Face 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋