he wines and wines when he wants something. When he doesn't get it he shuts down and won't say anything. He acts like a spoiled baby. Today he did it in front of his friend and started baby talking. his friend said he was annoying.
2007-11-08 12:08:56 · 13 answers · asked by scotthero 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Honestly to me that's a cry for attention...even if its negative...its not always bad to give kids attention even negative if they "as" for it. If he was a toddler I'd suggest ignoring him, but at 10 he needs a spanking. He knows better, but he is purposely doing something wrong. I say spank him, because it IS giving him the attention that he is craving, verses taking away a privilege or sending him to his room where he is isolated...hes doing it for the reassurance of being loved...he needs a reminder even if it negative that you love him and are paying attention to what hes doing. To me sometimes restrictions, doesn't give that reassurance that is being cried out for and makes them feel isolated and even more insecure...i know it did for me...especially when I acted out in these circumstances. (I wasn't spanked).
2007-11-08 12:18:19 · answer #1 · answered by Jewels 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what do YOU do when he does this? Are you giving him attention for this? Are you giving him enough positive attention when he isn't wineing?
Being a parent is very difficult at times and so is being a child. He may be acting this way because he needs something like more positive attention but he doesn't know how to verbalize his needs.
Catch him being good and let him know about. Try not to give him attention for the wineing.
2007-11-08 20:27:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore him. If he doesn't want to say anything, fine. He needs to find out that him acting that way because he can't get what he wants won't get a reaction out of you.
My guess is his peer's reaction may say more than a lot of things in getting him to change his behavior. At the very least. DON'T break down and get him what he wanted just to get him to talk again. If this has in fact happened, then this explains why he still does it - he knows it will work.
2007-11-08 20:15:12 · answer #3 · answered by IAskUAnswer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is just my opinion, but that is not normal behavior for a 10 year old. I would discuss this with his pediatrician and check into getting him a consult with a behavioral specialist. That is just too old to be acting like that. I am saying that out of concern, not trying to be mean. He may have something going on that hasn't been diagnosed yet. Just my opinion.
2007-11-08 20:19:05 · answer #4 · answered by Jessica F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not doing him a favor by letting his continue with this.
He's going to think you can get whatever you want/need just by acting like that.
My mom was the same way, but at around 13, she finally got tired of it and told me I had to be a man now. Got a job at the age of 16 and now have my own business at the age of 19. I thank my mom for that.
My dad got the backside of his hand when I acted like that....but I don't think that's the way to go.
2007-11-08 20:39:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have a rule in our house that if you whine for something you automatically don't get it. Other approaches I take to whining are to tell my children I will talk to them when they start using their normal voices. In extreme whining situations, I will sometimes send them elsewhere. I tell them the whining hurts my ears (true really) and that they need to go somewhere else. It's a little rude so that's my last choice but let's face it... when there is no audience, the performance stops.
2007-11-08 20:41:25 · answer #6 · answered by MG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 10 year old son also and children only do what there allowed to do. Im willing to bet he didnt just start doing this. You probably thought that now that he's 10 years old that he'd just stop doing it , but why woiuld he stop if this has worked for him all of this time.
2007-11-08 20:13:58 · answer #7 · answered by that hot chick 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Quit Spoiling Him!
2007-11-08 20:21:39 · answer #8 · answered by KiKi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know what works with my 11 year old? Asking him to start over! When he is whining or tired, I let him know I do not understand what he is saying and I ask him to start over. He knows this means to use his 11 year voice and choice of words. It really works!
2007-11-08 20:21:47 · answer #9 · answered by Mom of 2 Boyz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You had better put a stop to it right now, he will only get worse if you allow it to continue. If he wants something to whine about, give him something to whine about.
2007-11-08 20:12:48 · answer #10 · answered by Joan H 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋