I left him when I was pregnant. We just saw eachother again after a year last week, and we kissed. He says he wants me, but I am a jealous person, and scared he is just messing with my emotions. Am I being too crazy? I am not as cute as I was pre-baby, so that's another thing that scares me. He says it doesn't bother him. Does he just want to be with me because I have his daughter? Or maybe because he is just single right now? I do miss him, and have never stopped loving him.
2007-11-08 11:31:14 · 8 answers · asked by momma.jessy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I KNOW THIS IS LONG BUT PLEASE READ
Well I understand that there is of course a MUCH DEEPER story behind it all. You've gave a big part of you to this man and sacrificed your body to have his child.
What made you leave in the first place?
I am 20 and married with a beautiful baby boy. It wasnt always dandy. Daddy cheated on me and I had such a bad pregnancy experience.
All i have to say is.. In the beginning my husband was the worst. Believe it or not when people say that at first some guys do get scared. They don't know what to do and especially if their young. All of a sudden you get pregnant unexpectedly and he's got responsibilities thrown at him everywhere he looks now. Some guys just simply turn the other way and run, not caring about a damn thing. It's us girls who endure through it. Lets face it.. we're a lot stronger compared to guys when it comes to dealing with responsibilities. Especially one that involves our very own baby.
Being a single mom is HARD. I cant imagine it. My husband and I are working our butts off already.
Some people might think I'm stupid or whatever but if i was in your shoes.. this is what i think.
I love this man, I miss this man, I have his daughter...
what more convincing do i need to give myself in order for me to get back with him. Yes, I will have doubts and i will have questions but will I ever love if i never risk?
I would give him a chance, but no doubt I will put up a wall.. it's his job to show me he can break through it and love me like he should. Everyone deserves chances in life. I don't know why you left him at first but assuming he cheated.. There is nothing wrong with letting him know that you're still scared and he needs to earn your trust back.
But girl if he makes you unhappy again... please please please... leave him. For yourself and for your baby girl.
my husband made a 180 and letting him back in my life was the best decision ever.. lets jus hope it stays that way. =P
Heres a song for you. Chris Daugherty - It's not over
Best wishes to you and your family.
btw.. take it slow. theres no rush and you dont need to give him ANYTHING in any frame of time or whatevers. do things when you're ready to.
2007-11-08 11:59:04 · answer #1 · answered by Master P 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What made you leave him when you were pregnant? I think you should go with your instincts. You should take it slow with him though. See how it feels and see if you can figure out if he is being genuine or now. Take it really slow. Like if you just met each other. After a year, I'm sure the two of you have had changes, especially you because you became a mom. I think you two should get to know each other again.
Good luck, I wish you all the best!
2007-11-08 19:40:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
why dont you meet up again and discuss the issues of differences?
Try to kill those issues or find some solutions. It may require some compromises to be made. Through, the information you provided, it appears that both of you love each other.
The time gap due to your separation have made both of you realize the need of each other. Probably, none of you would like to make the same mistakes again.
If you can live together again, it will not only be better for both of you, but also for the kid. Both parents contribute differently to the upbringing of the kid, hence she will grow up much better.
2007-11-08 19:45:36 · answer #3 · answered by *Nikita* 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First, it bothers me that you say you're not as cute as you were pre-baby.....what???
Was he married when you got pregnant? You said he is single now?
Geez, I would be very leary. He wasn't with you when you were pregnant and now that you're not pregnant, he wants to be with you again? Don't you feel like it might just be for sex?
You're gonna do whatever you want....BUT please use birth control this time! Cuz chances are he won't be here for the next one.......even tho you shoudn't get pregnant again!!!
2007-11-08 19:40:49 · answer #4 · answered by LAL 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why did you leave him? Was he cheating?
If you left him, you must have had a good excuse. You and your daughter deserve better -- you deserve a better man and she deserves a better male role model.
You can love him without being in love with him. You already set a good example for your daughter by leaving him. Continue setting good examples -- children learn through example.
2007-11-08 19:42:12 · answer #5 · answered by skid porpoise 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Question - WHY did you leave him if you "never stopped loving him"?
I think HE is the crazy one here - getting his @$$ kicked to the curb, and then crawling back...
Perhaps he wants to do the "responsible" thing - and be the man that he is "supposed" to be ;););)
2007-11-08 19:43:49 · answer #6 · answered by kr_toronto 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why did you leave in the first place?? that's the concern...
2007-11-08 19:38:07 · answer #7 · answered by Ms Foxy Girl 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
ur being crazy and paranoid
2007-11-08 19:38:31 · answer #8 · answered by L Cameezy... Simply 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋