One time I was very ill in bed, couldn't go anywhere and my brother was at home. I asked him to get me some food from the store. He told me: "Get up, you are o.k. you have a car, and money. Do it yourself."
I have helped him any time, by getting his meds for diabetes driving, and picking up his medication and paying it for myself, and then I have to beg him for $$ he owed me.
I was taught to help family, but my brother is he out of the Q when I need help?
2007-11-08 10:58:26 · 9 answers · asked by Born Valentine's Day 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I think that I would be unavailable for pick up and delivery service or for help with money. He's using you and you are letting him do so. He is unappreciative of you.
As long as you are a doormat, people will walk on you! Stand up for yourself.
Best wishes to you.
2007-11-08 14:57:09 · answer #1 · answered by nowyouknow 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many people have no empathy. If they don't feel pain, they can't imagine other people do. You have three choices.
Go along as you have, but understand you won't be able to count of him, Cut him out of your life or wait until he needs something and remind him "what have you done for me lately?"
You can't change other people, you can only change how you deal with them. Waiting for someone like your brother to grow some social skills is like beating your head on a cement wall. It's what he is, for better or for worse - so take care of you in the best way you can.
2007-11-08 11:12:50 · answer #2 · answered by Cindy H 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He probly see's it in this point of view, You have all your body parts, you have shoes to get there, even though your sick with a cold or a cough or a sickness of some sort he is confident its nothing that bad. But he should really care more for you by letting you rest so you can get well faster, not trying to mean anything bad, but your brother dosen't seem to be that nice, but hey are most brothers like that? but it really depends on how old he is if hes in the young or mid teens thats natrual if hes fully adult then your brother isen't a really careing person at all. o.O
2007-11-08 11:07:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You sound like a very kind person. ^_^
My sister sometimes reminds me of your brother. I cater to her when she needs help, but most of the time she will not help me if I ask, unless my mother asks for me.
It's okay, though. =] I have faith. Maybe someday, she'll surprise me. Maybe it'll be different soon. I got to have faith that everything now will help me build a better future.
I hope things get better! Keep being yourself. ^_^
<3
2007-11-08 11:23:36 · answer #4 · answered by Haine 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That i can't tell you i have the same with my brother and his wife they are nice people and you help them any time you can well ,i crashed my car and my bro lend my his truck and she was calling me all the time asking for the truck she drove me crazy and i gave the truck back OK then i got my car and she broke her leg she call me to tell me she need 'it a ride to the hospital i took her and all see like nothing happen so my friend get ready for more helping even if we tell you no to help him any more you will because is in your nature .
2007-11-08 11:13:26 · answer #5 · answered by freesmile 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Next time he asks you for something, remind him what a putz he was to you when you were in need. He has to learn what a two way street is. He's not the center of the universe.
2007-11-08 11:06:49 · answer #6 · answered by staggerlee337 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you can't divorce bad relatives.
Do not count on him for anything. And, when he asks you for a favor, do not feel obligated to help him out.
2007-11-08 11:15:04 · answer #7 · answered by Cat Lady 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel bad - my brother is just as worthless. Karma caught up to him though and when he needed me - payback was a beeyotch!!!
2007-11-08 11:02:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
by the sound of it, he is narcissitic. don't let him get you down, and don't let him change your obviously generous nature.
2007-11-08 11:03:23 · answer #9 · answered by Minerva 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋