What the heck is wrong with this man? Will he ever call me back?

Question

Him:

36 years old
Daily pot smoker
Goes to bars alone to have beers every day after work
Professional by day, dresses in skate clothes by night
Very quiet, silent type, rarely talks
Very calming personality
Stays out of drama, is good at calming people down
Says when he goes to bars guys always try to fight him for some reason
Always checks out girls
obssessed with sex, asks me for naked text pics all the time
Wants to be married and have kids ASAP
Is always pissed off at one thing or the other
Says he hates all holidays/birthdays, says they are just another day, they are nothing special
Bad relationship with his father, says he was abusive to him as a child and is still rude to him
Very good kisser, good in bed
Good cook
Watches skating videos on youtube ALL THE TIME
Not good at skating, says he used to be
Remininses about his 6-pack when he was young, has a beer belly now
says he would stop smoking weed for the right person

Now you know his personality.

I am 27 years old.

We met earlier this year, and dated for a few months, he told me he wanted to marry me and asked when I wanted to start having kids with him. He always accused me of not wanting the same thing and not being serious when I told him ALL THE TIME I was serious and loved him. He moved without saying goodbye to me when he got a job out of state. A week later called to say he missed me and still wanted me to move down.

We planned for me to move there to him at the end of January when I could save enough $ to not have to work for a while to give me time to find a new job etc. For the first 2.5 months he called me up to 10 times a day, all the time. We texted non stop. I planned to come for a weekend visit and he wanted to pay for half the trip. Then he vanished. He called a week later to apologize and said he didn’t have the $ to pay for my trip down and was embarrassed. I forgave him and took him back.

3 weeks ago I emailed him that I was tired of his push and pull and wanted a straight answer regarding if he wanted to be in the relationship or not. He didn’t respond. It has been a month since we last spoke. I emailed him last week and asked if he was planning to never talk to me again and he replied right away that he is not ignoring me, he thought I was mad at him. I tried to call him but he didn’t answer.

I love him so much. I feel lost without him. Is it over? He never told me its over, just vanished. I cant move on. Help.

Does it mean I am a bad person he doesnt want me? I wish I knew what I did?

Answer 1

Seriously!! Hang up the phone if this loser does happen to call...You will end up in a world of hurt if you keep hanging on to him.

Answer 2

I identify with your feeling completely. I have a similar situation. I am very much in love with a man that has vanished and refused to speak with me. He has not responded to texts,emails, or phone calls. I have been told by many family members and friends to just move on. I really don't think they know how difficult that is without understanding just how to do that. My advice to you is to get very busy with your life. This is what I've done after seeking some professional counseling. It is still not easy because when you are abandoned or left hanging there are so many questions. You have to be strong. I know it is hard, but try not to reach out to him. If he is yours nothing can stop it. He will return. Until that day, pray, get busy doing the things you enjoy, and cry, scream, or whatever you need to do in private, but do not call him. Try googling" how to deal with the silent treatment" This hurts like hell. It's been over a month and I'm still living. You will too.

Answer 3

So, YOU want to make babies with a pot head who goes out drinking everyday and leaves you without saying anything?
You want to know WHY he didnt have the money to send for you?
He spent it on pot liquor and beer hon!
YOU will ALWAYS be 2nd to his pot and beer.
He day dreams of being a great skater but he is too old not and drowns his sorrows in beer and smokes away his stress.
He was determined to marry after only a few months?
And you were GOING TO?
Use your HEAD!
Watch his life for a yr or so, because you are JUST now asking what is wrong with him.Wait until you have known him a year and no more sex until your married.Can you imagine what hole you'd be in right now if you were pregnant?
He needs GOD to deliver him from depression and to help him face reality without the drugs and booze.
By the way, there IS a good reason he is 36 and single, get to know that reason before your screw up your life.K?

Answer 4

This selfish prick does not DESERVE someone as good as you - all that his future holds is getting some bar skank pregnant, and being FORCED to marry him. That - or getting his teeth knocked out in a bar fight, and winding up alone and miserable.

I know that it might be hard to hear - but there are a LOT of better guys out there. His ACTIONS clearly show that he doesn't truly care about you. If you LOVE someone, you don't pull any of the sh*t that he has done up to this point!

Notice that he did NOT stop smoking weed, or ANY of the other things he promised to do for "the one" - even if you DID marry him, he would never change. The ONLY reason he said that is because he KNEW that it was what you WANTED to hear.

I don't mean to come off harsh - but it sounds like you need to see this asshole for what he TRULY is!

Answer 5

First of all, "remininses" is not a word. It is reminisces.

Secondly, why would you want to be with this man if he smokes pot daily? He is obviously crazy and does not know whether or not he wants to be with you forever. He may be saying that he wants to marry you now, but YOU have to look ahead. Is YOUR future with this man looking bright or gloomy? If this is him when you two are only dating, what is he like as a husband? I do not think that he is in this relationship for the right reasons. That is my honest opinion. I'm sorry.

Answer 6

Are you specific weed is all he's doing? He would choose to be disappearing by way of certainty he's off on a bender of types.. it does sound like he's cheating on you in spite of the undeniable fact that. incredibly if he that into intercourse, yet yet no longer attempting at each and every possibility, then he getting it else the area. intercourse is taken below attention certainly one of those subject concerns - the extra advantageous you do it, the extra advantageous you like it. type your description it sort of looks such as you will in all probability choose to attain this plenty extra advantageous proper. additionally, do you smoke weed? in case you do no longer than he could be battling attempting to have the outstanding of the two worlds. I say this as i'm toker and a Cig - smoker. i've got have been given dated women that like one and not the quite a few. it continuously extra approximately issues. So i had to locate a woman who exchange into cool with the two. think of of long and not trouble-free approximately that one. in all probability you basically to smoke a J with the guy.....good success

Answer 7

You're describing a Dr Jeckel-My Hyde personality. "Very calming personality," "Is always pissed off at one thing or the other."

Is he Bi-polar (google search it)? Of course no one here can see the real personality no matter how much you describe it. Corner him into making a commitment.

Where's Ann Landers when you need her?

Answer 8

You love this jerk? Please tell me you are kidding? No you don't love him...you love the idea of him giving up girls, skating videos, pot and his beer belly just for sweet wonderful you. But it's not going to happen. He is a loser. Move on.

Answer 9

Dont even bother with him lol hes a perv and u shouldnt be sleeping with him if you dont really think hes the one!

Answer 10

that mean that he doesnot love you....