I just got engaged a few months ago we havn't planed any wedding details yet. we are both just finishing up school and buying a house and we didn't need any more stress. i love my soon to be husband but there are times when i look down at my ring and i just want to take it off! then i go back and forth in my mind asking am i making the right choice or not! we dated for 4 years and the entire time all i talked about was getting married to him! but now i don't even have a desire to plan the wedding !have you gone threw this and how did you get over it ?!?!?
2007-11-08 10:25:38 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Wow you sound just like me now.
I just got engaged in August and in sept my fiance and I bought a house. Not only that I am finishing up my last year in college. When my fiance and I were dating, I would "dream" about the perfect wedding. I would go look at wedding dresses, try on diamond rings and get all caught up in the moment. I was living the "dream". When I finally got engaged I lost all the "dreams" I used to have. My "dreaming" became a reality and that was scary. I had to realize that this is life and I was no longer in fairy tale land. Its been really hard to get used to, but I love my fiance to death. After reading some feel good stories and talking with friends and family, I feel all better. Relax I am sure every bride goes through this at one time or another. Its part of growing old and leaving the nest.
Good luck to and if you need to talk, just hit me.
2007-11-08 18:07:48 · answer #1 · answered by Bride2Be 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I did not go through this, I knew I wanted to marry my husband early on. We were engaged 2 years before we got married, we both in school, and so I had plenty of time to "back out," but I didn't. It sounds like your not too sure you want to marry this guy. Maybe the two of you should talk it over.
Or if you do want to get married, then maybe you should think about eloping, this way you won't have to plan anything. And if you families would want you to have a "real" wedding then have one in a less stressful time in your life.
2007-11-08 19:07:30 · answer #2 · answered by Amanda Y 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My fiance and I just moved in January. We had talked about getting married but decided it would be too hectic to start doing anything then, knowing that everyone would start asking about our plans. We are just getting engaged now. I totally understand how you feel but RELAX! You don't have to plan the wedding right now just because you got engaged now. Finish school, get yourself settled in your house, and start planning once you can clear your plate.
2007-11-08 18:34:10 · answer #3 · answered by Deanrijo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are having questions if you should get married or not, you should just stay engaged until you are secure you want to get married. Never get married if you have gitters cause maybe you'll regret it
2007-11-08 21:59:09 · answer #4 · answered by Lili 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, not at all. Maybe I'm reading into this too much, but are you sure you want to marry this guy?
2007-11-08 18:34:03 · answer #5 · answered by Bellavita 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i felt like you, but only after my family sarted hassling me and I was disappointed dress-shopping.
2007-11-08 18:35:36 · answer #6 · answered by nova_queen_28 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋