Last weekend my boyfriend's kids who are 3, 5, and 8 stayed over our house and I don't think they had a good time when they were at the house because I wouldn't let them sit in the living room or touch my things since the last time they were here one of the broke my crystal ballerina that costs a lot of money. That wasn't the only thing. Another thing is that his daughter whose 8 walked in on me and him in the tub together. We weren't doing anything dirty we were just making out and she went back and told her mom about it and about what happened with my things. And she got mad and started yelling at me telling me to respect her kids! I do respect them and she needs to back off. What is her problem anyway? I don't get it!
2007-11-08 10:12:54 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She thinks her demon kids are darling little angels.
2007-11-08 10:15:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋
Maybe you and the boyfriend should cool it down a little while the kids are staying with you. It'll just make you want each other more after they leave!
And you can't expect to have kids in a house and not have something get broken! If you plan on having them over, you should probably put aside things that are expensive and might be broken.
Remember, they're kids and want to play. It's probably not right that you and the bo are in the tub while the 3 of them are left alone.
2007-11-08 18:18:40 · answer #2 · answered by Chuck 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
First, the children are young, so accidents will happen. If you don't want things to be broken, put them away, but don't get upset with them for being kids.
Second, I have NEVER known a child to KNOCK . Even with a huge sign on the door in fat bold letters, they will always run right in. There is no such thing as privacy when there are 3 kids in the house, so save the romance for when they are not there.
Third, He should be focused on them while they are there, not in the tub with you. There is a reason she is the ex wife, and it seems to me that it just might have something to do with HIS lack of respect for his own children.
2007-11-08 18:42:29 · answer #3 · answered by aloegirl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let's see if we can make sense of this.
First, is your boyfriend a fling or do you think you will be together any length of time?
Second, does he have a good relationship with his kids?
Third, do you remember being a child yourself? And if you were a child, would you want to visit you?
If you plan to have a future with this man, you need to make peace with the kids. They are not pets, not short term problems, but his children to whom he will be connected forever.
If he has a good relationship with his children, then having them think you are Cruella will be an unnecessary wedge and cause for arguments. If you can really get along with his kids, you have a much better chance of being a successful step family. (You marry/live with him, you marry/live with the kids, they are part of the package.)
If he doesn't have a good relationship with his kids, what kind of relationship might he have with children you and he might have together? (YOU could be the next angry ex with kids.)
Kids deserve to have a place to visit that isn't a minefield of breakables with a mountain of arbitrary rules. When the kids come to visit, pack away the delicate things. If your living room can't be entered by children, it isn't much of a living space. At the very least, if you are unwilling to have them there, it is your job as hostess, to provide them with a comfortable place to be (regardless of how humble that might be,) and fun things to do. Plan an outing, take them to the park, the zoo, go out for pizza, something.
And finally, bathroom and bedroom doors have locks or should have. No kid wants to walk in on naked parents doing anything, nasty or otherwise.
Be the grown-up here. If you are kind and welcoming to the kids, the problem with their mom will disappear.
2007-11-08 18:33:41 · answer #4 · answered by smallbizperson 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh you sad, pathetic woman. How dare you? I'm even more annoyed at your so called boyfriend. As a father, he has responsibilities to his children to keep them in a happy, loving environment. You do NOT respect his children- forbidding them from parts of your house; are you for real?! If you had your own children with this man, how would you feel should the situation be reversed?
He needs to put his children before you, since you arent willing to accept them.
As they stay with you for only a short amount of time, could you not monitor behaviour and bathe seperately to avoid confusion for the children? Out of respect for them?
By the way, who was minding these young children while you were both in the tub?
You boyfriend's ex-wife let you off lightly- I would stop them staying with their father if you were part of the irresponsible package.
Grow up- you may not be a parent, but when you get involved with someone who does, you need to start acting like one. Its part of the deal.
2007-11-08 18:23:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have you spent much time around kids? You outta put your breakables in a safe place, and try the lock on the door. I am happily married, but if it were me I don't think it would be a good memory for the children to "see" dad and his girlfriend naked in a tub. If this thing works out long term(marriage), you gotta make nice and try to get along esp. with the kids, unless you wanna be the mean stepmother. The mom is trying to protect her kids from unnecessary harm is all.
2007-11-08 18:20:59 · answer #6 · answered by Lizkin 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are a selfish woman. First, if you do not want your valuables to get broke, then you put them up. You don't forbid them to go into the living room. I could understand it not letting them go in there while eating, but that's besides the point. The only room that they should be forbidden is your bedroom. Second, children that young should not be left alone while you take a bath with their father. But if you two insist on taking a chance on the children being hurt while you to ignore them to satisfy your selfish needs, then at least lock the door (DUH)! Thirdly, I wouldn't have been so easy on you if you did that crap with my children. I would file charges against you for endangering the lives of minors (by leaving them alone), I think she did the right thing for getting mad at you for being so negligent with the children.
2007-11-08 18:54:28 · answer #7 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are the young immature girlfriend of a formerly married man. When the kids are there, show respect for his previous life. You are not only involved with this man, but also his children and his ex-wife. If you really do not know why she was upset, then you need more help than a yahoo group can offer.
2007-11-08 18:18:39 · answer #8 · answered by Chris O 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Kids break things...it's their job...smart people put things they don't want broken out of harms way. Not letting the kids sit in the living room because you are not smarter then they are is mean....The bath room visit was your fault...bathroom doors have LOCKS! you know them things that keep kids from walking in on you while your getten it on with your b/f......you don't get it!? DOH! If was their mom I'd be mad too!!
2007-11-08 18:32:10 · answer #9 · answered by MC 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Accidents happen with kids, it's one thing if you tell them over and over again, but frankly one time and they can no longer sit in the living room? Bit extreme are we?
2007-11-08 18:16:54 · answer #10 · answered by jay k 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Honey she isnt the idiot! Play in the tub with the kids instead of the boyfriend.Do the romantic stuff when the kids arent there!Quit being so damn selfish.
2007-11-08 18:17:18 · answer #11 · answered by Kev L 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋