pemy friends and family always call me to do stuff like pay their bills order stuff and do this and that and say its not like you work so i know its not a problem. I dont mind helping people ecspecially when they are computer illiterate but its very stessful for me to do this for everyone at least 5 or 6 people everyday needs something be it look this up look that up like I dont have children at home that keep me busy they just dont sit around and look sweet they are very active. and constantly get on my nerves along with them always asking me for something I am at my wicks end and feel as though im going to explode is it a nice way to say no? I know that if i gently said im busy they would be like for what all you do is sit on your a** all day it aint like you work you got time. so what should i do?
2007-11-08 09:31:46 · 7 answers · asked by shimmyshimmer 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My husband tells me to do the same I think I may have a problem with hurting peoples feelings but i guess they dont care about mine if they talk to me the way they do
2007-11-08 09:44:37 · update #1
The hardest word to say is no. However, you need to start saying it.
I would geuss by your question that your domintae behavior would be that you are supportive of others. This is a good behavior to have, unless it causes you to want to explode. People cannot help but use you for theses things, because you are so willing to do it. Even electicity takes the path of least resistance. Stop making it easy and they will find a different way to get what they need.
It would be best just to come out and let them know how you feel, but if that is too, hard for you then start making excuses as to why you can't do it right now. Forget to do it. This path will of course cause problems in your relationships with these users. I would not be offended if someone told me thay could not do something for me, I would appreciate the honesty. Take this into consideration, if they love you they will understand, if they don't, who needs them.
Be firm, be honest and you will find a happier life.
2007-11-08 09:50:59 · answer #1 · answered by Yoda 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Simply inform that that you do work now. You've started a "helper" company and now charge for errands. Set a fee scale and start making some money.
2007-11-08 18:15:09 · answer #2 · answered by Critter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say NO and if they don't like it to kiss your a.. Being a stay at home mom is very admirable. You're lucky you can afford to do it. Your children will benefit greatly and you will NOT be selfish telling these others to kiss off...Good luck.
2007-11-08 17:39:49 · answer #3 · answered by Irish 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Start charging a fee for every "favor" you do.
Say, "I'd be happy to order that on Amazon, for a mere $10.00 fee".
Or, "Sure I can research that for you, but I charge $10 for each half-hour".
It will get your point across without you saying no....yet reminding them that your time is valuable.
2007-11-08 17:38:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
No is a powerful word. Use it often. You can decline politely.
2007-11-08 17:56:40 · answer #5 · answered by Macca ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say NO, not so politely.
2007-11-08 17:38:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't answer you phone or doorbell.
2007-11-08 17:53:12 · answer #7 · answered by oldknowitall 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋