i dont know how to do this :(?

Question

my boifriends bday is next week and he wants me to "go down on him" ive never done this (its been a rule) but he tells me that this is something that he really needs in a relationship. normally id say no and leave it at that but i really love this guy unlike any other and im really considering doing it for his bday but i dont know how:( can ne one tell me hows the best way/technique to do this?? i really need to know he says i have the potential to be really good at it bc of the way i kiss but idk? help!! plz

Answer 1

Dont be scared. Just work up a lot of spit and kind of hold it in your mouth letting it get really wet then spit it on the tip of his penis. Then slowly, slowly work you mouth over the head making sure that just your lips have contact with the head, and not your teeth. Just kind of move your lips up and down over his head and shaft, if you can take all of that, making sure you keep your mouth really wet with saliva. Its sort of like sucking a lollipop, except no teeth. If you can put your hand on the base of his shaft and move it kind of like if you were giving a hand job or play with his balls, cup them, gently rub them, and suck on them a little, if you do that for your boyfriend, he will love you forever, for some men oral sex is a big thing, but honey, if your giving make sure your getting as well!

Answer 2

How old are you? Does this Guy truly love you? or is it just "words"
I am a mum of teenage girls, I am not about to give actual information freely. But, would like to make it perfectly clear to you that if you do not feel comfortable with doing "that" then you don't have to and he should respect your decision.
I fear that by him telling you that is something "he really needs" he is manipulating your emotions. Personally think that you should WAIT until you pretty much know for sure you have met "the right guy" as one thing leads to another....
I can tell you for certain there are a lot of guys out there that will tell you all sorts to get their thrill.

Answer 3

Ok first of all ...you shouldnt be with anyone that tells you that he "needs this" in a relationship. The only thing you need in a relationship is the person to be honest and faithful.......sexual things are purely something that should happen only when both people are ready!!!! IT would be easy to give advice on how to do it when you are ready...but I dont like that this guy shows no respect to your feelings!! Oral sex isnt a small step....make sure you are 100% comfortable, ready and with the rigth guy before you go there. The right guy wouldnt even want it until YOU are ready!!!! STICK UP FOR YOURSELF BABE!!!! :)

Answer 4

You say you have a "rule" so it must be for the reason you aren't comfortable with something you've never done before. Your boyfriend may be a great guy but until you are ready for this very personal act then say "no". You don't need a manual for this because it will all be OK when you want to preform. Don't let birthdays and anniversaries become milestones for loving that way. He just wants it and you can when you are ready and not thinking about it.

Answer 5

Part of making love is the pleasure you give another. This would give him lots of pleasure. Maybe he'll reciprocate.

First you need to set ground rules.
1) Wash his privates throughly with soap and water.
2) He does not push your head or hold your head down.
3) Decide if you want him to *** in your mouth or not and decide how to handle this.

Now read the link. It is a tasteful guide to fellatio.

Answer 6

why do you want put something in your mourh that doesn't belong there in the first place.anyways get a lolipop and practice that will be the head,you suck,lick up and down.get a bananas or a cucumber and again practice this will be his shaft see how far you can get it down your throat.thats what you call deep throat.don't use your teeth.that part you used head movement back and forth.good luck try not to swallow un less you love the taste.

Answer 7

my husband once told me that any guy who wants a bj wants a power trip. It's not at all pleasant for the woman, and to a guy, well, he's not thinking about how much he loves you when you're at it. My hubby also said if a girl knew what a guy thought while this was happening, no girl would ever do it. Guys think it's the biggest power trip (though they'll say it's a turn-on and it makes you more sexy) I'd sugest he take his birthday and shove it if he wants to compromise what you've allready made a rule about.
My husband and I are very hinest with eachother and he wouldn't say it if he didn't know how it was for guys. I mean think about it, how does giving him a bj gratify you? Don't be fooled, you have a mind, use it.

Answer 8

This guy sounds scary personally i wouldn't do it because you don't fee comfortable its his birthday buy him some think in stead of disrespecting yourself if you had this as a rule then you didn't want to do it but now his making you feel bad don't be a push over girl stick with your morel..

If you end up doing it be slow and go up and down make sure your teeth don't get him then move your tongue around (like a lolly pop)

Answer 9

Honey, how old are you? That's one of those things that's better left to later in a relationship. I'm 23 and I've only done it a few times.

I personally find it really rude of him to say he "needs it in a relationship." A relationship and sex/sexual acts are two very different things.

When you are ready, it will come naturally. If you try to force it before, it will be awkward and neither of you will enjoy it.

Answer 10

First off, how old are you? If you are under the age of 18, I say DO NOT DO IT. I was 15 when I first experienced anything sexual, and I regret it! I did it because we were "In Love" but it didn't last. Second, if you are going to do it....make sure he doesn't have some STD (sexually transmitted disease).