What do I do?

Question

My husband has 2 children both girls from a previous marriage. We have one child together. we have been married 4 years together 6.

My problem is his 10 year old has decided she wants to go to mom. To the point that she has told the school we are all being physically abused and the school of course contacted children and youth and the nightmare has begun. The girls and I had a meeting with the woman yesterday from there. She asked me if at anytime I've been physically abused by him. NO I have never been threatened. Looked at the 10 year old asked her if she believes it's happening, she said yes and that was the end of them believing me. He has not raised a finger to anyone in the house. I need some advice on what I should do, my first instinct tells me to scoop up my 3 year old and run screaming, because at this point they can come and if any of us have so much as a bruise they get taken and he goes to jail. Looking to see if anyone has ever been in the same situation?

We have told her that this is not the way to get to mom, that if they take her she goes elsewhere. We have talked to her until we are blue in the face about this it didn't stop her. She says her mom told her to do this. I don't believe that, she has access to her mom whenever she wants.

Answer 1

Your 10 year old has some serious problems and if they are not addressed she and you will have some really hard years ahead of you. Because if he get away with this she will try it again.

Have you considered let her go to her Mom with the understanding that she cannot come back for at least 1 year. So she had better be sure it's what he wants. And that is on the condition that her Mom is a fit person for her

The next choice would be a military school. Those are fun. She sees no one in the family has has do do his homework military style. I threatened my son with that one time and he straightened up really quickly when he realize we were actually going to send him. I got brochures and information and registration forms. I told him that children who didn't not want to be a cooperative part of this family need to learn some discipline and that would be a good place for him to learn. ......Worked for a long time. But I don't know if they have these that take girls.

What a problem. I hope it works out.

Answer 2

You should check out the step mom support groups on Yahoo because there are women there that have been through similar situations. They will be able to offer support.

Step Moms. Yahoo Groups

Answer 3

Have you tried sitting down and seriously talking to his 10 year old. Find out why she is doing this, who gave the idea and what ever else. Not to mention i would punish her for lying and explain to her what could happen.

Answer 4

Maybe have the husband and the ten-yr-old take separate polygraph tests.

Sounds like the ten-yr-old needs some professional help.

Answer 5

I would try to explain to her that lying is not the answer. Explain that you're not trying to take her moms place. Make sure and let her know that you are there for her though if she needs to talk aout anything.