I really enjoy dancing and do a lot of it, but not because I'm looking for love, I have a boyfriend. Because many guys that dance are interested in hooking up, I'm always careful to keep my distance. Then one night I was talking with a guy (age approx 22-23), we talked about my boyfriend, then he still asked me if I was interested in taking a dance class with him. So I said yes. Comfortable that he knew about my boyfriend, I assumed he just wanted to be friends, so I have been very open with him, and allowed myself to be close to him. That was about 6 months ago. Very recently, we started emailing back and forth, and I thought it prudent to make sure he still remembered our original conversation, so I made a casual reference to my boyfriend in an email. Since then--nothing. No email, though I've emailed him a couple of times. I like this guy, and I want to be friends, but maybe he doesn't. What do you think? Any advice??
2007-11-08 08:30:41 · 5 answers · asked by BECCA 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In answer to several pointed responses, yes, my boyfriend does know about my friend--and doesn't mind.
2007-11-08 08:50:10 · update #1
Also, should I go to the dance tomorrow? He will be there...
2007-11-08 08:58:30 · update #2
He was definitely interested in you, and was trying to ignore your first reference. Since you agreed to take the class with him, he took that as a sign that your boyfriend wasn't that important to you (since most girls wouldn't do that). There's nothing wrong with what you did, but as a general rule, most people take it as flirting when you spend time with them in spite of the fact that there is a significant other in the picture. His feelings are proabably hurt because he realizes from the 2nd boyfriend reference that he has no chance. It is proabably the best thing for you too though, as it doesn't take long to develop feelings for other people that you are spending time with.
2007-11-08 08:36:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's finally taken the hint. It's very difficult for a man and a woman to be "just friends" without someone wanting to take it to the next level (unless one of the two is gay) whether it be you or him. I'm sure your boyfriend would not approve, so if you love him and care about him, the way it sounds like you do, then don't even bother being friends with this guy. It's just out of respect for your man. I'm not saying you can't have friends of the opposite sex, if you're in a relationship, but you wouldn't want your man being friends with a girl that you know like him romantically. It just wouldn't make you feel comfortable.
After all, if you agree to be friends with him and you two get to know eachother and start spending time together, do you think that he's going to like you as just a friend instead of something more? I think not, but best wishes to you.
-Knowledge24
2007-11-08 08:37:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
For one does your boyfriend know about your "friend"? If not your already in the wrong. I think it is impossible to be friends with someone who is already attracted to you. Even after you tell him that you have a boyfriend that will not stop his attraction for you, men dont seem to get it like women do. I think this man is interested in you and got jealous when you mentioned your man. Women and Men cant be friends honey unless he is GAY then move on....
2007-11-08 08:41:06 · answer #3 · answered by CurlySue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you mentioned that you had a boyfriend then it's his fault if he wants more. You stated that clearly from the begining. It might pain him to see you with someone else so that might be why he is being distant.
2007-11-08 08:35:32 · answer #4 · answered by DAR76 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just keep it honest, if he has a problem with you not being single then a friendship could never work
2007-11-08 08:33:56 · answer #5 · answered by grayeyeddame 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋