My friend is having a 2nd baby and she asked me for some maternity clothing. I wrapped them up in a nice hat box and presented them to her. We were both excited. She knows I plan to have more babies in the future. I gave her maybe 10 pieces and see her as much as 3 times per week. I haven't seen her wear one thing. That is okay except I'm thinking she didn't like them and I imagine them just sitting there ... should I ask her about them or what? What is the best etiquette here?
It has been a couple of months now just so you know.
2007-11-08 08:20:03 · 13 answers · asked by Sleek 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I would just say, "hey, do you ever wear that....I gave you" How does is feel?" If she seems slow to answer or awkward that probably means she does wear it. But what do I know, I am a guy.
2007-11-08 08:29:01 · answer #1 · answered by Googler 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It all depends on the stage of the clothes and the current size she is right now. It could be a possibility that she either out grew them or they are too big right now. Just ask your friend if the clothes fit okay and if she likes the style of clothing. And if she is a true friend she would be honest. Also, another possibilty is that if the clothes are really nice, she could be using them at a apporpiate time instead of louging around the house in them. Key is be honest yet descret.
2007-11-08 09:12:35 · answer #2 · answered by ladilove 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you gave her the clothes did you make a point of saying you would want them back one day? If that's the case I would ask sooner rather than later. They may have already been shipped off to charity. There's still time to get your stuff back. Remember, you should only lend something out if you can afford to give it away. You might never see your stuff again. And remember, other people don't have a vested interest in your stuff so even if you did get it back most likely it will be trashed! That goes for every item you lend!
2007-11-08 09:04:19 · answer #3 · answered by doglover 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you 'gave' the clothes to her, they are hers, to do with as she pleases. If you loaned them to her say this, I haven't seen you wearing any of the maternity clothes I loaned you. Did you change your mind, or maby you didn't like them and don't know how to tell me, at any rate, if you have no more use for them I would like to have them back, since I don't plan to stop having babies yet.
2007-11-08 13:45:05 · answer #4 · answered by angels_angelsarehere 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't say anything - she may have worn them on days when you didn't see her, or she may feel wierd wearing them in front of you. I know that I have given clothes to friends (one in particular) who wore them but not in front of me - she told me that she felt like she would be copying me if she wore them when I was around, especially because she felt like they looked better on me...
When it comes time that you need the clothes back because you are pregnant again, or even just after she delivers, it would be fine to mention that when she gets a chance you'd like to pick the clothes up so that you can use them again.
Good luck
2007-11-08 08:43:20 · answer #5 · answered by Mirage 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't say anything. It could be she said yes just to be nice and really doesn't like the clothing. She probably doesn't want to hurt your feelings. She also could be wearing these things when you don't see her.
I'd just leave it alone. It's not worth making a problem over.
2007-11-08 08:24:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
hmmmm..... maybe she's selling them out the back of a baby carriage down behind the monkey bars in the park.
The cost of raising children goes up all the time.
I think she's just socking away some pin money.
2007-11-08 08:43:57 · answer #7 · answered by Ronatnyu 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
were these hand me downs you expect to get back?
I would just say, "I haven't seen you in any of the clothes I gave you.. did you not like them?"
I don't think that is too pushy.
2007-11-08 08:23:56 · answer #8 · answered by Van is due 5/8/08! 5 · 1⤊ 4⤋
Don't be an "Indian" giver, you gave them now forget them, you gave no stipulations as to what you wanted done with the clothing in the event she didn't like them.
2007-11-08 08:24:31 · answer #9 · answered by Angelina N 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
why does it matter? perhaps they didn't fit or she doesn't like them and didn't want to hurt your feelings-seems strange that this would even bother you.
2007-11-08 08:45:22 · answer #10 · answered by Lunaeclipz 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋