I have 4 kids and we wanted that many, people seem to think it's bad or something.
2007-11-08 08:04:48 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
That you wanted them and can afford them.
My mom and daddy had seven kids. No one asked them why they had that many kids that i know of. They had the money to raise us, we never went without anything but the most important thing we never went without was love.
Our ages now are 33, 30, 27-Me, 26, 23, 18 & 12
Think about this though: My mama and papa had 21 kids together but that was back in the day. I never ever heard anyone asking them or anyone why they had that many.
If you can love and afford them then have as many as you want.
I myself only have one child and i have had people say to me , your 27 and only have one kid?
Maybe that is all i want to have. It is no ones buisness.
I guess people are expecting me to have had 4-5 kids by now.
2007-11-08 08:18:22 · answer #1 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you get rude comments for having children, I get rude comments for NOT having children.
When are people going to get their own lives?
I'm a 20 year old college student. Not the time to become a mother, yet I'm a horrible person for that.
Sometimes I let the people have it and don't back down, other times I just don't care and walk away.
I am who I am!
You are who you are- a happy mother of 4!
ps: I'd LOVE to have a big family- when the time is right. 3 or 4 is ideal!
2007-11-08 08:15:39 · answer #2 · answered by Music 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Honey I want 4 kids too, and I constantly get a look like, "Omg....wait, you're serious?"
Geesh. It wasn't too long ago that people didn't think anything of having 4 kids!
When they give you a look of disbelief or say something rude, such as "Why?" smile sweetly and say, "Well sweetie, I don't want to take up your time explaining my reasonings to you..."
Honestly, I say it kind of rude back (I'm thinking in my head, Geesh, yeah like I'm really going to waste MY breath defending myself against you and your thick skull! I don't say that part though hehe).
I have a friend who has 7 children....because she wanted them...and though all her children are grown and she's now in her late 50s, she STILL gets crap about it.
Basically, don't waste your time worrying about what other people think. As long as you can afford financially and emotionally to love and raise 4 children, you go girl!
Good luck :)
2007-11-08 09:16:10 · answer #3 · answered by kiki 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if it is 4 with 4 different fathers, i can see the point. but if it is all with the same partner, well, then you will have a nice big family around the dinner table when you two are old and grey. besides, i know a lot of catholic families that have a lot of kids.
my husband is the youngest or 7.
and 4 isnt THAT many...i mean, it is a handful, but who is to say what too many is!
2007-11-08 08:15:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
I don't have any kids yet, but I hope we'll have 4-5 children. My luv and I agree on it and are "working" on it ;)
I think it's outrgeous that people judge you for a choice that is really understandable but ...there will always be people to judge and comment our actions. I guess the best way to respond is not to show them that you care about their opinion.
Tell them you feel blessed to have such a big family. Let them think. They'll might never understand what they're missing on ;)
Good luck xxx
2007-11-08 08:15:02 · answer #5 · answered by Fannie 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Tell them to mind their own business. That's what I would do but I'm a pretty blunt person. I come from a big family (oldest of 9 kids) and I want a big family too. It's so much fun, there's never a dull moment:)
2007-11-08 08:14:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Congrats to you! I'd have that many or more if I could talk the hubby into it! Those people are being rude, so if they actually say something to you, say, "Well, we were thinking about stopping with two, but we had so much extra love AND money, we decided we could have more!" That'll make 'em feel stupid.
2007-11-08 08:15:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
You could simply respond that you love your big happy family. It is nobody's business but your own how many kids you have, of course you could always just ignore them too. Just try to rise above the nasty comments and don't sink to their level, although I'm sure it is tempting! Good luck.
2007-11-08 08:08:30 · answer #8 · answered by ♀Redheaded Sunshine☼ 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sorry this happens to you.
Two words usually works for me "real classy" said in a really sarcastic way...works best when used along with a dismissive look.
What's wrong with 4 kids anyway???
2007-11-08 08:09:54 · answer #9 · answered by Bella 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
People will always say something. My husband and I have only one child. I can't tell you how many times people asked me "When are you having another?" or "Why do you only have one?" It comes down to the fact that people are very insensitive and are too nosy for their own good!
2007-11-08 08:18:51 · answer #10 · answered by rojo_jojo 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋