My bf is 24, I'm 27. He doesn't have much experience...I do. He can't even handle talking about sex, let alone HAVING it. It's like a once or twice a month occurance (way too infrequent in my opinion). We've talked about it and he says he's just shy and also doesn't want to be the "typical" guy. I get rejected every time I try to initiate anything sexual with him, so I've finally given up. But the problem is, he rarely initiates it himself. Other than this our relationship is awesome. He's my best friend and we get along incredibly well. So what gives? What is his deal and what do I do about it? While I know sex isn't everything, it does mean a lot to me to share that experience with the one I love. So what do I do???
2007-11-08 07:48:57 · 8 answers · asked by medgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I forgot to mention: I'm to the point now where I don't' even really want sex because I feel like the problem is me. I figure if I was sexy enough he wouldn't be able to NOT have sex with me. I'm decently attractive and am in pretty good shape, but does he just not find me sexually attarctive maybe?
2007-11-08 08:01:31 · update #1
Sounds like you'd be better off as friends.
2007-11-08 07:53:46 · answer #1 · answered by G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he needs to find a way to get over his"shyness" or else you will leave him. I'm serious, express your frustration to him. It sounds like he might have a low sex drive, some men and women are just like that.
2007-11-08 15:57:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is something somewhere that will turn him on in an instant...
You'll laugh at this, but for my BF, it was me dressed up as Jessica Rabbitt.... but I had to have the dress, makeup and the voice.......
2007-11-08 15:56:03 · answer #3 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dress up in a skimpy little outfit. that'll be the obviuos answer to your question. i've seen girls who aren't even attractive suddenly turn me on like a light switch when they dress up. give it a try.
2007-11-08 16:22:47 · answer #4 · answered by P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so what do you do? i don't think you wanna go there...
maybe he's gay? or was molested by a female relative when he was younger? or maybe you remind him of his mom or elder sister?
i think it's your best bet to remain as friends.
2007-11-08 16:01:21 · answer #5 · answered by yellahfellah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probably feels inadequate in bed since he doesnt have much experience and you do
2007-11-08 15:52:52 · answer #6 · answered by livelaughlove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come over and we will talk about it.
2007-11-08 17:00:04 · answer #7 · answered by david b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe its you
2007-11-08 15:53:51 · answer #8 · answered by modeerhntr2 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋