I'm watching my cousin's daughter, she is 2. I have been watching her for almost 3 months now, Mon-Thurs from 12-6pm. I also have a 3 & 9 year old of my own ,and watch my sister's daughters--3 & 8. The problem I am having with watching her is that almost every week so far there are a couple of days that they don't bring her and they don't call me untill after it is already time for them to drop her off. So basically my day is wasted because I end up waiting around for them to drop her off and they don't, I could be out doing things I need to get done. I don't want them to be mad but I just don't want to babysit for them any more. Also when they don't bring her, I don't get paid---being a stay at home mom, I need the money and I have another babysitting job lined up that pays more and is reliable--meaning I'll get paid no matter what. What should I do?
2007-11-08 07:45:02 · 11 answers · asked by LiveLaughLove 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I would explain the situation. Just say that you need to know whether or not they are bringing her and that you've been offered something more permanent and would love to take it, but that you can't if their daughter is with you. Chances are, they'll change their ways, up your pay, or find other arrangements.
2007-11-08 07:54:57 · answer #1 · answered by Sit'nTeach'nNanny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be upfront and honest. Tell her that while you have enjoyed the time you have spent with her child, an opportunity for better pay and a more predictable schedule has come up, and you feel it is for the best that they make other arrangements. Don't make this about how she is a bad client. Let it all be about your advancement, she'll have to be understanding of that. Make sure you give her a week (or two if possible) notice to find other services, but don't let her extend you past the notice you give. Don't let her give you a guilt trip. Be firm, and be prepared for her to get angry. She won't stay angry in the long run, but she will be at first, but it will mostly be to make you feel guilty. Don't give in.
2007-11-08 16:08:22 · answer #2 · answered by missbeans 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would sit her down and say if this situation continues with you not bringing her and i am expecting her to be here then i am not going to be able to babysit for you anymore. and explain to her that you wait around for her to show up and you have other jobs lined up that you turn down because you are expecting her to be there. and when she doesn't show up you are losing out on money you need. and of course she is going to be mad because she is going to think that because you are family you shouldn't be doing this to her, but its not like that at all. she should understand obviously she understands the need to make otherwise she would be a stay at home to. and tell her if she isn't going to be bringing her to give you more notice so you can watch someone else's child. i know that family matters but in this day and age its getting harder and harder for women to be stay at home mothers and every little bit helps. and if she is a decent person she will understand. good luck, i hope it works out for you. stay at home mother of 3.
2007-11-08 16:10:00 · answer #3 · answered by Dan D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could tell them you can't do it anymore, or give them another chance. Explain to them that if they do not call and cancel til last minute that you will still have to charge them, because you were expecting them. Also bring up that, if they do not want to do that, you have someone else that will take her "spot". I work at a center, and we charge whether the child comes or not, because we have salary people that need to be there whether the child is there or not.
2007-11-08 16:12:44 · answer #4 · answered by autismcaregiver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just say, "I have really enjoyed helping you out with your daughter but I would appreciate you finding some other arrangements for daycare. A job has come up for me and I have decided to take it."
2007-11-08 15:50:19 · answer #5 · answered by Cathy K 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be straight up and honest. tell them that if they were at a regular daycare and they didn't bring her they would still have to pay, so they need to pay you. if not then you need to find someone that will pay because this is your job and how you make your money.
2007-11-08 16:26:20 · answer #6 · answered by sarcastic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them if they dont keep up with their word then they shouldnt be expecting you to keep yours. and that you cant just wait around all day when you could be doing what u need to, to keep a living. u have a family of your own you need to take care of too. just tell them what u told us on here. they'll understand if they are understanding and reasonable.
2007-11-08 15:55:58 · answer #7 · answered by wondering.. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you just need to be upfront with them. They aren't reliable or paying you - you need to be available for someone who is both of those.
2007-11-08 17:09:00 · answer #8 · answered by Proud Navy Wife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them there you have things in life that need to be done and i cant babysit for you anymore sorry for the inconvence thats what i did
2007-11-08 15:48:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I WOULD JUST TELL THEM UP FRONT THAT YOU HAVE ANOTHER OPPORTUNITY AND THE PAY WILL BE BETTER THEY KNOW YOUR SITUATION AND TELL THEM YOU NEED THE MONEY TELL THEM THAT YOU COUNTED ON THEM BUT THEY HAVE BEEN TAKING TIME OFF AND THAT IT SHORTS YOU ON YOUR BILLS AND YOU CAN NOT AFFORD IT
2007-11-12 14:01:30 · answer #10 · answered by LADY_FIRE_1958 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋