It is extremely difficult to be both a good father and a good husband? Same question for the women (wife/mother).
2007-11-08 07:43:49 · 30 answers · asked by Shat Splatterson 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
It depends on the kind of man you are. Me being a self-absorbed and totally selfish gay man would find it impossible to be a father and husband, not to mention a good one.
If you're a nurturing individual, then no. You'll have less difficulty with these roles.
I hope you find the answers you seek.
2007-11-08 07:48:30 · answer #1 · answered by ►solo 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No. Of course it all depends on what you define as good. Many men are both good husbands and good fathers. I believe I am married to one. Likewise, there are many good mothers and good wifes. An example of my "good" husband. He is there for the children when they need him. He is fair in discipline (most of the time). We support each other in parenting. He is extremely caring of me and supports me in everything I do. He is romantic and loving. And he helps huge amounts around the house - more than I expect. example: right now as I am wiling away time on the computer he is taking our daughter to school, washing the car and then washing all the floors. I am about to get moving for the day. He has the day off and can only think of ways to help me. He is a gem! I am in Austalia and its now 5 to 8am. I am now thinking of ways I can be a good mother and wife today. Of course we all have our days when we can't be everything to everyone. But....extremely difficult - no I wouldn't say that.
2007-11-08 15:55:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a balancing act, but as long as you are a sensible person its not extremely difficult.
There may be times when one job or the other needs precedence, but it should all even out.
The most important thing in raising a good family is the respect the mother and father give each other, everything else grows out of that. That is a huge part of being a good parent, because children need the security they sense when parents are loving and respectful of each other.
Your children tend to imitate behaviors they seen in their parents, if your kids don't behave to your liking, look to yourself first.
2007-11-08 16:04:31 · answer #3 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to give 100% to your children as well as your spouse at the same time, however, it can be done. I tried to give more attention to our children while we were raising them, knowing that that time would fly by (which it did). At the same time I gave all the possible attention I could to my wife, while we were raising the kids. I knew that some day it would be just my wife and myself at home. My wife and I have been empty nesters for seven years now, and we still are best friends, and love each other more than we ever thought possible. We appreciate every mintue we can spend together.
I thank God everyday for my wonderful wife, family, and my life.
2007-11-08 16:00:55 · answer #4 · answered by Merl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no not nessisarily. It depends on the father/husband (in a females case)... you can be a good mother and wife as long as your husband is a good father... when there are differences in parenting issues and beliefs then... yes, it could be true. i.e. you dont believe in spanking and your husband spanks your kid... its all about balance!
2007-11-08 15:55:31 · answer #5 · answered by Mommy to 1+triplets 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not hard as long as there is balance, not mom taking care of the kids all the time, cooking, cleaning, taking care of household duties and working and dad is twirling his thumbs and when he's ready to be intimate with her get mad when she's too tired and vice versa. All the responsibilities should be shared unless she's a stay at home mom with school age children-then THERE IS ABSOLUTELY NO EXCUSE. Xarm I absolutely LOVE your answer and I am happy for you guys.
2007-11-08 15:49:00 · answer #6 · answered by madeam3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I do not agree with this. If you are a good father, then you aree being a good husband. Both take a lot of time and work, but I think in general they go hand in hand!!
2007-11-08 15:46:37 · answer #7 · answered by ^i^ Mommy of Angel Babies ^i^ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The responsibilites for a husband are not exclusive for a father. They are very similar, just need a little tweaking. I've never met a great father who was a horrible husband, and vice versa!
2007-11-08 15:47:19 · answer #8 · answered by aristotle_inabottle 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, If you're a good person, I'm sure you'd be a good father/mother and husband/wife
2007-11-08 15:48:03 · answer #9 · answered by kristenterf 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. I think that being a good father makes a man a good husband and vice versa.
2007-11-08 15:46:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋