My boyfriend get anger over lots of little things and explodes into yelling and cursing at least once or twice a day. He never get violent, but he does yell at me like this and makes me cry. I don't know how to talk to him without making him even more mad. I just want him to learn to controll his anger and to express it without having to belittle and offend me.
2007-11-08 07:11:57 · 15 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
a lot of guys have anger/ temper problems and they know it. My boyfriend is kinda the same, i kept on tellin him that if he doesnt stop yelling at me for no reason or stupid reason then im gonna ignore him for a while. say: "i deserve and should be treated better than this, when you yell at me it makes me feel sad and you even make me cry sometimes, i dont like when you do that it makes me think that u dont care if u hurt my feelings or not" talk to him and if he get mad at u and start yelling again then just ignore him for a while, it works, i did it with my boyfriend and now everytime he yells he hold it back cuz he knows whats gonna happen if he doesnt, talk to him first if warming-up doesnt do much, then start the real work-out haha
2007-11-08 07:21:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not in a good relationship at all! He will one day go from yelling to hitting you if he doesn't go to anger management to get his anger under control. Don't stick around and wait for the day to come where his anger is directed (physically) at you. Bad enough he yells and belittles you already. Leave and say you will only go back once he gets help.
2007-11-08 07:21:12 · answer #2 · answered by Bears Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out now or attend some sort of Anger Management counseling with him. If you don't things will only get worse and eventually it may get physical. Yelling is how it usually starts and then it builds up and turns into physical abuse. You may not think so now, but when he's slapping you around in a dark apartment then you'll understand what I mean. Don't let it get to that point. I Don't mean to be so graphic, but I've seen these types of relationships escalate into fatal outcomes. Please take my advice, I don't want anything bad to happen to you. Best wishes!
-Knowledge24
2007-11-08 07:18:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this. But been there done that married him and divorced. It was never towards me at first. I thought he was just protecting me being that way. It will get worse. I know first hand get out thats not a happy place to be theres many other nice guys out there its not worth the stress worries or confusion. Find someone healthy hes not it. I'm so sorry. I had hopes too. It doesnt get better. He will always be on the defensive it will never be easy to talk to him, its just not possible.
2007-11-08 07:25:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's not on drugs, something is eating him inside. So saying hatred eats you alive.Bottom line...it's all up to him who has to come to terms within himself. If you really love him, it will be worth it, for both of you. Make a video of him for him, he might be surprised himself. Patience & earplugs for when he becomes extremly vocal.
As long as there is verbal abuse, I would suggest not bringing any children into the picture.
Lastly, you leave. But, be assured life is not a pretty picture as in Romance novels,TV or other happy loving Movies. Do you have what it takes to help your mate through this?
2007-11-08 07:43:18 · answer #5 · answered by 2Janus2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not in a healthy relationship right now. He may not be violent now, but that does not mean that he cannot become violent. I think that you should write it down and give it to him so that he has no choice but to pay attention and he won't be able to cut you off. Let him know how much you care. If that doesn't work out maybe you should reconsider the relationship.
2007-11-08 07:16:58 · answer #6 · answered by pinkythediamond 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not going to happen. He needs someone to treat him like **** so he knows how it feels, and what other people feel when he does it to them.
A nice *** whooping wouldn't hurt either!
If these two suggestions aren't in your character, MOVE ON BEFORE THE WORDS TURN INTO PUNCHES.
Or not... It's up to you.
Just don't make the age old mistake of thinking you can change your mate. He has to want to change for himself.
Feel me?
2007-11-08 07:21:23 · answer #7 · answered by Califiyah 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to anger management classes together and discuss some of your issues there.
2007-11-08 07:22:56 · answer #8 · answered by toomanyquestions 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I get angry to but I know it not healthy and it will get worst before it get better. He needs anger management class, before that anger turn into violent.
2007-11-08 07:20:30 · answer #9 · answered by bert bert 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE HIM! you dont deserve some guy who cant control his anger around his girl! Take it from me someone who had (HAD) a SEVER anger problem, that if he cant learn to control it around you he never will I know I never ever yelled at my girl in fact if anyhting you should be what MAKES him CALM DOWN get it?
2007-11-08 08:58:24 · answer #10 · answered by christmasdnc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋