He now works earning $13.50 an hour. We don't have that kind of money lying around so want to pay by credit card, but since the judge put out a warrant out on him they want cash. We have been dealing with Deputy and the Sheriff in our county and they agree that they (child support case worker) are being very unreasonable. Who can we speak to about this?
2007-11-08 07:08:04 · 10 answers · asked by island_gal_808 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
His ex-wife does not work, she collects disability for chronic stomach pains?...not ulcers...ans she did tell him before that as long as she gets HER money everything will be fine.
2007-11-08 07:27:48 · update #1
He can't get a loan,his credit bad,because after he lost his job his truck got repo'd
2007-11-08 07:29:16 · update #2
What upsets me is that she thinks she she shouldn't have to work, because taking care of HIS daughter is work.
2007-11-08 07:38:06 · update #3
He's not a deadbeat dad, he's always paid everything for his daughter even after-school care, when her mother doesn't even work!...dance lessons because his ex will not pay for that with the child support she gets from him.
2007-11-08 07:57:24 · update #4
being unemployed does not relieve the responsibility he should have found a way to pay. since he is working and obviously has some credit take out a loan the interest is going to be lower then the credit card interest. he needs to not get in arrears again. if he goes to court they may be able to adjust his support payment to make up the money he owes over a period of time. good luck and he needs to keep up his payments.
2007-11-08 07:34:24 · answer #1 · answered by michr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being unemployeed is no excuse. When you have children, it is YOUR responsibility to make sure the child eats, has clothing, a roof over his head and all of the necessities of life. You should have taken ANY kind of job to meet your obligation to your child. There is always a job available somewhere - even if it is "beneath" you.
He is a deadbeat dad.
If he were living with the child, he would have found a way to make sure the child ate, had a place to sleep and clothes to wear. Too many fathers who don't have custody think that somebody else will take care of the child.....it's always about themselves.
As for the ex not working? She should - but there is no requirement that she do so.
2007-11-08 11:47:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has a problem. By now, his drivers license has probably been suspended (even if he has not been notified) and the next step is to take any income tax return. A court order cannot be changed by anyone except the court. Child Support Bureau just follows what the court states. As far as his ex, it wouldn't matter if she had a million dollars in the bank. The original order covers him, not her. Too many deadbeat Dads running around and the court has heard most of the stories.
2007-11-08 07:48:31 · answer #3 · answered by sensible_man 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be able to arrange payments through the county/parish/city that you live in. Normally, when this happens, and the guy is making an effort to pay, the courts will work with him: better to get the payments started and keep them coming, than to lock him up and the child never receive a thing. Also, it sounds like you are in need of legal counsel. Nearly all lawyers charge nothing to less than $50 for an hour of their time. An attorney in your state will know exactly what office to go through to get the payments started. (My brother is doing this in Utah right now.) **Also, a very good agency to call is your State Attorney General's Office; don't tell them that you already have a case officer because it sounds like they are giving you the run-around. He needs to take care of this ASAP as his driver license and taxes can be affected in most states now. Child support is for the support of the child and applies to much more than extras...it is also for the food, utilities and rent that her mother has to provide for her, so it is AWESOME that dad is willing to ALSO provide for dance and other things. (Just keep ALL those receipts!)
2007-11-08 08:56:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't you get a cash advance off your credit card to pay it in cash? They're not being unreasonable - he has back child support. I know he lost his job but, the kids didn't stop eating because of it. Since he managed to still have a place to live & food to eat during the time he was out of work, he should have been able to pay his child support.
2007-11-08 07:18:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Since they won't accept credit card as payment, see if you can get a cash advance on the credit card or take out a loan to pay the balance.
It's not easy to deal with this but he doesn't want this hanging over his head.
I wouldn't suggest you take the loan out in your name - as much as you're in love now, you never know what might happen in the future.
Good luck.
2007-11-08 07:22:24 · answer #6 · answered by MARY N 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that you can do if the case worker is refusing all payment types except cash is to work it out where you get a certain amount taken out of his paycheck. That's really all you can do. If you're taken to court, then you just show that he was collecting unemployment for a certain time frame and you should be okay.
2007-11-08 07:18:29 · answer #7 · answered by jdecorse25 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish that I knew. That is terrible. The BM sounds like a real witch for not working something out without getting them involved.
As for you, think about this. I'm a stepmom. It sucks. I have nothing good to say about it. I'm living with it but it's not easy. It's stressful. It's difficult. I have no say in anything and it affects me completely.
Do not marry this man unless you are prepared to go through hell for him. If you have any doubts, leave.
2007-11-08 07:13:43 · answer #8 · answered by Unsub29 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how are they being unresanable? he owes the money, he needs to pay it. the child has already suffered by not receiving the money. how about you pay your bills by credit card and the childsupport in cash? if he is in default already the courts have the right to demand cash or he goes to jail. I do see what you mean as far as him just starting work again. but he needs to pay.
2007-11-08 07:13:49 · answer #9 · answered by ABC 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2017-01-06 07:59:12 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋