A friend married 2 weeks ago, & she is still complaining about the girl who "ruined" her special day. One of her guests, was pregnant & went into labor during the ceremony.(her hubby was a groomsmen & she wasn't due for a couple weeks)..Well, I was seated near her and I quietly helped her into the hall. She said that she was definatly in Labor, so I drove her to the hospital...I assured her that I would go back to the church & tell her hubby..Well when I arrived back the ceremony was just ending..taking pics & whatnot..Well I told my friends hubby that she was at the hospital & that she was having the baby...My friend (the bride) was mad because I didn't stay for the wedding...I thought it better for me to leave than a groomsman...and our other friend didn't want to interupt the ceremony more than she already had. Well now we are having a belated baby shower...and the bride is refusing to go..& telling everyone this girl ruined her day, so she is now going to ruin hers.
2007-11-08 07:01:37 · 32 answers · asked by !s@b3l@ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The baby shower had already been planned for this upcoming weekend. Should I tell my friend (the bride), that if she feels this way toward my other friend, (the mother) that she shouldn't come. I'm worried that she is going to do something distasteful, and unrespectful at the new moms shower. My friend (the bride) said that she wants my other friend to know what if feels like to have something special ruined. We are all supposed to be friends...but I think she is being very rude and immuture. I'm not sure that I want to be friends with someone like her...I wouldn't want her to do something like that to me.
2007-11-08 07:05:23 · update #1
Oh...her hubby...ended up leaving the reception after the dinner, toast, first dance, cake and boquet/garter toss had already taken place, because she was having such a cow about him wanting to leave her reception early.
2007-11-08 07:07:12 · update #2
The girl wasn't a bridesmaid she was a guest...and she left the ceremony...without making a sound!!!
2007-11-08 07:09:32 · update #3
That is a selfish bride...tell her to get over herself.
She is acting like a spoiled brat that doesn't want to share a toy. Its a wonder she even has friends that put up with her!
Edit: Hold up, wait a minute! Your friend should NOT attend the babyshower. She can not go and act out of spite, because someone went into labor at her wedding! No one gets to choose when they will go into labor in a situation like that and if you friends doesn't see that then someone needs to just tell her how she is acting! She needs to be kept away from the babyshower if she thinks its ok to get even with this new mother!
2007-11-08 07:05:57 · answer #1 · answered by Sunshine 4 · 8⤊ 1⤋
Thats the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard. That bride must be very young. I can't believe someone would be so self-involved. That girl needs some serious life lessons about what's really important. Why and how could you be friends with someone that thinks like that? I can only assume you guys are still friends cause you've known her since you were young. If I were you I would tell everyone what that girls is saying a let everyone know what kind of a person she is. You shouldn't be burdened with it. Once the new mother finds out what she's going on about I assure you she won't want her at her shower. And do yourself a favor and distance yourself from that girl, she's got issues that will end up causing havoc in your life.
2007-11-08 20:44:30 · answer #2 · answered by darrigirl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
WOW, talk about a Bridezilla. This girl ( the bride) is CRAZY. The woman couldn't help it that her baby was coming. What was she supposed to do, hold it in until the wedding was over. I would have went one step further than you, I would have definately got her husband. Having a baby is an important thing that maybe he didn't want to miss. You should tell her (the bride) that if she is going to cause a scene at the bridal shower that she shouldn't go. She would be acting like an immature witch if she ruined this girls bridal shower. Tell her to grow up . The world does not revlove around her. She obviously needs a reality check.
2007-11-09 21:31:37 · answer #3 · answered by sden2616 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. It's sounds to me like you and your other friend (the mom) are better off WITHOUT the friend (the bride).
DO NOT invite her to the baby shower. That is what I would do. She is being childish and immature. How old is she? It sounds like she is in junior high for god's sake. There is no way to predict when someone is going into labor. Your friend (the bride) has NO justification saying that someone "ruined" her day. You did EXACTLY as you should have....quietly helped her into the hall and took her to the hospital! And her husband??? Well, I would be a little miffed if I was in labor and my husband was back at a reception waiting for all the "events" to be done before I joined my wife just because some "Bridezilla" is pitching a fit!
Have a nice baby shower for your friend and her baby. And scratch off the "friend" list....the bridezilla from hell!!
2007-11-08 07:20:26 · answer #4 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Funny how some brides think the whole world revolves around them, I think you did the right thing, and the bride should get over herself, people have babies, fact of life, how selfish can a person be? It's not like she starting screaming and actually giving birth in the church. If she is that selfish then the mother is better off not having the bride at the shower, it's probably a blessing in disguise.
2007-11-08 21:12:06 · answer #5 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is sad. You did what was right. The bride is selfish and should get over herself. I think I would try to keep the bride from making a scene. You should tell her that she can come to the shower only if she will NOT make a scene.
The mother had no control over when the baby decided to come into this world and the bride needs to realize this.
Good luck
2007-11-08 13:20:54 · answer #6 · answered by Amanda Y 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok, so here is the thing... the guest wa sin labor.. what the hell does she expect... the girl to stay while she has a baby on the floor while your other friend says I do???? I dont think so. I think the girl that got married needs to stop and think about what she is so upset about. Sounds to me like she is upset because she thinks all of the attention wasnt on her. I think that you need to let the new bride know that she shouldnt attend the shower if she is going to ruin it. I also think that you should let your oth freind that had the baby know what is going on so that she is prepared.
2007-11-08 08:58:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell your friend that she is acting foolish, and that she is univinted to the shower. Yes her friend went into labor on her wedding day, at least she was only a guest & not a bridesmaid. Plus, the groomsman stayed, so why is she complaining. I'd be pretty made if my hubby was attending a party while I was having our child. Anyway, I'd distance myself from this woman. You don't need to have any part of her bad behavior!
2007-11-08 07:48:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
O MY GODDDDDD!!!!!!!!!!!!! what a selfish B**CH!!! my wedding is coming up soon and my GOD i would expect even the groomsman to leave! that is his wife! and his baby!! wow.. that is really horrible.. that is a bridezilla if i ever saw one! what was the poor girl supposed to do? have the baby in the church??? doesnt she think that that would have really stolen her thunder?? i really dont understand what the f**k she expected... you should ask her that.. its not like the girl could have held the baby in... i would have gone off on your friend by now if i were you... can you please ask her what SHE thinks your other friend should have done that would have made HER SPECIAL day better? and i would love it if you could post or just email me the answer... o my gosh.. this is just really getting under my skin.. i wanna call her.. can i call her... why are you still friends with her? that is not only being immature.. thats being a horrible horrible person! not someone you call a friend!!!!!!!!!!
and to YODA:
are you serious??? you think she was supposed to stay at home while her husband was in the wedding??????????????????????????????????? what if she went in labor (which she did) how do u think she would have gotten in touch with her husband???? what kind of a person would think that way? and you know what? when it was a couple weeks before my due date, i was attending everything!!!!!!!!!
2007-11-08 08:38:21 · answer #9 · answered by Tiff Tiff 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Okay first off I believe that the bride is a selfish little bratty twit who should not be invited to the baby shower. Friends do not blame friends for going into LABOR!
Secondly, BLUNT... If the bride was mailing out her invitations and assisting her fiance in picking out guests and groomsmen and knew that the woman was pregnant, she should not have invited the pregnant woman for fear she would "steal her thunder". How unreasonable does that sound?? If you have the honor of being invited to a friends wedding, pregnant or not you go to support the newlyweds! This was not a popularity contest and it's not like the pregnant guest could choose when to go in to labor! That's like saying "How DARE you sneeze during the first dance!" Obviously irrational for her to be so full of anger and jealousy. I think it is the bride's duty as a FRIEND to be happy for and supportive of her friends new child! Getting married is much easier than child birth!
Even if the guest hadn't come and the groomsman attended the wedding, you think he would miss his child's birth for a wedding? I dont think so!
2007-11-08 07:47:15 · answer #10 · answered by chaychayolei 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Tell the bride to grow up, and to not come to the baby shower. You all don't want her there anyway if she's going to continue acting like a 2 year old. The party's for adults, not children.
I've got to say this as well--I have to either admire the new dad or I think he's absolutely nuts. I know if I had gone into labor with our first at a wedding, my husband wouldn't have allowed ANYONE else to take me to the hospital, and he certainly wouldn't have stayed around for someone else's wedding pictures and toasts, etc. He would have been where he was most needed at that point, and that would have been with me. The person giving birth to his child.
The bride seriously needs to grow up. Babies don't come according to a timetable--they'll come during weddings, funerals (yes, my sister went into labor during her mil's funeral), bar mitzvahs, graduations, you name it. Someone needs to tell bridezilla that she's already had her day--you don't get another day--and no one gives a crap about her wedding anymore. The only person who thinks it was ruined at this point is bridezilla. She keeps this up, she won't have to worry about having friends showing up for HER baby shower.
2007-11-08 09:39:13 · answer #11 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋