We are both in our 40s. Last Thursday he came over to spend the night. I had an electric blanket on the bed. He said "I'm not sleeping with that blanket on the bed, I'll get electrocuted." I was offended because he didn't even try to compromise, he just gave me this ultimatum, so I said, "the blanket stays on." He said, "I'm not sleeping here if that blanket is on the bed." I said, "so come back in July". He said, "You are making this very easy." He left, in the middle of the night, and I haven't heard from him since.
We had been dating for 6 months and I thought things were going well.
It seems so juvenile I'm confused. I can't be in a relationship with someone that bosses me around and I feel that he should approach me to apologize because he's the one that gave me the ultimatum and the threat. I'm okay with it ending I'm just saying huh what?
Any insight?
2007-11-08 06:52:26 · 16 answers · asked by Peacenik 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I didn't offer to compromise because he totally shuts down when I've tried this in the past like the "cat can't be on the bed" ultimatum.
He did let it drop about 2 weeks ago that he is "never going to get married again" (he was married only for three years) and I told him that I wanted to get married to someone one day but could accept that he didn't want to.. He has been kind of weird since then.
2007-11-08 07:07:40 · update #1
Juvenile. You are not confused. You did the right thing. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and get back in the race! (Gee that sounds like a song)!
2007-11-08 07:01:08 · answer #1 · answered by Dirty Dave 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say he didn't try to compromise? Well you didn't either. He probably fears electric blankets, I know I do. You hear too many stories about them. If he basically is an alright guy and this is the only issue where he did not want to compromise, then why didn't you? You could have gotten a warm, snuggy comforter and I am sure he would have been more than happy to keep you warm. Why don't you call him up and just say you miss him and do not want a little disagreement to come between the both of you. Then say, that it is no big deal, the electric blanket goes. Now, come on , call him.
2007-11-08 07:02:05 · answer #2 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There was probably something else that was wrong that he just didn't mention. That was just a breaking point, and a chance to run, so he took it.
Maybe he had a misunderstanding about the blanket and didn't trust it. You mention he didn't try to compromise, what about you? Sure, he could have respected the fact that you like to keep warm. But, you could respect his choice in not wanting to see sleep with that blanket. He might be upset that you didn't compromise for him.
2007-11-08 06:59:33 · answer #3 · answered by Reptilia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, he is immature. That is probably why he is still in his 40's and not married. You, on the other hand, are just picking the wrong guys. A guy that would break up with you over a blanket?
I say: go to his house while he's taking a shower and throw the blanket in there with him. That'll give him a shock!
Don't worry..you'll find someone.
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2007-11-08 07:03:11 · answer #4 · answered by Oops, did I say that? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that it seems he was wanting to break up with you and use this silly thing as an excuse. I've experienced something like this twice: the first time, the guy told me that me cutting my hair short was the straw that broke the camel's back, and he couldn't be with me anymore because I didn't respect his opinion. The second time, I had a guy concoct a phony cheating story ("Someone told me - I don't remember who - that they saw you walking with a guy downtown, so it's over") in order to have a reason to break up with me; turns out he was doing the cheating. I wouldn't say that's the case in your situation necessarily, but it seems like he was looking for a juvenile way to break up, and that was it. The fact that he's in his 40s is really stupid; you'd think he'd be more mature. If he comes back in July, you'll know he's crazy.
2007-11-08 07:02:48 · answer #5 · answered by xK 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That must be a REALLY nice electric blanket! LOL!
Relationships need to have give and take.
If you both are too stubborn to talk out your differences and come to a mutually acceptable compromise, then your relationship has no future.
I think both of you need some maturity.
I believe in mutual respect and talking things through.
2007-11-08 07:01:23 · answer #6 · answered by andybosik 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it wasnt about the blanket but that was the excuse for him. Perhaps this was the final straw? Sorry but thats why people date....to learn if they want to be with a person or not and i dont think you need that kind of person do you?
2007-11-08 06:57:19 · answer #7 · answered by barthebear 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Something else must have been going on with him. Sounds as though he was seeking at out. I would sit tight, if he wants out it is best to let him go. Do not let yourself be dragged into further waste of your time or energy. I would stay away until he gave a reason for his behavior, no answer then just forget him.
2007-11-08 06:58:21 · answer #8 · answered by bigjohn B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 12:11:29 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm... and what a lovely character this guy of yours is...!!, very grown up....
was he at least any good in the sack?? ((that would be a plus..
other than that you're waaayyy better off without him, i promise! the good thing is he found the excuse earlier rather than later...
oh, and don't hold your breath for the apology... you may run out of air! then he'll be charged and convicted as a murderer lol
2007-11-08 07:14:26 · answer #10 · answered by proud 'n sexy VT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋