How do you learn to love?

Question

By 'you' I mean I. But seriously, how do you learn to love people that are, well...hard to love?


I know it is possible, I just could really use your tips right now.

Answer 1

Just be yourself...and realize they are to..........and accept them as they are..........Just Live your life right...and let your life be a light to them....and maybe they to are asking the same thing about you...........seriously........One must first Love in order to recieve love............it starts with You and your attitude and or ways !!

Answer 2

Well love is the treating of a human like you would want to be treated yourself. Even if you don't like the person, you have to remember that no-one is perfect and I am sure you made your share of mistakes yourself. You show your love to an evil person by standing out as an example - don't initiate a fight and help him whenever he needs a helping hand, give and don't wait for anything in return. This way the persons heart might soften, if the person has some reason left in his heart.

Answer 3

The best way to learn to love someone is to care for them. When you put your effort into something or someone, you value that item because of the effort you have put into it. Thus, when we serve our neighbor, coworker, spouse, children, or even antagonist, you grow to care about them and yes, to love them. I care enough about you to serve you or help you and when things don't go well for you, I feel sad along with you. This is the beginnings of love. So to get started, you need to find some way of doing something nice for them. Think of some way to help them or serve them. Continue to be nice and they will likely change the way they treat you as well. Eventually a friendship will develop and you will grow to care about each other. If we would apply these practices in our marriages, we could do away with divorce entirely.

Answer 4

Very often the Lord gives us gifts such as the poor the disabled and many others to teach us how to love. It is a call
Volunteer at a soup kitchen or old age home to exercise your gift
Love is a decision of the practical intellect, one wills to love

Answer 5

I wish I could tell you. Unfortunately, I don't think you can really learn to LOVE someone you don't love. There are different types of love, you know. You can love someone as Jesus implored us to do.. to love one another. He didn't mean that gushy type of romantic love, or even that kind of love where we really really LIKE the person and like being around them. He meant love as in care about them, and respect them. You can do that without really LOVING them in the way that we usually think about love.

Answer 6

Observe them as though they were your real-life actual blood-relative (brother, son, sister, father).
It's tough to do, but mentally check yourself BEFORE, and occasionally DURING your encounter with them.

And LOOK FOR THE GOOD THINGS!

Let a few of the ongoing annoyances slide - (as you may do with relatives).

Try to SEE THINGS FROM THEIR PERSPECTIVE...yeah, some decisions they make might have terrible outcomes for you - but there may be a deeper reason for them to make those decisions.

And DON'T GIVE UP... have in your mindset that you're GOING to learn to love them. Don't look for ways to break that commitment.

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Good luck!

Answer 7

Understand who God is and you will understand love. God hates evil yet he takes care of us sinners, why? For the hope that we may change and be good as he is. Besides it is the law of God to love unconditional. For you shall reap what you sow.

Answer 8

You pray and ask God to help you see them the way He does. Also it is hard to hold anything against others if you are praying for them.

Answer 9

Love just happens. Its not an emotion that can be controlled.

Answer 10

you don't learn to love them, you learn to tolerate them with love in your heart. but remember: that does not mean you have to take crap from them.