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i just cant seem to get my patience and temper under control and ive tried so hard and i can control it for a while maybe two weeks and then i blow up at my husband or the kids and then i feel awful. im praying for help and everyhting and tryign to think b4 ispeak but its so hard to remeber!!

2007-11-08 05:52:00 · 37 answers · asked by call_me_LaLa 6 in Society & Culture Religion & Spirituality

37 answers

None. I just wouldn't associate with them. Life is way too short for me to work on other people's issues. I have my own.

2007-11-08 05:55:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 3

Try relaxation exercises, time and stress management and above all let go of the notion that you have to be "Super Mom"...

We all occassional snap at those we love don't bog yourself down with guilt on top of the stress.. You are setting yourself up in a cycle that only leads to more stress..

For me I found "closet screaming" helped when I felt like I was gonna blow up... The kids aren't listening, the house seems to be falling down around your ears, the husband is trying to help but in that "man" way that just irritates you... (You know typical everyday stresses)... Excuse yourself and walk into the closet close the door and scream at the top of your lungs for a few minutes... This accomplishes 2 things, It blows off some steam and leads the husband and kids to think that you are on the edge of cracking up completely which makes them far more pliable.. Don't over use the "Closet Scream" as that leads to a lose in potancy..

Think of ways that you can blow off some of the steam and let go of some of the stress... Closet screaming may not be your thing but there is something that will be your thing just find it and use it...

2007-11-08 06:07:30 · answer #2 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 0 0

I do the same thing, quite often. I hate it. But I just have too much on my plate sometimes. I keep praying about it too. But I really think having at least 30 minutes a day alone to exercise is helping me. It releases endorphins, plus makes you feel like you are accomplishing something for you. Being a wife & mom takes alot of patience, time and its hard to be perfect ALL the time. ....Hopefully I can keep following my own advice on this one :) Good luck!

2007-11-08 06:02:03 · answer #3 · answered by holiday♥ 4 · 1 0

Get some help from professional anger management councilors. They will dig deep inside to find out what the real problem is. If you choose to do this though, don't waste your time if you can't be 100% open and honest. Praying for patience and understanding will only increase your chances of the Lords help and that's something you should strive for everyday. GOOD LUCK & GOD BLESS!!

2007-11-08 06:08:05 · answer #4 · answered by Allan C 6 · 1 0

Since this question came up in the category Religion and Spirituality, I will give you an answer from Geeta.

The mother of all problems is expectation. In a perfect world, everyone does their duty, so all is good. However, our world is not perfect.

There are problems with both us and others. We expect someone to do something for us. Lets say he/she satisfies our expectation. What happens? We want more.

Lets take the opposite situation. We expect someone to do something for us. He/She does not do it. What happens? We are angry.

In Hindi, Kaamna is the Janani of Dukh. Kaamna gets fulfilled, we get Lobh. Kaamna does not get fulfilled, we get Krodh.

Solution:
If you realize the nature of living beings, be it your mother, father, husband, children, friends, yourself...they are all selfish. God made them that way. If you do not know this, you will one day.

So stop expecting. The anger will disappear.

2007-11-08 06:48:57 · answer #5 · answered by Ash66 3 · 0 0

I was the same way, so I went through anger management. You can voluntarily choose to do this.

As Lucy VanPelt said "The mere fact that you recognize that you have a problem indicates that you are not too far gone."

I am not a doctor, but I would recommend getting a complete physical and check the side effects on any meds you are taking. It couldn't hurt to cut out caffeine and get a full night's sleep too!

2007-11-08 05:56:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

I feel ya! I've never had a problem 'til I got married. What a wake up call. God gives you situations and circumstances to work on your weaknesses. If you have a Bible and are in to reading it, check out 1Corinthians 13:4-7. If you're going to pray for anything, ask God for the strength to love like he does. Slow to anger. 2Peter 3:9

2007-11-08 06:01:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Examine what makes you mad. Are you expecting too much of another person? Are you defending your rights? What we learn as Christians is that we give up our rights. When someone does something that steps on our rights as a person, mother, wife, husband, citizen, etc. how do we react? If we give those rights to God our reaction will change. If we realize that we are not owed or guaranteed anything then how can we get mad when someone doesn't do what we expect? I realize this is a short answer, but if you expect less of others (even when they are Christian), and give up your rights, a lot of anger will disappear.

2007-11-08 06:00:33 · answer #8 · answered by Fish <>< 7 · 2 0

Hello Sharla,
Two points in your note I have noticed. 1. praying the other trying to think. You pray whom? You think what?
Easily annoyed and bad temper need to be given serious thinking, because it may create some bodily disorders.
If you don't annoyed and have no angry is also not normal.
Lead your kids and husband in to your thinking and prayer if it is good.

2007-11-09 05:03:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I think, you are a little bit bored with your daily routine of life.Try to give urself a little bit of break from the normal schedule.Moreover, u should preferably go for a 5-15 min meditation in the morning.

2007-11-08 06:09:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

you have to learn to ignore certain things .for this you need to have control over your mind .this needs mastery of the senses .Yoga and meditation are the best tools to achieve this .\Besides foods also play an important role in the control of the senses .\Resort to "sathvic" food .foods that do not stir up the senses while practising yoga.
yoga is not just an allopathic painkiller that affords temporary relief instantaneously.It conditions your body and mind to take control of your senses gradually.There are yoga classes conducted everywhere and they teach meditation also .

2007-11-08 13:58:38 · answer #11 · answered by Infinity 7 · 0 0

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