she wants me not to be drunk in her presence, and she complains if i spend MY money on weed.
2007-11-08 04:56:06 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A woman trying to control a man *gasp* that is so rare! This must be your first girlfriend huh?
2007-11-08 04:58:53 · answer #1 · answered by Zenkai 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No not really she just might really be concerned to the point that it seems that way. Think about it. Getting drunk is drinking excessively. Maybe a little bit less so that you only feel good is better and shows her you are in control. If you spend your money on weed does it go into your budget that would normally pay for other things more important? I don't do either of these things but have some friends that do. For awhile a married couple I knew had problems because the husband started drinking more and his language got bad. Also sometimes the groceries were scrimped on to afford the pot. The other thing was the personality of the thing. Since he was almost always under the influence of either the drinking or the pot she missed the "real him" . That was what caused the most stress. She missed the "real him". Maybe that is the real reason for the stress in your relationship. She misses the Real You.
2007-11-08 05:04:40 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hmm she doesn't want you to spend money getting drunk or buying weed and you think she might be trying to control you. I think she might be trying to do you a favor and keep you from doing something stupid like killing yourself and/or someone else in a car accident because you were totally out of it. Instead of worrying about her controling you maybe you should say thank you to her for her concern.
2007-11-08 05:02:11 · answer #3 · answered by YoungFella 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
being drunk in her presence is disrespectful. Men dont do this. On the other hand spending your money weed is you choice, maybe not the best one but your non the less.
So obviously wants the best for you which is a good thing.
2007-11-08 05:00:31 · answer #4 · answered by Schmeetz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you are lucky that you have a girlfriend that cares about you enough not to help or want to promote bad or negative things (i.e. alcohol, weed, etc.) in your life. It's not a matter of her wanting to control you, she just wants the best for you. You should be happy to be with someone that actually cares about your well-being. If you want a cracked out h0e that is going to contribute to your bad habits then you should find you someone else that fits those standards. Your ridiculous!
2007-11-08 05:03:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, every relationship has give and take. I hate to give one of those gray area answers, but it's fitting for your question. Both you and your girlfriend should feel free to ask for certain concessions in your relationships, and both of you need to be free to say no.
The question really comes down to a matter of how much is too much, and where you think her concern is coming from. Do you drink to excess every night? When you do, do you get out of control, say rude things, do things you would not do sober?
How much of your income is spent on weed? 10%, 30%, 50% 80%, your whole pay check?
So think to yourself, does she have a point. If you think her concerns are coming from a place of concern for you, or she is just generally unhappy with the *** you make of yourself when you drink- give her some serious thought.
If you honestly feel she is doing this for selfish reasons, for reasons of fear (of loosing you,of loosing control, you name it) or for whatever- call her out on it.
2007-11-08 05:06:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sound like she's trying to help you. But if you're not willing to change for the better....... you know where I'm going with this. It's okay to drink and somk occassionally but don't be a drunk weed head...that's not cool.
2007-11-08 05:01:49 · answer #7 · answered by A J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think she's trying to control you. She's just setting the limitations on what is and what isn't acceptable to her in her relationship with you. Now, she can't control your response to this. So you can continue the way things are, and wait for her next move,you can abide by her limitations, or you can get out of the relationship and find a drunken, pothead to love.
2007-11-08 05:06:56 · answer #8 · answered by P. C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, I'm surprised you have a girlfriend at all. Looks like you should be spending your money toward a new car or saving for a home, not up in smoke!!! Grow up!
2007-11-08 05:00:09 · answer #9 · answered by MarD. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is more annoying than a drunk. The second most annoying thing is someone that's stoned.
Instead of trying to change someone (which doesn't work), she needs to find someone that feels the same way she does.
2007-11-08 04:59:20 · answer #10 · answered by nite_angelica 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋