What do you think about mommies that go out & PARTY??

Question

I mean mommies that go out and drink, and party like they did before they had kids...

Answer 1

I think it's wrong...they choose to have the children at the time they did, now it's time to take care of them, and that includes being there for them and setting a good example. I'm not saying stay at home forever and you're damned to the stove, it's okay to get a babysitter once in a while, go have some fun, but come home at a responsible time. I mean they were mature enough to have them.....

Answer 2

I think it's extremely irresponsible. I understand going out with your friends every once in a while, because everyone needs a break from their children. But going out and drinking every night or attempting to keep up the same social life that she had before the baby came into the picture is ridiculous!

What is she going to do when she stumbles in at 3:00am and the baby's crying? What about when she's hungover the next morning and baby gets up at 6:00am?

Whether or not the baby was planned, the mother (and the father is he is in the picture) HAS to take responsibility for it! And that means changing your life! You CAN'T go out as often as you used to, if at all! You CAN'T get drunk every night! You CAN'T party like you did when you were 18!

You have to save your money to buy the baby diapers and food and clothes and toys! Spending it on overpriced booze and beer is a waste!

Answer 3

kids change your life. All aspects of your life. If you're being responsible (know where your kids are, have a designated driver, don't do dumb things that could get yourself killed) and if you're not breaking any laws (drinking underage or drugs) i think it's perfectly acceptable to go out once in awhile. But to party all the time wouldn't make you a responsible parent. It partying is more important than making sure your kids are safe and healthy than that's where the line should be drawn. And pawning them off on someone else to watch all the time so you can go out and have a good time is not a responsible thing to do.

Answer 4

that depends on the situation really.

is the child gone to a good home for the night?

does the child have food, formula, diapers, clothing, etc. or is the mother wasting money on alcohol instead?

I do not agree with shoving a child in a bedroom with some toys while you have people over to party.
That happens to my nephew when he's with his mom and it really angers me.

If it's only once a month and she's not wasted, than by all means have some fun.

Personally I'm 21 and done with the party scene already, however out of all my friends I'm the only one child free and the only one done that scene. Doesn't make sense, but that's life.

Answer 5

Hey Mommies need a life too! As long as it isn't habitual so that it interferes with mommies time with the kids. I know how I felt after my kids were born and my hubby and I wanted to go out and party like we did before they were born. We both felt guilty as hell. But you need to get out once a week for alone time or big people time as I used to call it. Go for it!

Answer 6

If the child is in the care of a responsible sitter (or the father if he's not going out with the mother)...and the partying is not of the stagger-home-at-the-end-of-the-night, or sleep with anything that has a pulse type of partying...there is nothing wrong with it.

If she's going to the bars every night, there is plenty wrong with it - unless she works for the bar. After all, there is no such thing as a Day Shift at most bars!

Answer 7

I'm a mommy, but I'm a woman also. I can't be mommy 24/7 I need a little time to be myself if not I'd go crazy. I try and have a girls night out every other weekend. Just me and a friend. We usually do diner and a movie. I really need that time to just be me for a little bit. If for whatever reason my son needs me on one of my nights out I will stay home. I won't neglect my son.

Answer 8

I assume you are speaking of those who rarely consider that they need to be home. Partying at a minimum of 2-3 nights a week, often taking on various lovers with little commitment and exposing their children to these men/ women.

I have never understood this. I've known a number of people like this and I find it baffling. I don't mean to say that my husband and I don't ever enjoy a late night out with out the kids but it is very rare. We have to wake up the next morning and be there for them when they wake up.

I find it very sad that there are people who have children and don't find fulfillment in their children. Sad for both the parent and the child. The saddest part is that the majority of those out there partying are on the prowl for the next best man/woman who is going to fulfill them. More often than not children of these types of parents are exposed to far more "uncles/ aunts" than they can handle. This is very damaging to the children. They don't know who they can rely on. Children need security and they need our (the parents) presence in their lives.

Edit---------------------------------------------------------

I typed the above thinking of fathers as well because "mommy" is not the only party that needs to be responsible.

Answer 9

Every day or once in a while?

Every day...not so good.

Once in a while - why not? We Mommies are grown-ups too!

EDIT - so, I guess when we become mothers, some people think we should surrender any 'adult time', put on the mom jeans and go to bed at 9 pm every night...give me a break. I rarely go out in the evening...but if I can make it out for a girls night now and then, I'm going to do it! Good grief people, get a grip.

Answer 10

If I continued to "party like I did before I had children" I would be neglecting my responsibility as a parent. Keep in mind that I used to really party a lot though. I do miss it sometimes, then as I sit there and think about it , my son runs up to me and lunges at me with a big hug and lots of kisses.........so the payoff is inmeasurable! If you have children and are still partying like you did before, it is time to grow up.....