On every holiday, the women get stuck doing everything. All the cooking and cleaning...this year, should we ask the men to clean up? It's only fair, I think...though, I have a feeling only 1 or 2 of them will actually do it (if any at all).
2007-11-08 04:36:38 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Sure, why not? Or ask them to help. Maybe give them advance notice too so it's not a shock to them LOL Our family is the same. Usually all the woman get in the kitchen, cook everything, serve everything, and then clean everything. So now what i've done has said" OH John can you grab that?" Or, "Bob can you clean those dishes while I get dessert ready." Usually this approach works better than saying "okay, men go clean the dishes."Most of them will put it off and you'll end up cleaning everything the next day anyways.
If you REALLY want to teach them a lesson, one night, maybe not christmas or something liek that, don't cook the food. When everyone is like wtf?? Tell them that since you are always the one to clean, you expect the cooking to be done, and if it's not, no home cooked food! So they can decide: cook or clean? Most will take cleaning. As a back up, order out or have sandwiches or something. Lay down the law now or it'll never change.
2007-11-08 05:29:24 · answer #1 · answered by Melissa 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
For me, it always seemed very traditional for the women to take care of everything in the kitchen.
It has always been the same every year, for me: the women chat and catch up with each other preparing food (even as a little kid, I helped in the kitchen just to be around the bustle of it), while the men watch the parade or It's a Wonderful Life or whatever; then we play football on the lawn for Thanksgiving, the kids set the table, we all eat, and everyone scrapes their plates and puts them in the dishwasher. The men watch football while the girls and women clean up, make coffee, and set out dessert.
It's always been that way, and it's probably because the women in my family like having the duty of doing it--I can't imagine my mother sitting back with her feet up while my dad and uncles did it, because she knows she's the one who knows where everything is and she can do everything most efficiently and she knows where the tupperware for the leftovers is.
But that's just us. :)
2007-11-08 06:12:57 · answer #2 · answered by Liberty, Equality, Fraternity 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding...and have them miss the football game and falling asleep?? That would be disastrous!! :D Just kidding, of course. Personally, I don't see why Thanksgiving/Christmas/Easter/etc. dinners are any different from any other meal. I cook, you clean. You cook, I clean. End of story. At the VERY LEAST, they could come in during commercials and do little things like empty out the trash can (for the 10th time, lol) bring in plates from the table, wipe off the table, etc.
2007-11-08 04:52:50 · answer #3 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't know what planet you're on. But in my book ; if I cook, Oh sure enough he's going to clean the dishes. it's called 50-50, I put in my half and you put in yours. And that goes for everything else in life. That's how men suppose to be trained. You let him get away once then you can call that a wrap.
2007-11-08 05:04:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. As a man, I personally feel uncomfortable that my mom, aunts and other female relatives feel the need to do *all* the work on holidays.
Usually they tell me, "oh, don't worry, just go watch the game with the rest of the guys!" But personally, I feel awkward that I'm not helping out. It makes me feel like I'm enforcing the gender roles.
I'm a pretty radical thinker though, so I doubt all men feel this way, but that's my opinion.
2007-11-08 05:58:19 · answer #5 · answered by gopher646 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just what do you mean that women get stuck doing everything. All the cooking and cleaning.
That is not true in my case.. I am a fella and I raised my 2 kids for 17 years as a single parent, and I did all the house work etc. all year round for those 17 years. And I am still doing all of that today.
2007-11-08 04:58:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
When my husband and I were planning our wedding, we took classes through my church (Pre-Cana). The subject of household chores came up.
One solution given was- the person who makes the meal does not clean up. That means, the other person cleans up.
My husband makes the Thanksgiving meal at our house. He plans for it for weeks. We use the best china, etc. I am a bit of a klutz. So, he usually makes the dinner and washes up the fragile dishes. I put the food in the containers and find places for them in the frig.
While he makes the dinner, I am doing the household chores- laundry, sweeping, mopping, etc.
Perhaps a division of labor is in order??
2007-11-08 04:53:17 · answer #7 · answered by Lizzie 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
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2016-02-03 04:51:06 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I strongly think that who ever doesn't do the cooking should always do the cleaning. Women shouldn't be expected to do all of it while the men sit on their lazy a**es!
2007-11-08 04:48:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
Gender roles have changed. It really depends on your personal relationship. My first husband was a better cook than me, so we shared a lot of kitchen duties. In a lot of couples, both spouses work. Are one or both of you football fans? Do you have children who could help out? It really depends on the family.
2007-11-08 05:10:37 · answer #10 · answered by shermynewstart 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋