Why do parents try to defend a bad child by saying they have ADHD?

Question

I am not saying that ADHD is not real, but if every child that is diagnosed with ADHD or ADD really had it then wow we as a nation are in trouble 20 years down the road! Why do parents try to blame ADHD for the fact that their child is a monster? It seems to be a trend now that rather than a child being a brat he/she has ADD. Rather than spanking your child or punishing them drug them up. Rather than making them take responsibility for their actions send them to a shrink. Does any one else feel this way?

Spanking is not a "thing" my daughter can attest to the fact that I spank and at the end of the day she is 6 in the 2nd grade, she has never brought home anything below a 90% on a test (spelling or math) she does not talk back, says "yes ma'am/sir" please and thank you. I am just tired of people who say that spanking is abuse but then will go and drug their children up, to me that is abuse!

Answer 1

I completely agree with you. I think that parents say their children have ADD or ADHD because they don't want to admit the truth (they are a bad parent) or they are just too lazy to deal with their children

Answer 2

First off there's a MAJOR difference between ADHD and Autism. And not all parents with Autistic children are using that as and excuse!! And no it's not and excuse to let the child act out on some one and get a away with it because he/she has Autism. We have 14 Autistic children in the family and 5 of them are at the extreme and basically no control what so ever, we have 9 ADHD children, 4 bipolar children in the family! So when our family all gets together with the children it's extremely rough, but we work it out when issues arise! And all these children I mention are 10 and under. So I understand more then ever about Autism and everything that goes with it and then some! None of those children are brother and sisters, we have and extremely large family. I have on my side 74 nieces and nephews just from my 18 brothers and sisters. My wife's there's 38 nieces and nephews just from her siblings! Luckily none of my 17 kids had children with any of those problems. But we see these other children on a regular bases because our families are really close! But these kids with issues in my family are under control at all times, they have to to be there is too many of them. So if a fight does break out there is no excuses the children involved apologize and get punished as well! It's taken very seriously they still need to learn no matter what the illness is!

Answer 3

I agree with you. ADHD may be real, but it seems nowadays every child in the world has it. That's why I say ADHD is mostly an excuse for lazy parents not to discipline their children. And it's not just spanking. Some parents don't do anything to teach their child right from wrong. Instead of giving them a time out or grounding them (or spanking them), they give them what they want so they don't have to deal with tantrums. This world is going to hell because of them.

They like to make "excuses" for their child rather than admit their child isn't perfect. I guess they'll make excuses as to why their child is in jail one day. Seriously, it does happen. Some lady said her child was "just a kid" when a police officer shot and killed him for shooting at them. The "kid" was 18 years old and was shooting at the police first. What were they supposed to do? Parents are becoming more and more ignorant every day.

but I do agree.

Answer 4

I think some parents are just to embarrassed to admit that their child is a little monster. Basically some of those little monsters need a change in diet and a change in the way the parents treat and raise them and they would be fine. Getting to the point, they just can't be bothered parenting properly and the ADHD/ADD is an excuse for them to be lazy parents. Keep in mind that some children actually have it and their parents go to all lengths to find out whats wrong with them.
Apart from those parents I'm with ya all the way!

Answer 5

I completely agree. Parents don't raise their kids properly, then go to the doctor saying "why is my kid so out of control?" so the doctor says "oh, must have ADHD, here take these." It seems like most kids have some form of this now. It does make me feel sorry for those who actually do have ADHD or ADD though because they get overlooked when every kids in their class supposedly has ADD (ok, a little exaggeration there.)

Answer 6

Ok well first of all I am ONE of those mothers. I do have a child with ADHD. I don't use it as an excuse. He was not learning in school and that is the reason I had to go to the medication. And with him on it NOW its like a complete different child. So don't put down mothers and fathers that have to choose this. We are only looking out for our children. So until you are in one of the situations with your child or children don't knock it.

Answer 7

It is a very natural human response (and possibly a result of cognitive dissonance) to first place blame for a failure on an outside source. I think nearly all of us are guilty of it at some point, though perhaps usually with trivial matters.

Answer 8

Egghead said it all. Bad parents have to blame their childrens misbehavior on something, and they can't admit that they don't know what they are doing when it comes to raising a child. When I was a kid, if I didn't pay attention in class or got bad grades, my mother beat my butt. ADD, I don't think so.

Answer 9

I agree! parents have gotten to the point where it's easier to push pills then to have structure and discipline. Besides the fact that is ILLEGAL! in most states to swat your kid. I'm not saying they need to be beaten or anything, but a lot of behavior issues can be curbed with a little swat. I know it worked for me. =)

Answer 10

I totally agree with you. In these modern times parents would rather try to be their kids' friends or the "cool parent" instead of disciplining them. Then, when their kids finally start acting out, the parents want to label and then medicate them. That's what "modern" and "enlightened" society does for you.