Why would she say this?

Question

My mil once told me that her daughter hair was longer than mines. I am Black mixed with Indian. I have really long hair. My sil hair is not even the same as mines. Which is the truth. Me and my sil look nothing alike at all. Everything about us is different. Why would a mother compare her daughter- in-law's hair to her own daughter. This is insane.I could never do this. This is very mean and childish. Do you think she wishes that her daughter was as prettier as me. And that she could have beautiful skin and hair. On my sil side of the family, she told me that her dad's side there was white and Indian put together. The thing is my sil does not look nothing like an Indian. I am tired of being the black sheep in the family. I believe that I am hated on because of my good looks. Why is my mil trying to destroy me with her nasty put downs?

Answer 1

wow!!!! i answered 1 of u questions the other day it sounds to me that ur mil is very insecure & uncomfortable with her & her daughters looks. if u have longer & a better grade of hair than her daughter & u know it theres no need to argue about it. dont let her comparisons get to u if ur happy with urself than forget about what she says dont let some1 else put insecurities in ur head

Answer 2

Ok, you are a married women who is suppose to be old enough to not act like a silly petty teenager. You are pretty full of yourself don't you think? Someone needs to give you are reality check. You may be pretty but believe me Sweet there are many people in this world that are more beautiful than you.
It seems you are the one with the paranoid problem that thinks that everyone is out to bring you down. At one time your sil's hair may have been longer than yours. SO WHAT. Maybe your MIL was just trying to make conversation with you and that is what popped into her head. You are the one who is being childish. Grow up, there are more important things in life. It's not all about you!

Answer 3

Just ignore her. She is just jealous that you have good looks so that means your good looks will inherit to your daughter. Who cares if your mil's daughter-in-law has longer hair. Girls do not care about that. She just wants to make you jealous by saying things that nobody really cares about. Don't listen to her saying a bunch of crap. Cause it's not true. She probably does wish that her daughter was pretty as yours. Just because you and your daughter are prettier then her and her daughter-in-law doesn't mean she has to tell you all these things that would make you feel stupid. You shouldn't feel that way. Just let her and everybody say all those things. but you know what? Looks really don't matter. It's the personality that counts. Your Mil and the rest of the people need to learn that. But there is ONE thing you will have that your Mil doesn't. And that is good looks. I've seen your picture, it looks nice.

Answer 4

I had trouble with my mil for the first few years of my marriage. It was like everything I did wasn't right. But then my husband put his foot down and told her how it was. She quit being so mean to me after that.
My sister on the other hand, her mil has been very very rude to her for over ten years. My sister has tried to be nice, ignore her and even tell her how it was time and time again, but it does not change her mil mind about her. My sister has asked and asked her husband to stand up to his mother and tell her to stop being so mean to his wife, but he just shrugged it off and says that he does not want to cause trouble. He is afraid of his mother.
The point is, I think ALLOT of mil's feel threatened when their sons find another woman to 'replace' them.
It is a rare rare blessing when a woman can find a husband AND mil that are both nice.

Answer 5

Telling someone that their daughter's hair is longer than yours is not a "nasty put down." It's a statement of fact. Who cares whose hair is longer? And if you are really confident in the fact that you have good looks, then why do you care what other people think? Just try to be content with what you have.

Answer 6

It's insane that she made a comparison between you and her daughters hair??

Wrong.

What's insane is that you are dwelling on it. Sweetie, the fact that this is bothering you so much, so that you have some seriouse insecurities. So what she said her hair is longer and it really isn't.

You are taking this way to seriouse, and there are A LOT more important things in life, then your hair and "good looks".

and just FYI ....just because someone doesn't "look" like that have indian heritage in them..doesn't mean they don't.

Move on...and grow up!

Answer 7

You need to be the bigger person....forget about it and move on. Reacting is probably what your MIL wanted you to do. Don't give her the satisfaction. MOVE ON. There are much bigger issues in the world...don't worry over this.

Answer 8

hey i know how u feel sometimes my mother in law says stupid things to me too and makes faces at me, but oh well what can we do, just ignore her, dont make it obvious about how u really feel just, ignore her or laugh about it believe me it will kill her inside if u make it seem like u dont care, and trust me she will stop. dont listen to these other people. well take care post an update to see how it went ok, take care bye! :o)

Answer 9

why do you care??? just simply ignore her... and i for one would not hold back if she was rude to me... if she said to me what she said to you about the hair length, this is what i would have said.... oh yea?? can i borrow your glassed cause i sure don't see that!!!
MIL's can suck sometimes....

Answer 10

why does this bother you? all she did was make a comment about hair length. i don't see it as mean at all.