He still has strong feelings. Plus I am already involved with someone (although its a one-sided relationship) who I am serious about. I simply don't want an ex to spoil things in my life, nor, do I want to raise his hopes or get tempted. What shd I say to make him see reason??? He says we share a friendship and we should always be friends given how much we like talking and sharing. Yes, we share a great "talk" chemistry, but, I am sure it is clearly inappropriate given the circumstances. Why can't he understand I am uncomfortable?
2007-11-08 03:03:18 · 11 answers · asked by ? 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
it's over I don't want to be friends my new partner doesn't approve and well nor do I Frankly i wish you will lose my number. infact this will be my last nice attempt if you contact me again i will have to get the law involved I don't have time to deal with this crap!
plus i don't want to be put in a sistuation where we would get back together
it didn't work out the first time there is no 2nd change!
well that's what i would do!
i do think people can be friend but not hang out friends!
oh my i ran into my ex at a store i was nice and we talked for a moment but we are not going out to spend quality time together that is for my partner!
you could be sending mix signles by talking with him! you have to put your foot down sweetie!
2007-11-08 03:12:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have children in common you are stuck with them but if you dont you need to cut the strings cleanly. This "lets be friends" never works out and one or the other always has different ideas about what this means. This just keeps people from moving on with their lives. Just like pulling off a bandaid its best to end relationships swiftly and cleanly.
2007-11-08 11:13:17 · answer #2 · answered by Diane M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a very touchy one, but the best way to end it is to say the truth. Tell him that you cant go on seeing him forever and that all tha you had was good, but its done.
And that you "will keep in touch"! if you do talk, talk on the phone and no more than jib jab (obvioulsy its not fair for the new guy!)
2007-11-08 11:11:32 · answer #3 · answered by Omar C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've told him you don't want to be friends and you don't want to talk to him so, when he calls, don't answer the phone, if you see him, be polite & say hi but keep walking, and if he follows you trying to talk to you just remind him and act like he's not even there. Sometimes you have to be hard on people to make them realize.
2007-11-08 11:16:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Agree to be his friend, but inform him that it has to be from a distance until your friendship becomes totally platonic. That should at least satisfy his fear of being totally "cut-off", and from there, you just become unavailable to hang out with him.
2007-11-08 11:14:04 · answer #5 · answered by creativecontroller 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't say anything - you just stop communicating with him. So stop interacting with him. If you have children together - then only speak to him about matters involving the children. Nothing more, nothing less.
2007-11-08 11:10:55 · answer #6 · answered by mJc 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
if u are un comfortable jus say i want to be friends for now i am not comfortable being bf gf wit sum one i knew for ever i hope u under stand
2007-11-08 11:18:03 · answer #7 · answered by ~*M!55!N YU B4BY~* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him better luck next life,if u r free lol
2007-11-09 02:05:53 · answer #8 · answered by EYES ON U 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just quit talking to him.
2007-11-08 13:31:02 · answer #9 · answered by Springer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
youre going to just have to ignore him. He wont understand because he still wants to be with you.
2007-11-08 11:12:03 · answer #10 · answered by Mary L 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋