my hubby always wakes me up on his way out in the morning?

Question

i hate mornings as it is but my hubby insists on banging about n switching the light o when he gets ready 4 work i go to work at weekends an i darnt turn the light on or make a sound to wake him or he gets all arsey with me why can women be quiet in these situations but men cant

it makes me angry but he always gives me a kiss b4 he goes so i dont hold it against him but he does get miffed if i wake him

sorry if i ofended men by saying what i have i guess it goes both ways

Answer 1

get a new one ... you should have known that before you got married ...

Answer 2

He's not inconsiderate. I can't get dressed in the dark and I don't know how anybody can. You married him, you live with him. I work late nights and my wife works days. When I come home she is asleep. I turn the light on, get undressed, brush my teeth, and do whatever else I need to do before getting in bed. I am not very quiet about it, but she usually doesn't wake up, but whenever I do accidentally wake her up, she kisses me and asks me how work was. On the other end, she doesn't have her own car so when it's time for her to go to work, I have to wake up and drive her, and I don't complain even though I don't get much sleep. I can always go back to sleep when she is at work and you can too. I love my wife and she loves me, I guess that is the difference.

Answer 3

Because he's being a big baby and jealous that you're in bed and he's gotta get up for work, although you, too, work. My husband never did this to me, he was always considerate of my sleep and also of our 2 daughter's. I didn't know people did this to each other until my brother mentioned that my sister in law did this to him. Before I continue, I love my sister in law dearly and think she's a terrific person, but we all have our faults! Now, both of them have always worked but at the time my brother was recovering from a very serious surgery/illness. Well, I guess when it went on longer than she expected, that's how she retaliated. He told me that she had always been like that, even when he was working, if she had to get up earlier then him she would slam drawers and stomp around, turning lights on, etc. He said he didn't understand it because he would go out of his way not to disturb her sleep, when the situation was reversed. So, that''s the only reason I can come up with. Immature jealousy..tell him to grow up and knock it off!

Answer 4

B u l l s h i t, lady. That's not a women thing, but a consideration thing. I used to leave the house without making a sound, mostly because I set things out the night before. It was the women-folk who sounded like runaway freight trains all throughout the house...back, forth, then back again in a disorganized frenzy of chaotic movement. Cabinets slamming, squawks about lost keys, lights left on...WTF? I agree with you about its being annoying, but we part company at the gender point. Anyone of either sex utilizing only half a brain can be a qualified goofball.

Answer 5

Girl, please, it is just one more thing that husband's do that get on our nerves. I mean, my husband does the same thing and if it's not banging about in the morning, then he's waking me up for sex. I'm not a morning person and I'm definitely not an AM lover, so it's all bad either way. It's just another difference between the two of you and I'm sure there are things you do that make him cringe. Good with the bad, honey, ...for better or worse!

Food for thought: he loves you... and at least he has a job in this miserable market!

Answer 6

It's the exact opposite at my house. I don't turn a single light on when I get up in the morning. I shower, shave, eat and dress in the dark all while being quite while my wife sleeps for another hour. When my wife gets up, she could wake the dead with all the noise she makes and all the lights she turns on.

Answer 7

oh come on where is the love these days? stop doing your men down. Talk to him not us, ask him to be a bit quieter but at least you get the tenderness of a kiss before he goes. Try good old fashioned compromise it goes a long way!

Answer 8

My hubby does the SAME thing. I honestly thinks he wants me to get up with him and talk to him, which i usually do, because he woke me up. I have asked him on numerous occasions not to do it or I would start doing it to him. He is getting better about not waking me up because I did start turning the light on on him, and when he fussed i said "how's it feel?". He is pretty quiet now, on occasion he will make some extra noise and I just take it as a hint that he misses me and wants to talk.

Answer 9

i would give my wife a kiss every morning before i leave. though i am quiet and do not turn on lights or make noise i respect her. i go to work at 2 or 3 am.

Answer 10

My guy is the same....in reverse. i usually get into bed first, and fall asleep. He barges in, puts the light on, the radio on, sits on the edge of the bed to unlace his shoes, so the mattress is bouncing up and down, talks to me, blows his nose, flushes the loo, brushes his teeth and sings while I seethe. Then he gets into bed and falls happily asleep....while I lie there thinking murderous thoughts!!

Answer 11

You need to talk to him about it. If you don't have to be up when he's up, then he should be going out of his way to wake you up. My husband and I are on different shifts. When he is sleeping, it is *understood* that he is not woken up. Likewise, when I'm sleeping, he goes out of his way to be quiet and not disturb me. You definitely need to talk to him calmly but firmly and set some ground rules. He needs to change his behavior.