Divorcing your spouses is it biblical?

Question

I don't really remember the scripture about divorcing but Jesus did say you can under certain reasons. So my question is if you commit adultery, you can divorce your spouse (the one who cheated). But now it doesn't say only by physcial touch, so even looking at another/lusting after them you can put them away. Do you agree?

not to mention when your spouse dies you can also remarry

Answer 1

Not biblical. Moses allowed it because people were weak but Jesus said "it should not be so."

God intended for the union to be indissoluable.

When a spouse cheats or is abusive, couples may separate legally to protect themselves and any children. Sin does not suddenly cause your spouse to be no longer your husband or wife.

What if we treated our children this way? They sinned and we cut them off and said "you are not my child anymore."

Answer 2

Dr. Tony Evans wrote a great little book about Biblical grounds for divorce. I can't remember the exact title, but you should be able to find it any good Christian bookstore or online.

You will get a variety of answers on this, because certain denominations still treat is as sort of an unpardonable sin regardless of the circumstances.

Even in Baptist churches and other denominations that "forgive" it, there can still be this stigma because it involves a life status change that can't really be reversed (unless I suppose you reconciled and remarried the person) and is very public and "out there". People can kind of keep their other sins private and hidden--so this one is one of the biggies that others tend to be judgmental about.

I personally wouldn't have peace about seeking a divorce from a spouse who just lusted after someone but didn't act on it. I don't know of too many pastors or Christian counselors who would recommend that either. BUT, if you are talking about addiction to pornography or something like that to the point of it ruining your relationship, I think that might be a different matter.

As to your original question, though it is never God's ideal, Scriptures clearly show that it is directly permitted in cases of:
*adultery
*abandonment (especially if one spouse is a Christian and the other isn't

Dr. Evans also makes the case for Scriptural divorce if one party is "spiritually dead"---fallen into sin so severely that they are no longer the person you married/covenanted with. He equates this to remarrying after death. I'm sure some would disagree with this interpretation, but it was pretty powerful to me. Otherwise, there is really no provision for divorce of someone abusive, addicted, etc. and I don't believe God would demand that His children stay in a situation like that and risk injury or death.

If this is a serious question and not just hypothetical, I highly recommend that you seek out a pastor, minister, or Christian counselor to get clarification and wisdom on this.

Answer 3

That is a never ending question with a never ending answer. You will never get an answer that is correct. Everyone who even thinks like this has always had a Biblically justified divorce. It does not matter if the person divorced over hair color or adultery...it is always justified. What you must ask yourself is "will this happen to me too?". When in doubt, Don't. If you have no doubts then you will not even think about this question. Wish you the best. .... and don't ask us ask God. He knows.

Answer 4

Christ never condoned divorce for adultery. He was referring to a situation in the Old Testament where a man married a woman and before they came together he found that she was not a virgin, he could annul the marriage. Their dating and engagement period were different than they are today and so it really doesn't apply today.

Deuteronomy 24:1 "When a man takes a wife and marries her, and it happens that she finds no favour in his eyes because he has found some indecency in her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce and puts it in her hand and sends her out from his house..."

Answer 5

The Catholic Church teaches that there is no such thing as a DIVORCE. The only time a Catholic can remarry is if their supposed marriage is deemed invalid, thus showing that their never was a marriage in the first place. This is called a decree of nullity, or an "annulment". But, if their first marriage IS valid, they can never remarry again. (Of course many do, but they are then denied communion and the sacraments, because they are now living in sin with someone who is not their spouse.)
But most non-Catholic Christians do not observe these scriptures properly, as they do with so many other scriptures.

Answer 6

Well the Bible also says that you take an oath before God that you will be together until one of you dies so if you look at that aspect then you can't marry someone until your husband or wife dies. Personally I think that divorce is wrong unless the wife is being beaten by her husband.

Answer 7

Jesus did say the only valid reason for divorce was unfaithfulness but forgiveness is still the better choice.

Answer 8

If you were worried about living by the bible there would be alot of things you would do. I am a strong believer that the first person you marry may not be the one you are intended to be with. You do not take the bible to text. it is not a handbook it is a suggestion on how to live life rightously. So you can divorce whom you want for whatever reason. It is just looked down upon if it's a crappy reason like starring down a hot guy/chick.

Answer 9

In the O.T the law said it was ok to divorce...if they did some of the things you mention... there was alot of divorces...Jesus said that it was not ok to divorce...

Answer 10

nope it is not

Moses allowed it but it was against Gods law

Jesus said

Matthew 5:32
But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.

might be careful making Gods word to fit the sin you want to commit